This past Saturday I went on my second ever okcupid date, after talking online for a week. We met up at a pho place pretty near where we both live. We had a lot of stuff in common and mutual interests and things were going well. It turned out we actually went to the same small college together for a short time, and knew a couple people in common. After dinner, she asked if I wanted to grab a beer at a place down the street, which I gladly said yes to. We got a couple beers, talked some more, listened to the jazz band that was playing. Definitely having a fun time. Then we left and she had a cigarette outside (didn't realize she smoked until this point, but doesn't matter much to me). She asked if I wanted to come back to her place which was a few blocks away to listen to some music she had been telling me about, and I said definitely. We got in my car and drove over, and we listened to some music on her record player and played this weird chess game that she was into for an hour or two. Her roommate got home and she asked if I wanted to go up to her room to "watch a movie" that she had been telling me about. I should mention at this point that neither of us had listed on our profiles that we were looking for casual sex or anything like that - the date was just going well and we were both going with the flow. So we went upstairs and so on and so forth. I left in the morning, and didn't talk to her at all on Sunday, then texted her on Monday afternoon asking how a band was that she saw on Sunday evening. She replied "It was good. Hey, I think you're a cool guy but I realized after Saturday night that I am so not in a good place to date right now. Thanks for hanging out!", to which I replied "That's cool, thanks for being straightforward about it. I had a good time either way!" Her OKC profile was deactivated shortly thereafter. I have no idea how to feel about it. We both definitely had a good time, and if she genuinely just realized that she's not in a good place to date, that's obviously totally cool. But her text was completely unexpected considering how well the date went, so I have no idea if I said or did something stupid. I also realize that I shouldn't give a shit so much about a first date, but it was the first time in the year since my last relationship ended that I had a good date and made a connection with someone, so it just feels kinda shitty :(
Yeah, I saw that. If it helps, it's probably more of an issue with her and what she chose to do, not you really. Was she drinking? She may have gotten overconfident on her alcohol. At any rate, yeah - it is bummy and annoying. Unfortunately, it can be hard to figure out what you are ready for in the dating world until you experience things and realize, whatever you are ready for, it's not that.
All of what the fugee is saying makes complete sense from a female perspective. I wouldn't have even considered the possibility that she doesn't want to see you again just because she slept with you. Anyway, that shouldn't really matter to you. If you really liked the date and want to see her again then I would try to communicate that because it would be doing yourself a disservice if you didn't. If you want it, you gotta keep going for it. Maybe say something like "Hey. Just thought I'd let you know that I really enjoyed your company and would be down with hanging out again if you're ever feeling bored." Just a thought.
Yeah? I'm glad you said that because I definitely would like to ask her to get together again. I guess I'm just having reservations because I don't wanna come off as creepy or pushy since we barely know each other. But your message doesn't seem pushy. I think maybe I'll wait till next week and then send something like that. I appreciate the advice!
1) Benelli settlement is nearing an end. On the plus side, they're buying parts. On the minus side, they missed two expensive ones. On the plus side, they're coming back out again. On the minus side, the guy who hit me apparently told the insurance company "yeah, he was weaving in and out of traffic and we have a police report that proves he was at fault because it was a hit and run" (I'm the one that called 911 on him!) On the plus side, I schlepped my ass down to the highway patrol to get a copy of the police report which says "Driver (1) was illegally in the carpool lane without a passenger when he executed an illegal lane change across a double yellow line to attempt to cross four lanes of traffic to make an exit onto the I-10." Which is not quite the same as utter and total vindication... oh wait. Yes it is. 2) Told a buddy I'd help him sync up some audition videos for his daughter's college music program. Turns out it's a buddy of a buddy and it's actually a total mix. And there are five of them. And they wanted them in 24 hours. Even though shit's not due until the 1st. And when they failed to upload one of the videos, it was my fault. And when I said I didn't want to wait for them to drive an hour and a half with a drive because they were incapable of uploading a 5GB file at 10:30 at night I got yelled at. Uploaded the last video an hour ago but jesus fucking christ. No good deed goes unpunished. He's now mad at me for telling him not to volunteer my time after 10pm on a mutherfucking Tuesday. 3) It was so dry day before yesterday that I put a gallon of water into the carpet with the rug doctor and extracted three tablespoons. I did increase the humidity indoors from 17% to 40%, though. PHYSICS 4) Someone at the grocery store said I looked like Clay Matthews. Clay Matthews could twist me into a kleinbl00-shaped pretzel. I need to work out more.
That's some straight bullshit right there.2) Told a buddy I'd help him sync up some audition videos for his daughter's college music program. Turns out it's a buddy of a buddy and it's actually a total mix. And there are five of them. And they wanted them in 24 hours. Even though shit's not due until the 1st. And when they failed to upload one of the videos, it was my fault. And when I said I didn't want to wait for them to drive an hour and a half with a drive because they were incapable of uploading a 5GB file at 10:30 at night I got yelled at. Uploaded the last video an hour ago but jesus fucking christ. No good deed goes unpunished. He's now mad at me for telling him not to volunteer my time after 10pm on a mutherfucking Tuesday.
I'm going to go with "not well enough to convince me to ever do it again".
Youngest kids' 1st birthday(s) yesterday, next Tuesday will be my oldest's 4th. All these warm and fuzzy feelings are... expensive. Included: obligatory birthday photo. I've kept it as a link because I know not everybody here appreciates kid pictures shoved in their faces. http://imgur.com/O1Qpy34 No right to feel old, but I do. Some consolation in the fact that I look better now than I did at 24. If my dad is anything to go by, I've got about five more good years left in me and then I'll look like a goblin for the rest of my life. No offense, dad
The kids are golden! Someday, I want to have kids too. 3 or 4. My travels last summer made that clear to me. I happened to visit many friends who just had their first child and I got to see and feel what is going on there, it's awesome! I just turned 25 and today I though "that is the best you looked since you were a kid". If I go by my father, in around 5 years I will fuck up my jaw, then inflame my eye and turn into madeye-moody
9 odd months of work culminated in a weekend of countercultural insanity, DJing, lectures and a theatrical mayhem. This is what some of it looked like [NSFW]. It's still culminating, although it's changed venues.
I'm not quite sure what's happening in that album but it looks like an amazing time. Do you DJ?!
No, not I. The album is mainly the four hour theatrical production about Robert Anton Wilson which I helped create. The rest of the weekend was rich with DJs and live bands though.
I dropped by phone last night and it killed it. It was probably my 5s's 20th fall without a case, and it only fell about 1ft, but it was on the unforgiving cement floor of my basement. At any rate, the Pub opened late because I was at the AT&T store getting a new phone. I got the iPhone 6. My first impressions are not good. It is too wide to comfortably hold in one hand, and it feels cheap. The case is metal, but it feels like plastic. The protruding camera lens looks janky, and the button seems oddly centered low, as it is centered on the black space under the screen, rather than in the flat area between the screen and the bevel. Of course, every phone these days is almost a magical obelisk, but Apple is losing their way with this phone, IMO. You can either design for the consumer, or you can design a product that consumers will like. Both are successful strategies, but they are very different, and you should not conflate them. Apple is conflating them. It looks like I bought a Samsung. I expect that Apple will slide down the path they went down the first time they lost Jobs.
I got one too ... I think I'm also a "weird user." I don't need any of the 64 gigs, don't really need the camera, actually don't need the phone at all. Wasn't my choice. The point is, I've had it for about six weeks and it still kinda sucks to hold because it's so damn big, and I can't figure out how to get it to sync to itunes (have read four hours worth of bug fixes; no luck ... this never happens to me, I'm very frustrated) or any other damn thing. Might might be a cable problem, but the cable is brand new! Fuck this thing. Anyway. I will say that you are going to LOVE the battery life and begin to wonder how you could have ever gone without it. Mine is 250% better. And the screen size is a nice bonus which goes a little of the way toward making up for how terribly it fits in your hand. I'm caseless right now which has me a little worried. Oh also I'm finding the thumbprint unlock mechanism insanely helpful, when initially I dismissed it as frippery.
Me too. I hate cases, but my wife is right when she says that its size means I am going to drop it more. I like the thumbprint too. But, it's lame that it is so wide that I can't easily hold it in one hand and press the button with my thumb.I'm caseless right now which has me a little worried.
You may not be using the "pinky bridge" iphone holding technique. I recommend it; more stability, more horizontal reach. And you don't sacrifice as much vertically as you might think (top right corner window closing, for instance) because you can double tap the home button, just tap not press, and shrink the screen. A feature I'm still getting used to.
So after a few weeks, I have to say that it still feels too big. Maybe I wouldn't want to go back to the 5s size, but something in the middle. The battery life and thumbprint unlock are great. But the phone is poorly designed. It would be so much easier to hold if the sides were flat. Also the buttons and the vibrate toggle have slop in them. No iPhone I used before did. Not a Steve Jobs product.
I know a place that sells iphone cases, I'm not sure if they have them for the 6 yet?
Damn, that's sexy. Thank you, but I am going to hold off atm. Our plan is great on data as we had the original unlimited, but shitty on text. I get away with mostly iMessaging. There is (was?) an iMessage app for Android, but it meant giving your Apple ID credentials. I'm going to have to see if we can upgrade our text without killing our grandfathered data plan.
Not gonna lie. The lack of iMessage is a drag. The fact that you need to kill iMessage for six weeks before switching if you want MMS from Apple users to work is a bigger drag. I went from about four different Windows Mobile devices to an iPhone 3G to an iPhone 4S but the iPhone 6 broke my head. It's huge and expensive. I was planning on switching from AT&T to T-Mobile so the day the 6 came out I realized "fuck it, we're all Phablets now" and priced out a fully loaded 6 on T-Mobile. They wanted $59 a month. Then I got home and Nissan was offering me a Versa for $79 a month. Granted - the Versa was with a $2000 downpayment and it was a lease... but after two years, a 2-year-leased Versa and an iPhone 6 were both gonna be worthless. And I couldn't quite reconcile "car" and "phone" being in the same ballpark financially. It took me about a week to go Android, particularly as the OnePlus is like $350. There are definitely things I miss... but like you, the 6 (and the watch) were an "apple has lost its way" moment for me. BTW - switch plans. I get a 20% discount on AT&T just for being Union and I'm still saving $90 a month with T-Mobile.
What made you switch to the iPhone? Do you think you're going to keep it? I had an iPhone 4s as my first smartphone, once I switched to Android I never looked back. I can't imagine losing all of the functionality and customization I've come to expect from a smartphone.
I've had iPhones since the 3s. I am not a Mac user, but when it comes to my phone, I don't like to fiddle around. I just want it to do the few things I ask of it, and do them well. I am a weird user. I don't even listen to music on my phone. For most of this time, the iPhone was winning out when it came to that. I've played with various Androids along the way, but they always seemed jankier and less intuitive. Also, I always appreciated the slimmer size. However, with this phone, it's not so clear that I am getting as much as I am giving up. The salesperson asked if I wanted to do their auto-upgrade plan, and I told her that I didn't because I wasn't sure that I wouldn't be moving over to Android. It's funny, the iPhone has a level app, but the protruding lens makes it impossible to level the phone unless you hang it off of an edge. I am almost certain that they tested a black version, but concluded that it was indistinguishable from a number of Androids. I'll keep it. It's not terrible, it's just not as good as the previous ones.
2nd bananabread in the oven (very high in the "easy-to-make/delicious" scala) and just got my hookah with lemon blueberry going... And now probably some HPMOR, because I am hooked :D I will spare you my weekly whining about my PhD Edit: I forget to finish sentences sometimes >< Fuck it, need to blow off some steam... I am spiralling down again. Right when I decided I don't want to stay at this place and want to join a graduate school, the applications to 80% of the graduate schools that interest me closed for fall 2015. My next chance would be next year for fall 2016. Those are TWO FUCKING YEARS. What have I done? By taking this not as serious as I should have, I have probably fucked up my career and lost another 2 years. :(
Music-y talent show thing at school today, where my band performed Level by the Raconteurs!!! It was wicked! First time ever performing with the band, the setup was shit and the sound was shit and all the organizing of the show was shit but when we got up to play it was fucking awesome and we raged and the audience lost their shit and we got an ovation off the stage, last band of the day. DOPE. And then I step out of the auditorium to get my bags, and I see it snowing– I mean storming in heaps of beautiful snow and it was just perfect. Waiting for my homies to hit up my local diner and get smashed on hot chocolate and burgers. Enjoy your turkey day hubsquad! (potential vid incoming!)
I've been quite productive. As some of you may have seen on Twitter, I'm working on a visualization of NYC's Citibike data for one of my assignments. After much trial and error, I made a little test video of just one day of data. I think it looks pretty interesting already! For those unfamiliar, Citibike is a bike sharing program with stations mostly in Manhattan and Brooklyn.
Due to various different conflicts of obligations, I'm home for thanksgiving with two of my younger brothers, while my parents trek into the frozen north with the baby of the family and a cousin who lives up that way. I have a turkey thawing in the bathtub, a stack of recipes and a small hillock of groceries that needs to be turned into a feast at some point tomorrow. I'm a good cook, but I'm a tiny bit nervous about making my first thanksgiving dinner. Lots of things that need to go in and out of different levels of heat for different periods and all that, but I think I have my timing down so that I be able to get everything done, at about the same time, in approximately four hours. On a slightly more sour note, last night was not fun. Lots of rereading old messages, rethinking old thoughts, examining some mental scars. I have to remind myself to be as gentle with myself as I would an unwell friend, because I am capable of doing some really brutal things to myself, psychologically speaking. But tonight is the biggest bar night of the year, and I have some old friends to knock one back with. Also, for once the bar that I want to go to is within walking distance of my house, so I'm free to drink as I please. Which will still probably not be a lot. I've come to the conclusion that while I enjoy beer, some liquor, I don't particularly enjoy being capital D Drunk. Just feeling warm is nice, tipsy is nice, drunk, not so much. Regarding alcohol, be careful everybody. Sadly, a lot of people are going to die tonight because of bad decisions, either their own, or other peoples. I'd prefer it not be anyone I know.
Signed up to play an open mic two weekends from now! Gonna be terrifying. Outside of that, just got home home and am waiting til later when I can catch up with some old friends from high school and some new friends in the area that I've met through others.
I'm sick, which really sucks because I don't have a lot of energy. I want to be really enthusiastic about cooking tomorrow, but it's hard to be. I have to get my turkey brining tonight, any suggestions?