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ButterflyEffect  ·  5 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski:January 25, 2023

any favorite movies from what you've been watching?

ButterflyEffect  ·  5 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski:January 25, 2023

what's going on [not marvin gaye]

- things with me and girl are effectively in a detente, haven't seen her since the 15th, got a message from her for the first time in a few days last night, pretty removed/not very personal message. it's clear she's put me on the backburner while she dates around, even if she hasn't necessarily stated that. she has stated i'm someone she still wants to date/see/talk to occasionally, so for me, balls in her court. i still really like her, i know what i want with her, but it ain't gonna happen right now, and im not going to put my life on hold.

- SO i am, uhhhhhh, definitely not taking advantage of the fact that i'm an attractive, desirable person by going on two dates last week (no 2nd date with either, for different reasons), and going on a date tomorrow and saturday night, and planning dates with 3 other people...

- canmore next weekend through the weekend after that. i'm getting really nervous for that trip! panic buying gloves in case it's cold as shit.

ButterflyEffect  ·  5 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The not-quite-redemption of South Africa's infamous ultra-marathon cheats

Ahhh it is about the Comrades, what a famous race, it's one I would love to run at some point in my life. South Africa has a long, storied history of running both in country, in continent, and across the water to places like the UK and US.

What a great read. WanderingEng and wasoxygen, y'all might enjoy this too.

ButterflyEffect  ·  13 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 515th Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately"

Been revisiting Childish Gambino recently, sounds like Donald Glover hasn't retired that moniker!

Still such an incredible song.

ButterflyEffect  ·  13 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 18, 2023

meh 4/10

ButterflyEffect  ·  18 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Unexpected Heaviosity of Ferris Bueller’s Day Off

I don't really have any thing constructive to add to this comment other than it's awesome, and now I want to rework my way through basically all of these movies.

    Go watch Breakfast Club and compare it to St. Elmo's Fire. Pretty in Pink? Yeah, problematic from this point 30 years in the future but I mean, the man made Home Alone. Breakfast Club allowed him to make Ferris Bueller, Ferris Bueller allowed him to make Some Kind of Wonderful, and nobody saw Some Kind of Wonderful so from that point forth it was all Beethoven and Flubber.
ButterflyEffect  ·  20 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 11, 2023

Another recent example that seems healthy is we spent time together a few nights ago, hit around 10pm, asked what her thoughts were on spending the night together vs. apart. She stated she felt it would be good for her to have alone time, and asked how I felt about that because she was worried I would be disappointed. My response was that I was happy she was telling me her wants and needs, and that I had no expectation or spending the night but wanted to ask as it was getting late, no disappointment, etc.

ButterflyEffect  ·  20 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 11, 2023

goddammit that is wildly accurate and reflects the current situation. It's more like 75% more time.

ButterflyEffect  ·  20 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 11, 2023

    Guys, it's not a big deal.

Incorrect.

ButterflyEffect  ·  20 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 11, 2023

It's even harder when the other person really isn't sure what she wants. Prime example, the other night, she's talking about how she's "not even truly sure if that's what she wants" in reference to dating other people, and how "she doesn't even have time for that, how she likes me, knows she likes me, loves spending time with me"., etc.

Other examples include her asking me what communication I want, and feel like I should get, if/when she goes on other dates. My response? The only two things I need are (a) to know when you're going on a date involving the climbing gym we both go to so that I know what space to give her if that happens and (b) if she meets someone who she would rather spend more time with than me. That's it, the rest is as little/as much as she wants to share. Which surprised her, in a good way. She keeps making these stories in her head about all this.

ButterflyEffect  ·  20 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 11, 2023

weekly girl update

unclear if I’ll end up being wrong on if this will work out or not - I have learned, or had an epiphany over the last week, that what she wants even if she hasn’t said it explicitly is for me to tell her what I want, to take charge and plan actual dates and outdoors stuff for us, and that these are things she’s found attractive. I’ve shied away from that recently due to the dynamic of friends/lovers/etc…but so far this week, positive reception and results to the changes I’ve made in approach 🤷🏻‍♂️

spent Saturday night together, Sunday morning had sex again (yay), and spent Sunday night together. Maybe spending tonight together. Funny part is, she did go on a dinner date with someone else on Friday. Came back to me…

ButterflyEffect  ·  26 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 4, 2023

On the plus side I’ve booked some therapy consultations coming out of all of this.

ButterflyEffect  ·  26 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 4, 2023

I'm pretty tempted to badge this but I'm also feeling pretty petty today.

ButterflyEffect  ·  27 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 4, 2023

update: this is almost certainly not going to work out

ButterflyEffect  ·  27 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 4, 2023

haha I literally said to my climbing partner last night “eat good, sleep good, climb good”. It makes a difference! I can get away with minimal sleep for a season (see: summer), but it will catch up to me (see: mid to late November).

Congrats on the lifetime goal achievements, that’s incredible!

ButterflyEffect  ·  27 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 4, 2023

i owe kleinbl00 and a few others many beers

still doing the thing with the girl - we've definitely scaled things back this week - she went on a "date" with someone else two days ago, and we're going on a date tonight

unrelated, ever since taking 2.5 weeks off from climbing I have been absolutely crushing it and broke through a plateau in that realm!