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elizabeth  ·  3 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Norm

Damn, his breaking down into tears at the end is hard to watch :(

elizabeth  ·  16 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: September 1, 2021

My work-contract is getting renegotiated in about 3 weeks. I've been preparing a little, by writing down what I would like to get, with my negotiable vs non-negotiable demands. I've also made a little list of things accomplished vs things I'd like to develop/improve in the near future.

It's a little nerve-wracking because the hiring process was a bitch, and they made me wait crazy long before giving an answer. I don't want to be working in limbo past my contract until we agree to the new terms. I also want to be paid 25$/hour (vs my current 20$) - the salary I've asked for initially 6 months ago. I don't really want to leave for money affairs, since I actually don't really need the money. But I feel it's a question of respect and self worth. My side-gig literally doubled my salary to 50$/hour when I told them I was leaving. I know I do good work and it will be hard to find someone as competent and committed as I am. But it's also the only job I feel like doing at the moment, and 20$ is better than 0$. I think they know that, so I'm scared we'll end up in an ultimatum-type stuck negotiation situation.

But time will tell! My cousin works in HR and has agreed to help me position myself the right way, and be proactive in my contract re-signing, and giving me ideas of "benefits" I could ask for to soften the blow. I guess I can agree to be paid less in exchange for a shitton of vacation time...

elizabeth  ·  29 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to confront someone for potato theft?

Update on the situation:

Sent out an email, asking for availabilities to meet. She answers right away, asking what the meeting was about. When I stroll I to work around 1:30 pm, she asks if we can have that meeting as soon as possible. She’s having what looks like the start of an anxiety attack and says she already knows what it’s going to be about.

So we pawn off the new members tour that was about to start in 10 minutes to a veteran member that happened to be there and meet in the office. She basically breaks down crying, saying she has an appointment at the hospital tomorrow for psychiatric help with alcoholism, knows she fucked up and hopes not to be admitted to an in patient therapy . She had already left a hidden envelope with 40$ with the beer downstairs out of shame, and was working up the courage to confess what had happened to us. So…

It went better than I expected basically. She’s getting help, we’re gonna be better at locking drinks away post-party, and I feel like my biggest worry where she would deny and turn against us has been avoided. She seemed relieved to be able to confess, and grateful we did it in a private and respectful manner. I hope she gets the help she needs :)

I feel that the point was also made that we have cameras and that we don’t let these things slide. If we see any such behavior again, for sure there will be repercussions. But as of right now, that warning as well a seeing how she had already taken many steps to remedy the situation - we’re going to let things be.

Maybe the proper attitude would have been repercussions and consequences right away, but only time will tell if this was the right approach.

elizabeth  ·  32 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to confront someone for potato theft?

We were making poutine as part of our event - many potatoes leftover! We're also a makerspace with 9 different diciplines, so finding weird stuff around is commonplace. I totally get the "stealing from big corporations" mentality, but we're a non-profit that's only just getting off the ground. And the person in question is a new entrepreneur. I guess different people see the line at different places, because i'm convinced she would not have stolen from an individual. But stealing from the makerspace, is just stealing from the other 100 members - some of them struggling artists and entrepreneurs just like her... But maybe at some point the link is too far removed to notice? Or drunken selfishness wins over?

elizabeth  ·  33 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to confront someone for potato theft?

Yeah, that's the touchy part. The actual footage is not of very good quality. And there could be extenuating circumstances, where they might have thought they paid, or paid earlier. We found the beer undrank and unopened in the yard in the morning - it was the clue that led us to checking the video footage actually. The part where she puts her hand in the tip jar is really far away and you can't really tell what happens - just that she's taking instead of depositing something, and then puts something in her pocket. And banning a person for taking 2 potatoes ... eh (that we're actually gonna give away on Monday since we have many leftover and they would go to waste otherwise).

It's genuinely small potatoes, I'm not advocating for any repercussions yet . But just get the message across that we're onto her, and that this behaviour is not accepted at the space. If only because it's breaking the trust we have, it's a bad example to set to other members and it's unfair. No one is above the rules.

We're threading lightly, since an accusation is not retractable. But a common strategy of petty thiefs is also gaslighting... And tolerating shitty behaviours from people that "contribute" a lot in other ways, or have a certain status is what creates a toxic kind of community.

elizabeth  ·  52 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 28, 2021

Acutely aware today of how unpleasant and incompetent I can be, when I lack a few hours of sleep. Had a horrible nightmare, where I was shopping at the supermarket and didn’t plan ahead so I didn’t take a basket at the entrance. I had my hands full and the tomatoes fell and scattered around me. I felt like an idiot. And have had a crappy day ever since I woke up.

I think it’s partly a stress dream due to a lot of things happening at work, while we’re all (like the 3 employees of the makerspace) leaving to a festival for 4 days tomorrow afternoon. The problem is that I could not possible advance the work anyway, since with events it mostly hinges on other people and volunteers. Plus I still need to shop, pack and wrap up my other 2 work project things. I really hope I can power through this tonight and get up well sleep and ready to rumble tomorrow.

elizabeth  ·  52 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 28, 2021

Is the job fun? Something that you see yourself doing in the future?

elizabeth  ·  55 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 21, 2021

Got free tickets to a small festival next week, as a helper to build a little effigy there. I’ve actually never been to a festival before, only burns so I’m trying not to set my expectations too high. I have no interest in dancing in front of a sound system so I’m glad we have a project to keep busy. And I feel like I know many people going. Curious to see how it will go and if I’ll enjoy it.

Things are really ramping up at work too, with many events planned for end of summer and fall. It’s going to get hectic soon, but it’s also very exciting! Less admin, more party planning! My challenge will be to stay on top of things with so many things going on at the same time and not to drop the ball on something important.

elizabeth  ·  62 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 14, 2021

Sounds like a better trip to do once the borders and bars open up, I think we’ve settled on finding a better time... but I’ll keep the suggestions in mind! Maybe go in the fall.

elizabeth  ·  64 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 14, 2021

Turned 27 on Tuesday. Had a few people over for a small BBQ and it was a good time. I have this strange reflex where I want to mark the passage of time, by travelling somewhere. I find myself thinking if I don't go anywhere this summer, it will be a wasted summer. Even if I'm enjoying and accomplishing stuff at work. Having fun little get togethers with friends. It's like without "big events" or "trips" time slips through my fingers. Because it can't be "the summer I went on a roadtrip to X"

I wanted to go to the Atlantic provinces, because i've only ever been to Prince Edward Island as a 6 or 7 year old once. But then my boyfriend seems not super excited at the idea - and is still willing to do it for my sake. So now i'm starting to doubt and thinking maybe it's more of a fun trip to do with a group of friends. And researching, it seems expensive and a lot of driving, to get to someplace similar to Maine. What I TRULY wanted from that trip is get to St Johns in Newfoundland and just pure remote places out there, but it's not realistic in the timeframe we have. it's like i'm trying to decide between no trip or a lukewarm trip. Both sucky options, because what I really want is an adventure. Something I've been missing so much with Covid - pure exploration. I could probably scratch that itch with some outdoorsy stuff, but my boyfriend's not the partner for that and the planning required to get started without guidance seems overwhelming.

If anyone on here has ever been to PEI, New Brunswick or Nova Scotia, i'm all ears :) Because right now google is showing me a lighthouse and a giant Lobster statue as top attractions, and i'm starting to loose my enthusiasm.

elizabeth  ·  64 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Inspired, I wrote a new song based on a TikTok creator


elizabeth  ·  64 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 14, 2021

Is drinking in a canoe not legal some places? asking for a friend.

elizabeth  ·  72 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 7, 2021

2nd dose tomorrow yayyyy!

Things are slowly unfurling and summer is starting to feel a little more "like before" again.

Work is good, but my weird relationship with my boss will need some untangling i feel like. The work part i'm happy with - i'm just a little more worried about the friendship part that has been on... standby? since we started working together. I've recently learned he is separating with his long time girlfriend - a decision she told me about that they took a month ago. Something he has not mentioned to me at all. And i'm a little disappointed because it's the kind of information I share with my friends. But then again we had exchanged some flirty vibes before I started working there, and I believe their incompatibility around a potential openness of the relationship was one of the reasons for the separation. So I get it - but untangling and frank conversations would be appropriate just about now. On one hand, I'm happy not to get dragged into any drama and that our work relationship still feels efficient and good. On the other, I do miss my friend, hanging out and talking shit.

I went though a loss of friendship through conversion to coworking with the girl I started my speakeasy tours with back in the day. This person I used to hang with all the time and try new restaurants and bars with suddenly became my business partner, with an opposite schedule since we were talking turns doing the tours. And it worked great, we made bank - and then she moved to live in London like she has been planning to do before we even met. So I never really regretted transforming our friendship, because she would have moved away either way. And that you can't hold on to things and relationships to avoid changing them. But it still hurts a little and I still miss the good times.

Good thing the world is full of beautiful people, this one lady just came to our backyard tonight for a little meeting. A lady i've been hearing about from a bunch of my friends, and she is indeed just as awesome as all our mutual friend say. I haven't met new faces in ages - and awesome ones at that too! It just warms the soul.

elizabeth  ·  77 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Just released Smol Pub, looking for feedback :)

just tried to loggin to my old midnight.pub account and it's giving me the forbidden page :( i remember quite enjoying the place when you first posted it here, but then it somehow faded from my life.

elizabeth  ·  98 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Shop Class as Soulcraft

Anyone else here read the book?

elizabeth  ·  99 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 9, 2021

The learning opportunities have been abundant already for sure - that's part of the reason I took on this project in the first place. Because i was just stuck in a rut, doing everything myself in weird random side-hustles. (like driving around the USA doing architecture photos for 5 months with no previous photo experience, which was great and hubski pushed me over the edge in accepting that gig). I didn't want to be a sucker climbing that corporate ladder in the washing machine that is entry-level marketing agency jobs that would have been my future out of school. The place I work now is fucking awesome because it's not actually 9-5. It's 30h - whenever i feel like it, as long as i spend 2/3 of it on site. So i can finish my work week in 3-4 days. Or work a full 7 days in tiny 4 instalments. Actual tasks might be a little menial and boring at times, but also free to my interpretation of best practices. No-one micro-manages, or even questions shit. I just do my days, slowing making moves of boring IT migrations but also pulling out aluminum shards out of member's eyes when it's needed. And get rewarded by mid-day glenmorangie whiskey drinks as gratitude.

It's not a real "office" since i'm the only actual employee except by boss, that was my good friend before. It's been an adjustment for our relation for sure, but this baseline trust we have of each other of best intentions has been good. I feel less pressure to "appear" professional vs actually getting things done. I know as long as i do my best he has my back. And he'll call me out for the BS before if becomes a big problem. Just a good place in general - at least that's my feeling this week. Getting the job has been an ordeal and it took me a while to feel at home and comfortable there.

elizabeth  ·  100 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 9, 2021

So my boyfriend got gout - which is kinda early for his age. But he's got a good attitude about it, plugging "oh my gout" in every conversation.

Had a brilliant day at work today, felt good. I've been stuck in necessary admin migration type tasks for a bit - that I don't mind doing but are a thankless job. Running around forcing busy people that volunteer their time for the projet to move stupid google drive folders around is no fun for anyone. Today we got to address a budding conflict, talk to the person bringing up the concern and established a game plan. Also spent the day re-arranging some furniture in the lobby, talking shit with members, printing funny labels on the p-touch, doing a new members tour... just some nice human moments. I don't know if it's the Covid starving me from human interactions, but it was just a nice day, barely any computer-work but that felt very productive.

Getting this job has always been tainted with many insecurity and doubts, but today (after 3 fucking months) has probably been one of my favorites, that makes me thing it wasn't all for nothing and that there are cool things coming ahead.

elizabeth  ·  100 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 9, 2021

Hell yeah Covid's not done. We're almost out of the woods, with 67% for the population with one dose (i know it might not seem like much to you Americans, but still) and about 90-50 cases per day in my city of Montreal. Ya know - end of the tunnel kinda deal. Still careful about masks and distancing, but loosening it up within the bubbles. And then my dummy 23 year-old general director of our plastic non-profit calls me at the makerspace (and not my boss because he probably felt stupid, since it's the second time) to say he just tested positive for covid. He had no symptoms, but his coworker gottit so he got tested too. The first time we got a covid scare with him was a false alert, but this time was real and we had to pull out data of who was present at the makerspace when he was, and inform everyone and urge them to get tested if they interacted.

My bet is that he fucking shared a joint with his coworker. Damn stoners - i've seen them all Covid-long being: eh, too late now, might as well smoke up....

That dude is such a nice, genuine pure soul. Charismatic, smart, loveable. But also such a naive dummy. Tries to do the right thing, over-promises, under-delivers, tries so hard. I don't know if it's age, inexperience, personality - I love him but the trainwreck of his life is painful to watch, when you want to be supportive but also just scream "get your shit together" from the sidelines.

elizabeth  ·  108 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 2, 2021

Had a really great weekend, with one BBQ, Jurassic Park screening in our own private theatre, and 2 park hangouts. It's not quite "normal" yet - still distancing and avoiding hugs and big gatherings but it's getting a lot more bearable. And the weather has been awesome. I have a feeling it will be a fun summer!