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_refugee_  ·  37 minutes ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Laziness Does Not Exist

What I am getting from this conversation is that maybe it is more honest and accurate if some people or their behaviors, are described as "unwilling" rather than "lazy." That is, there are some people who will not wash their dishes until they do not have a clean one left -- regardless of a lack of barriers in their way.

What I have personally observed is that people are frequently unwilling to be so honest with themselves. In a case where a person is truly unwilling to do the needed task at hand, it is generally easier for them to dismiss their lack of action as "laziness" -- and more socially acceptable -- than admit they just truly do not care enough to clean up after themselves until it reaches a crisis point. And so long as they are living with someone else, typically their laziness or unwillingness to act until absolutely necessary means that the burden falls on the party who is willing to acknowledge a problem and act to solve it before it becomes an overwhelming issue.

I am all for honesty. I prefer people who are truthful about what they are going to do (or not) over people who lie to me any day.

However I have noticed that often, those who are willing to lie to me about their desire or ability to complete necessary actions -- let's say chores, or staying at home and sheltering in place during the time of CORONAVIRUS even when their friends are not -- in the moment that they make the lie to me, they are also making the lie to themselves. In fact, such a person may become offended when you calmly state your perceived truth, which may be that "you have promised me you would do X multiple times over an extended period and it has never happened." No amount of documentation will help you get this person to accept certain facts in these scenarios.

The most dangerous person to be in a relationship with, to me, is a person who lies to themselves. A person who is unwilling to confront their truths to their self will never be able to tell the truth to someone else as a result.

And those are the people that will deny their lies to the end.

I guess what I'm saying is, yeah, saying "I'm lazy" is self destructive, but there are a lot of people out there who are way more comfortable with telling themselves the lies they want to believe about themselves than actually, you know...paying attention to the metrics that align to whatever behavior they say they don't do.

Some people want to believe they are lazy because it allows them to avoid the fact that they are dead weight.

This article, and any number of ones like it, is never going to change them.

_refugee_  ·  10 hours ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 15, 2020

I just about finished my neon cat. It needs a few more layers of paint in a few places, but I am really happy with the way it looks. I stuck to the paint by numbers because it was fun and lovely -- well, stuck to it except for the eyes.

I think the eyes look pretty good. Or at least no worse than they would've without me messing around.

I'm trying to work on some kind of OC/ARTPOST, which will likely become an Etsy/biz?niz?owner?? post in disguise.

Temporary tattoos are strangely popular items on Etsy, or at least in my Etsy shop. I like to make temporary tattoos of tattoos I've considered getting in life.

I haven't listed this one yet, but the art 'gram reacted way more than I expected, so now I think I might have to. It's rather fun, at least, innit? It blurred a little when I put it on. That's user error though...well, mostly. (I suspect the best maximum size for temporary tattoos is not large.)

I drew the dude, but not anything else.

Busy day at work today. That's okay. We are re-integrating a business unit that used to be part of ours several years ago, was split out and now is back again. They are having a bumpy ride realizing that "just because it used to be a certain way, does not mean that way is right, good, or how we'd like to do it in this LOB." I expect many more bumps along this road over, probably, the next 6 months.

I think we all know that beer makes men(and women, and people) dehydrated. Am I alone in experiencing this, or does corona take it one step further -- and make men (and women, and people) EXTRAORDINARILY THIRSTY? Wait, don't judge me. I'm not hopelessly parched myself. This is a comment on the grade and hopelessness of men trying to hit on me.

I actually deliberately don't mention this place on subs like /redditalternatives. I don't want more of them here LOL.

That said, I'm not sure we're famous for our friendly discourse? I would be skeptical of that claim anyway. Everyone seems to agree we're rough around the edges and maybe just as rough as we were 5 years ago. A comment which I've considered and I am willing to accept. I remember many times telling people who made posts about how they didn't like hubski, that they should just leave. And that was when I thought it was in its heyday.

That said I also kind of suspected this guy might be an alt. But who knows. My sister speculated that our home state was "hiding something" from us because she didn't see new COVID data posted for the past 4 days. Turns out she was looking in the wrong place.

I think most conspiracy theories go like that.

_refugee_  ·  3 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Oh the Places You Can't Go

Who is even going on a plane these days?

_refugee_  ·  3 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Mountains on the Sound: Climbing Mount Rainier

Level 2 fun?

_refugee_  ·  3 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Oh the Places You Can't Go

I didn’t have a passport before and I don’t have one now lmao

_refugee_  ·  3 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Trump trumps the trump - Roger Stone sentence commuted

I’m real into limiting “what I care about” to “things that I personally can make an impact on” these days.

I would be surprised if anyone offered you an in person interview over a Zoom one, tbqh. Don’t ask for in person(And outside) just go right to Zoom. Would it really be worth the transpo costs?