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I've been binging on Netflix lately.
Wynona Earp - Surprisingly decent. will watch season 2 when it comes out.
Hemlock Grove - still reserving judgement, but pretty positive. Best werewolf transformation i've seen personally.
Abstract - another netflix made docu-series. Really interesting, actually.
Fifth Element - i appreciated this rewatch. real good.
10 Cloverfield Lane - Also worth a rewatch. Mary Elizabeth Winstead is killer in this movie.
edit: Oh, I watched the Grand Budapest Hotel. It was great!
see, I want one of these. they're just like, $1000 or so out of my price range. https://www.babboe.co.uk/cargo-bikes/shopby/velocargo_type-three_wheels.html
When I need to commiserate through music, I've got a few varied choices. I recommend listening to them above safe volumes.
Shostakovich - 5th symphony in D Minor
Shostakovich wrote this piece while being... unpopular with the soviet government critics. it was the piece that turned his career around, and brought him back into favour with the government. All of it is fantastic, but the 4th movement has a few truly special moments - especially for me as a player. Some anchoring points for listening pleasure - 2:13 (when the piece moves into a new tempo as the trumpet solo starts), coming into 2:38 (where the basses come in), 3:03 (wherein shit gets fucking real), 4:16 (being in the orchestra for this point is an electric feeling) 5:38 (where the theme comes crawling out of the depths) 7:40, 8:40 (another moment where being in the orchestra is an electric experience).
There's a lot of stuff built into this piece that is sort of "Inside Baseball", including some references to Beethoven's 5th symphony that make it extra special for me as a nerd, but I hope you gain some enjoyment and catharsis from this piece.
Death Cab for Cutie - Tiny Vessels
I am the girl, as i listen to this song.
Julien Baker - Go Home
"I know you're still worried
I'm gonna get scared again
try and make my insides clean
with your kitchen bleach, but
I've kissed enough bathroom sinks
to make up for the lovers
who never loved me
And i know,
my body is just dirty clothes
tired of washing my hands
god I wanna go home."
probably would've helped if they hadn't tried to steal tech from google.
you're fine. It was definitely written unclearly. <3
naw man, If I was pissed off specifically at you, I would have responded directly to you instead of . You just happened to ask a question that does often get asked with malice in the heart. I got where you were coming from, and took your question in the spirit it was asked, which seemed to be a good one to me.
Keep me posted for when you open up your etsy store. I know a lot of Mascs who would die for some dope ass short sleeve button downs, and if you're up for the challenge I know a few people (myself included) who would be into women's button downs, especially if you can mod a pattern for wider shoulders.
I would spread this ALL OVER the Ontario queer community.
- I call Scotland "dude" because I'm from California, and she and I have that kind of comfort in our relationship.
For the record, I consider "dude" to be gender neutral ;)
- The real question is, am I rude or inconsiderate or diminishing if I don't remember your gender preference and preferred pronoun to put in front of "coffeesp00ns"?
- I'm honestly asking. I have no idea of ooli or War or rd95 or snoodog's gender, and only know Elizabeth's and Lil's because of their names, and know kleinbl00's because I know the guy in person.
IMO, no, you're not being inconsiderate. The nature of online discourse means that gender is generally a lot less relevant unless it is inherently a part of the topic being discussed - which is how it should be IRL as well. If we were in public, however, and I had spoken with you and told you the pronouns I wanted you to use, and presented as female, and you still used "he/him" for me, I'd probably be seriously uncomfortable.
The most important thing to do? If you don't know - ASK. I have never met a trans person who would be more upset by you asking their gender than they would be by you getting their gender wrong. And if you mess it up the second time around, just correct and don't make a big deal - We're way more scared than you are.
I do think it's a good case of due diligence to look up some of the linguistics behind trans stuff, just because It's not really going away any time soon so far as i can see. So, like email and internet and cell phone, it's something we all have to learn. the same thing might become the case if the community and/or english scholars can decide on what gender neutral pronoun to use (probably singular they because our language already sort of supports it - like taking advantage of a weird compatibility in a program).
So here's a basic rundown on some stuff that, if you know, makes wading through conversations
Transgender person - Someone whose gender differs from the one their doctor put on their birth certificate.
Trans(gender) woman - Someone who previously used he/him pronouns who now uses she/her pronouns. That person could have been assigned male by their doctor at birth, or possibly had unclear genitalia at birth and was raised as a male. Regardless, they now will likely be going by female pronouns.
Trans(gender) man - Someone who previously used she/her pronouns who now uses he/him pronouns. That person could have been assigned female by their doctor at birth, or possibly had unclear genitalia at birth and was raised as a female. Regardless, they now will likely be going by male pronouns.
genderqueer - One of many words used to describe people who don't feel strongly as either male or female. An example might be someone who dresses very androgynously and uses they/them pronouns.
Cisgender - Cis is the opposite of the latin Trans - Cisalpine Gaul, for example, meaning the area of Gaul on the Roman side of the Alps, and Trans Atlantic meaning across the Atlantic Ocean. A Cisgender person is someone whose gender is the same as the one the doctor put on their birth certificate. That means that a cisgender man will likely, but not exclusively have XY chromosomes and a cisgender woman will likely, but not exclusively have XX chromosomes. Chromosomes, and genetics, are complicated.
- I gotta wonder if the gendering of anybody is really of material value
I mean, in a perfect world gender wouldn't be a factor in how we talk about each other. Men and women would exist perfectly equally. Trans people would still exist, but their taking of hormones to change their body wouldn't be a social issue, just a private one.
However, we don't live in that world. We live in a world where we put people into boxes because humans like little tidy boxes. Turns out that the world of human gender doesn't fit into our two box system of male and female, or even into some other cultures' Three gender box (though more boxes is likely better). So we are currently at a cultural turning point where we have to deal with trans people again. It's happened before (see the Weimar Republic for a recent example), and our choice has been to sweep trans people under the rug - Hopefully we can prevent that from happening again and start to change the way we look at gender.
Hope some of this helps.
Well, I think each case is different, and some are related to transgenderism and some are not. The Elizabethan practice of men playing women's roles has much more to do with English concurrent cultural rules about what women were and were not allowed to do. It can be contrasted with the practice 40 or so years later of women playing "breeches" roles in plays and operas, where lower voiced women would play young men and other maculine roles. In Opera there is some confusion because it's unclear where some roles were for women or for Castrati (men who had been castrated as children to keep their singing voice high and "pure")
You could definitely argue that some of these practices have something to do with western European culture trying to figure out what to do with masculine women and feminine men, I just don't think you can argue that it's the whole purpose, or even the main purpose - just a... side purpose?
Someone like the Chevalier D'Eon is more likely to be related to the concept of intersex people, or people who have both male and female genitalia. They occasionally get lumped in with Trans people, but are really a separate group of people. There are some intersex people who later transition, though - XY or XX people whose genitalia were unclear at birth (either too large or too small of a phallic/clitoral structure) who later on transition to confirm their gender identity and have a phalloplasty or vaginoplasty to repair what doctors may have done to them at birth.