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user-inactivated  ·  3654 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 26, 2014

That's probably the most likely explanation. She was the one that prompted all of the continuations of the date, so I wasn't sure. I'm still bummed.





_refugee_  ·  3654 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, I saw that. If it helps, it's probably more of an issue with her and what she chose to do, not you really. Was she drinking? She may have gotten overconfident on her alcohol.

At any rate, yeah - it is bummy and annoying. Unfortunately, it can be hard to figure out what you are ready for in the dating world until you experience things and realize, whatever you are ready for, it's not that.

user-inactivated  ·  3654 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Was she drinking? She may have gotten overconfident on her alcohol.

That definitely could've been part of it. We had a couple beers each at the bar, and then a couple whiskey cokes at her place. Not drunk but definitely drinking.

Ah, well.

sounds_sound  ·  3654 days ago  ·  link  ·  

All of what the fugee is saying makes complete sense from a female perspective. I wouldn't have even considered the possibility that she doesn't want to see you again just because she slept with you. Anyway, that shouldn't really matter to you. If you really liked the date and want to see her again then I would try to communicate that because it would be doing yourself a disservice if you didn't. If you want it, you gotta keep going for it. Maybe say something like "Hey. Just thought I'd let you know that I really enjoyed your company and would be down with hanging out again if you're ever feeling bored." Just a thought.

user-inactivated  ·  3653 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah?

I'm glad you said that because I definitely would like to ask her to get together again. I guess I'm just having reservations because I don't wanna come off as creepy or pushy since we barely know each other. But your message doesn't seem pushy. I think maybe I'll wait till next week and then send something like that. I appreciate the advice!