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Yesterday was the hardest day of a hard week. I spent 4.5 hours trying to talk my Mom down from an Alzheimer's induced panic/paranoia/confusion episode. It happens most days but yesterday was intense.
I wish she would just die.
Yep, that is something I thought last night. As she was pushing me and accusing me of stealing from her. What an absolutely horrible thought.
What bothers me most about that thought is that it is entirely selfish. I wish that for myself. She does not know that her personality has flipped from the super loving person she has always been. Or realize she is making interacting with her hell for all those that care about her.
She is lucky that she has good friends that understand that she has severe brain damage so stick by her but many have been driven away. Her siblings rarely visit. 1 kid never. 1 kid maybe once a month for an hour if dinner is supplied. 2 kids daily.
I cook, shop, manage money, arrange for her personal care, cleaning and everything else and she thinks I am the enemy. I am POA so am getting her house ready to sell in the spring and that is going to be a whole 'nother story. I expect her hate for me will intensify after I move her to a place that is best for her.
Oddly 'nough, given kleinbl00's transplant story earlier, I was also relived that my Dad died (experimental lung transplant 30 years ago; first person in NA to take AZT; died like an AIDS patient). Relief was my very first reaction. I was incredibly sad and remain so to this day but I was really relieved that his years of hurting had come to an end.
That is very different than the feeling of relief I believe I will feel when my Mom dies. What an absolutely horrible thought.
Also found out today that that my buddy that I was planning on going on an month long eco-tourism tour of Central America with has to put that on hold until he "finds out what is is wrong with him". Would not really tell me what his issue was other than something stomach related. Might just go with myself for 2 weeks I guess.
Getting old sucks. Or as my 97 year old grandma put it: Whoever said these were the golden years was a fucking liar.
I love PBS and Ken Burns docs. The first episode was fairly weak IMO , the next 2 a bit better and am hoping it improves. Still worth watching though.
You might be right but in Canada I am not aware of any mandatory pay in advance stations so perhaps attendants keep track of who is at what pump a bit more.
A very quick google search leads me to believe that "gas and dash" fatalities (attendants being run down chasing a gas thief) are predominantly a Canadian phenomenon. I can't imagine why any attendant would put their life on the line for a tank of gas. Or why someone would run down an attendant and then go on the lam of 3 years for $112 worth of gas.
My Mom once got a call at 4 am from Amex asking her if it was possible that my sister's "kiddy card" was being used in Hong Kong for a cash advance of $400. She OKed it.
It was her making that transaction.... at knifepoint. And she did the same with her Visa and MC. Then went to a 4th bank and bought gold with the cash. She filed a police report so she got her money back eventually. The police asked for a description and she said he was short, light brown skinned with black hair. That didn't help. Neither did saying he looked like an Asian Gomer Pyle. lol
I can't remember the last time I went to a gas station that is not 24 hours so, assuming it is not an inside job, I wonder how the scammers have time to install the skimmers without being seen. And you are very right, even a simple scan once a day by any employee with a smartphone could eliminate the issue at zero cost to the gas company.
Their civic duty should really just be to stay the fuck away from things they know nothing about. Only kinda kidding.
In Canada juries are used very rarely. In my ten years of corp/comm litigation the use of a jury never came up once. I can't think of any colleague that ever had one.
They are often used in personal injury cases where there is enormous incentive for the plaintiff to have a bunch of people involved that do not understand the biggest fact involved: the entire suit is being funded and directed by insurance companies (which can not be disclosed to the jury) and it is just a numbers game.
That is probably the most common method.
And if you think that is bad: It may still be legal in some places for the money to revert back to the company if the administrator gets no response.
Surprisingly enough, I had at one point hoped to practice Pension Law and had the opportunity to participate in the wind-up of a big US pension plan (Anaconda Copper). The notice provisions were strict, even to the point of requiring people to be tracked down like long lost heirs and annuities bought in trust for those that could not be found.
I have also seen cases where Notice means personal delivery or regular mail to each person entitled to receive the notice with provisions to apply for authorization to give notice through public advertisement or otherwise if they could not be found. I am not sure which procedures apply here.
The Rules I have seen that seem to apply here are not that helpful as it is probably more defined in case law. The Rules of Notice may be found here.
Amazing article. First published in 2003 and am unsure why they would change the date as it is a fairly timeless article.
The author has said of this piece: "I saw Richard Drew's photo of The Falling Man on page 7 of the New York Times on the morning of 9/12/01, and knew immediately that I was going to write the story. And I mean, immediately -- because it seemed a portrait not just of a man about to die, but also of a world about to be born. And so it was."
An acquired taste? I have never heard that. I thought people either loved his fiction or not. Many believe he is pompous. But if he was, would he have participated in Warner Herzog Eats His Shoe?
I am definitely a fan. Fitzcarraldo and Aguirre are 2 of the best. Little Dieter Needs to Fly is a great doc that most people have not seen.
Not by him but Burden of Dreams (by the same director as WH Eats his Shoe) is a great behind the scenes doc of Fitzcarraldo.
A menu once got me to order something I did not want through subliminal advertising.
I was looking at the menu at a pub for a hockey game. The waitress snuck up and asked if I wanted a drink to start and I blurted out "Uhhhh. Labatt's Blue." Immediately followed by "I have never ordered a Blue before in my life. Why the hell did I do that?"
A few minutes later I noticed that the menu was bordered by tiny blue ink that looked like a scroll but actually said: Labatt Blue Labatt Blue Labatt Blue Labatt Blue ......
I think that original is awesome. And your voice fits perfectly.
A good summation of her progress but there should be an Adrian Chen trigger warning. Mostly just recycled info. Horrible click bait "journalist".
NYer Bio: "His story for Gawker exposing a notorious Internet troll won a 2013 Mirror Award from Syracuse University’s S. I. Newhouse School of Public Communications."
Lol. Awarded by the owner of reddit for doxxing one of the most prolific reddit mods but neglected to mention Chen was the biggest troll on reddit that very year.
He doxxed. He posted a tear jerker as /u/LucidEnding pretending to be about to end his life pursuant to Oregon's right to die legislation. It wasn't even well written or convincing but massive karma whoring nonetheless. And learned his best at Gawker when it was at it's worst.