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_refugee_’s occasional hubski mom.

Sometimes I talk:

Me and humanodon in Boston!

Me and insomniasexx in LA!

mk, theadvancedapes, ecib, thenewgreen, me, insomniasexx, b_b in Detroit!

me, someguyfromcanada, coffeesp00ns, in Toronto.

Robert, mkaram, me and flagamuffin on my front porch

blackbootz, me, mivasairski, Jess, _refugee_ in Baltimore

And since you asked, I came across Hubski while searching for the Higgs-Boson.

recent comments, posts, and shares:
lil  ·  5 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: February 12, 2020

    If anyone would like to chime in to give their perspective on what makes hubski the kind of place that people want to come back to, or to engage with one another, I'd really like to hear those points of view.
ummm, the ongoing possibility of meetups?

But seriously, those who continue on hubski after the honeymoon tend to demonstrate qualities I appreciate.

lil  ·  8 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

perfect kantos: the inventory of feelings. I give that to my students to help them develop a vocabulary of feelings beyond the Seseme Street ones (mad, bad, sad, glad).

lil  ·  8 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

The archive system here is great.

That example there in the blog, about someone being an asshole in the car and blowing up was the apology that I wished for but never got.

Luckily, that 22-year relationship is over, and I got the Prius.

lil  ·  8 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

:-)

lil  ·  8 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

Thanks ref and thanks for the card/letter. I intend to answer soon.

It seems to be giving me an error for now. might try later.

click the irc link at the bottom

lil  ·  9 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: They're Going to Try to Steal California From Sanders (Again)

Definitely 365K is not millions. Re stealing an election, see comment to kb.

lil  ·  9 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: They're Going to Try to Steal California From Sanders (Again)

From what it looks like on the California Secretary of State page, if you declare "No Party Preference (NPP)," you can vote in a party's primary if the party allows it. The Democratic Party has allowed it.

However if you belong to another party, you can't vote in the primary. The Independent Party seems to be signing up voters who have no party preference and may be intending to vote in the Democratic Party primary.

https://www.sos.ca.gov/elections/political-parties/no-party-preference/

    However, NPP voters may vote in a political party's partisan election if the political party, by party rule duly noticed to the Secretary of State, authorizes NPP voters to vote in the next presidential primary election. An NPP voter may request the ballot of one of the political parties, if any, that authorizes NPP voters to vote in the presidential primary election.

    The following parties have notified the Secretary of State that they will allow No Party Preference voters to request their party’s presidential ballot in the March 3, 2020, Presidential Primary Election:

    American Independent Party

    Democratic Party

    Libertarian Party

lil  ·  11 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

Can you at least tell when you feel generally satisfied or generally dissatisfied?

lil  ·  11 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

Yes - you picked up on some NVC -- When this happens, I feel this, because I need this. -- My student should have owned his feelings more directly and said, "I feel" instead of "it makes me feel," which is a little blamey - but the message was clear enough. Our own thoughts and hopes and expectations and assumptions make us feel things -- These needs and feelings are sparked by the actions and behaviours of other, but not caused by others.

lil  ·  11 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

awww, thanks bfx

lil  ·  11 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

Yes it can! That's the main message.

Communication is also awareness - - of others, of multiple ways to see a conflict, of the effect of your words on others, and so much more. The hardest part of awareness is becoming aware of how you contribute to your own problems and conflicts. Once you're aware of that, everything, including how you communicate, has the potential to change.

lil  ·  11 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski: I hate to toot my own horn, but . . .

Thank you for your comments. Thank you everyone.

I'm pretty sure I published my "how-to-apologize" stuff here on hubski FIRST -- as all my good stuff shows up here first.

Found it: Here's a really early version of the how-to-apologize instructions and some very insightful comments from kleinbl00 and others on that thread. The example posted then was a personal one. The one in the binder deals with conflicts occurring in teamwork/classwork.

lil  ·  11 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: So Let's Assume Life Continues . . .

about the maple syrup, I heard an expression the other day on the radio. Someone was talking about how wonderful Canada is. The reply was, "C'mon, let's not maple-wash everything."

Like other countries, Canada has a less than admirable side. Let's not maple-wash everything.

lil  ·  15 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Let's predict the 2020 Dem Iowa Caucus results

Medicare for all might take 5-15 years to really get it going, but FFS, get it going. Get on it. Make it happen and start by caucusing for Bernie.

It’s not perfect in Canada. We don’t have dental, prescription coverage is uneven, there’s some gurneys in the halls, sure. But, I just had cataract surgery in both eyes. No bill. I can see clearly that M4A is possible and urgent. Who profits from not having M4A?

lil  ·  23 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Michigan Hubski meetup!

    can I visit, in the summer?

of course.

lil  ·  24 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: "Right Matters and the Truth Matters"

How can we, individually, make “truth matter”?

I often ask people, “What are you certain of?” Thoughtful people are not certain of much beyond their own experience, or are “certain” only to the extent that the evidence suggests.

I guess we need to be truthful with ourselves first, and with others in our lives, and hope that helps us see truth in others. It’s a long road.

lil  ·  27 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Michigan Hubski meetup!

_refugee_ what are you doing in Ann Arbor? And how come you got to Ann Arbor and didn't continue over the border to Canada?

So nice to see you all. That looks like so much fun.

lil  ·  36 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I didn't punch a Nazi, and I'm not sure how I feel about that.

Thank you for your vigilence. I love the response to Nazis in Pittsburgh.

lil  ·  41 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 8, 2020

Added pronouns to hubski profile.

lil  ·  41 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 8, 2020

Congrats Q on your new pronouns.

On a vaguely related topic, when people include pronouns in their profiles (she, her; they, them; for example), I think they are saying this: “Make no assumptions about how anyone sees themselves. I am letting you know my pronouns for your convenience and as a reminder not to jump to conclusions.”

What else?