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Writer by trade. I makes da words purdy.

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goobster  ·  5 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Elon Musk says he would reverse Twitter's permanent Trump ban

Fuckin' Musk... he's such a simpleton... he gets to his solutions the right way, and then stops without thinking them through to their obviously terrible conclusion. He's the ultimate techbro, who thinks that a simple tech hack can fix anything, but fails to account for either the humans that will use the tool or bugs written by the myopic humans writing the tool.

"Nobody's speech should be curtailed. So I'd reverse the Trump ban."

"But if someone misbehaves and spreads lies or information destructive to society, then they should be limited. Or their tweet should be submarined by the algorithm."

The fact that a techbro can't see the elementary problem here, is just ... well, typical. They are so excited to make/own a thing, they fail to see that thing as existing in a real world, touched by real world idiots and technologists with destructive urges.

Fuckin' Musk.

shakes head sadly and walks away...

goobster  ·  5 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: And now I know about suicide machines.

Had a Zoom call with them last night. There was a lot of euphemistic terms thrown around, and implications, and, honestly, embarrassment. But I think they just went with a nasal cannula, and didn't do anything to reduce the oxygen they were breathing in. So no 02 deprivation so no death.

They were talking about the old hose in the tailpipe technique... but they have a newer car with a catalytic converter, and that's just not going to work on any reasonable timescale.

They may have lost their nerve. And yet, they are so deeply unhappy...

I wish our medical system was more humane.

goobster  ·  10 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 4, 2022

Medication is like the third option. First is talking to a professional. They can help identify the issues, techniques for growth and managing those issues, and measurable milestones you can track to move forward.

A key component of that will probably be dietary, honestly. Adjusting what you are eating, the quantities and variety, and addressing any underlying health issues (diabetes, fatty liver, IBS, or whatever), through dietary changes can fundamentally adjust your mentality.

It's only after all of these options are exhausted that medication even enters the conversation. Because the docs have to know how your head and body are functioning, to figure out which medications might even work for your specific situation.

So it isn't, "I'm bummed out", and the doc says, "ok, take this drug for the rest of your life". There's a whole process that addresses all of the different factors that go into making this bag of skin and bones operate optimally.

But first you need to see a therapist and get the "head work" started. We are here, and we support you.

goobster  ·  12 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 4, 2022

It is an unusual model to ask people to 'apply' for an account on the site ... so I like it. I always like iterating on things and trying new things out.

From the newbie's perspective, though, it seems like they should have a way to see our 'applications' as well. Scan through the participants on the site, their little mini-bios, and decide if this is the community they want to throw their hat in with.

Maybe the 'application' blurb appears on each of our profile pages? So newbies can figure out the difference between WasOxygen and mike and b_b, etc?

goobster  ·  12 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 4, 2022


Honestly, I'm not being glib. Until you know who you are, and what drives you, you cannot be a good partner, and you cannot find the answers outside of you.

At one point in my life I realized I lived a very "noisy" active life. There was never any silence or time alone, just me and my thoughts. I was constantly generating noise/activity to avoid having to look inward and do any self-discovery.

It took me a year of quiet contemplation, living in a foreign country, largely alone, before I became truly comfortable just being with myself.

Everyone's journey is different, and only the few who truly dedicate themselves to it will achieve their goal of internal calm and confidence. But the process is worthy, no matter how far you take it.

goobster  ·  13 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows

Interesting note is that the Equal Rights Amendment never got all the votes it needed to be passed, but there are only 3 states who have not signed it yet... and it has never been rescinded.

So, at any point, those three states could ratify the ERA and it would become a Constitutional Amendment.

I've seen some scholars talking about IF that could happen, and what would happen if it did... but there simply isn't an expiration date on Constitutional Amendments. So ... it could happen.

(But Democrats would have to Do Something, and you know that's out of the question.)

I get the feeling that the Russian Revolution and the Cultural Revolution in China followed a similar path... committing to things you knew were not true because it help solidify your position in your clique.

Then there are too many people in the clique, so you make the lies even more ridiculous, and the "true believers" have to get loonier and loonier to separate themselves from the "mainstream".

It's the "no true Scotsman" fallacy, all the way down, until the utterly lunatic fringe is all that is left... an irrelevant, powerless minority of people who have gone so far down the rabbit hole they are unrecoverable.

And then they get their heads cut off. (historically)

goobster  ·  20 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Twitter set to accept Musk's original $43 bln offer

I'm just looking forward to the death of Twitter. I have been since the day it launched.

And I can be patient.

goobster  ·  21 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Twitter set to accept Musk's original $43 bln offer

    "'cuz that's what we're talking about here - Trump tweeting at the courtesy of the king. If Trump uses Elon Musk's service, he's using Elon Musk's service. He is kissing the fucking ring. Now will he?

If Trump even decides to create a new Twitter account, he will be admitting the failure of his new Twitter startup copycat... of which I cannot even be fuckin bothered to remember the name of. But it has failed, and Trump is at the helm.

Is he then going to go to Musk's Twitter?!?

Well... yes. Yes, he will. Because it is easier to shit on someone else's property than to cultivate your own land.


goobster  ·  21 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: In which everyone came out of lockdown having forgotten how to cross the street

Teach them young, grasshopper. For they are our future.


goobster  ·  25 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 20, 2022

Good luck withe the tour! I hope it is amazing. And, of course, I'm totally curious to hear about it or see it ... within your comfort limits, of course.

goobster  ·  26 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 20, 2022

Getting headhunted by Amazon for a really interesting position.

People like me don't get headhunted. It's probably been two decades since anyone tried to headhunt me.

Should be an interesting experience, anyway. It's not in dev, so it's not 100-hour weeks. And it pays extremely well and comes with stock... so maybe I take it and retire in 3-5 years? Who knows?

The road ahead is twisting and winding and unpredictable.

goobster  ·  32 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 13, 2022

I did a class on building fire poofers, and had a good time with it. But didn't build one, in the end.

However, the people I know who build these things like this guys' simple, direct instructions, images, and videos: https://foxfuramused.com/2011/10/12/fire-toys/

goobster  ·  33 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 13, 2022

My wife and I were chatting about The Past last night, and remembering what things were like in the late 1980's and early 1990's. (We both graduated high school in the late 80's.)

Money. You had cash or checks. That was it. Banks were not open in the evenings or weekends, so you had to figure out what you were going to do/eat/drink all weekend, budget for it, go to the bank, get out that much money before they closed, and ... that was it. If you ran out of cash you didn't buy anything. (A grocery store would take a check, but a bar would not let you pay your tab with a check.)

There were no ATMs. There were no credit cards. (Well, your parents may have had ONE credit card that they used for very specific things. But nobody I knew could get a credit card. You had to have excellent credit - like be a homeowner - to get a CC.)

Communications. There were no cell phones amongst normal everyday people. You had an answering machine at home, and had to go home to check your messages to see where/when people were meeting up.

There's no GPS. Just a post-it note with turns noted, stuck to the rear view mirror. "I5 N -> Olive St -> R onto Olive -> R on 12th -> L on Ramona -> 4th house on right, blue truck"


There's parts of that I miss. I do wish there was some sort of hybrid Google Maps that didn't literally show me a map, but showed a list of turns in order, and as I come up to the turn it enlarges the map view so I can see the road map clearly. Then, after turning, the text list of turns zooms up again until I approach the next turn...

And prior to COVID I did almost all of my buying in cash. I didn't like the idea of "being tracked" by my purchases. And now? I like it when my bank calls and says, "hey this purchase didn't follow your pattern... is this legit or was your card/ID stolen?"

There's no point to this post. Just reminiscing.

goobster  ·  33 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Look for a nice aurora on Thursday (April 14)

When I moved back to the US from Budapest, the last leg was Heathrow to SeaTac via the Great Circle route at night ... and the aurora was visible at eye level outside the aircraft for almost the entire flight.

People were all asleep, and I was standing looking out the portal on the door, watching the aurora for hours.

It's the only time I have seen it.

goobster  ·  34 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Paul Graham: Heresy

Oh fuck me. Whiny rich white dude is upset that not-rich not-white not-dudes are allowed to speak and express their opinions too.

Fuck him. He is irrelevant and his opinion has no intrinsic value.

goobster  ·  35 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 6, 2022

That's a shitty position for them to put you in, "Sure, you can work from home, but you have to tell your staff they have to come into the office."

Just tell your staff to work from home. See what happens.

goobster  ·  39 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 6, 2022

"When did people my age start looking so OLD?!?"

goobster  ·  40 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 6, 2022

Went into the office for the first time in 2 years, because I had to print out and bind some documents before shipping them off.

In a company of more than 400 people, I saw 4.

I could see going in once in a while, if I needed to. But I don't really need to. Since the last time I was in the office in February 2020, my entire team has dissolved, and I have been moved over to a different department in a different part of the building. But my cubicle with my name on it still stands alone in a vast dark room with nobody around.

The next two years in corporate America are going to be very weird. I can't see people happily returning to the status quo... and yet all this expensive real estate is built on the idea of people having to come into a specific location to prove they are working...

I just don't see people going back to that, if there are other options.

I've already knocked back my schedule so I get off work at noon on Tuesday and Thursdays, so I can help care for my Dad as he travels the Alzheimers road. Sure, it's only 6 hours a week, but ... I'm still making a full salary and still getting all my work done easily.

The rules of the game are changing. For the better, I feel. And Amazon warehouse workers won the right to organize a Union. Shit is changing for working stiffs.

goobster  ·  47 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 30, 2022

The weather is changing. I'm not wearing three layers when I go outside. The crocus are popping their heads up out of the ground, and my three Japanese maples are budding and about to start showing leaves. The quince tree is blooming pretty pink flowers. The camellia bush outside the front door is in bloom, and heavy with buds waiting to open once the first group of flowers fall.

Spring is here, winter is ending.

And it feels like the longest winter ever. I can't wait for life outdoors to resume...

And in other news, my Anatolian/Malamute, Moxie, may have a sire... friends know a lovely yellow Labrador boy with a kind disposition. We are going to have them meet and see if they get along...

It is the right time for Moxie to have puppies (if she ever is going to), but I am concerned about over taxing myself with work, dementia care for my Dad, and committing 8 months to making puppies... it's a lot to bite off in one calendar year...

goobster  ·  47 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: ‘We Don’t Know How to Phone It In’: A Final Visit With Taylor Hawkins

A high school friend and band mate, Chris Chaney, has had a long career since high school playing with people like Alanis Morrisette, Jane's Addiction, and being in both Dave Navarro and Taylor Hawkins side project bands.

He and Taylor met playing with Alanis, and have been brothers ever since.

According to Chris, Taylor is exactly who everyone says he was; just a sweetheart of a guy, and a phenomenal drummer. (I like in the article how he says that Dave Grohl is a John Bonham style drummer, while Taylor is a Stuart Copeland style drummer. It really nails the finer details of how these two guys differ, and why they are both monsters in their own right.)

goobster  ·  47 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: ‘We Don’t Know How to Phone It In’: A Final Visit With Taylor Hawkins

Monkey Wrench is the song that broke them into the mainstream. (And the song in the elevator is a Muzak'ed version of another of their hits.)

Everlong is the balladic stadium rock anthem.

My Hero is just a great rock song that a lot of people have been sharing since Taylor's death.

And there is a fascinating documentary about the Foo Fighters called Back and Forth, which is just a great story, whether you like the band or not. The guys in this band are not rock stars... they are just a buncha guys doing the best they know how, and being genuine and honest and down to earth... even when playing in front of 80,000 people.

goobster  ·  49 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 477th Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately"

Spotify fed me Monster Magnet the other day, in my old school metal playlist.

I decided they sound like if Black Sabbath were all auto mechanics:

goobster  ·  53 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Interrogation of Daniel Rodriguez

Good lord. He's pathetic. Such a simpleton... full of self-importance and self-righteousness.

goobster  ·  53 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 23, 2022

Thank you. Last night had the first Zoom meeting with the Lewy Body Diagnosis (LBD) support group. About 10 people on the call, discussing their loved-one's condition and the coping mechanisms they have developed to support their loved ones.

I learned that Alzheimer's and LBD are two separate diagnoses that don't necessarily go together. I thought they were more closely related; like LBD was a severe symptom of Alzheimers, or something. But nope, they are completely separate diagnoses.

And he has both. :(


goobster  ·  54 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 23, 2022

As we take the Alzheimers journey with my Dad, I need to be there more often to take up some of the 24x7 care requirements that my Mom and Sister are shouldering now. So I've just applied for a 3-day workweek, with Tuesdays and Thursdays as my days to take care of Dad. I suspect this will go well.

Currently Dad is mostly just in the forgetful phase of dementia, with some difficulty finding the right words now and then, and just having his brain kinda fade in and out. (It "gets muddy" he says.) The full on hallucinations and seeing me as his old friend, were a one-off event. (This time.)

We are moving forward with establishing a relationship with a local senior memory-care facility, so when the time comes, he has a place to go and get the care he needs and deserves.

This is particularly hard for my sister, who is an expert and consultant on dementia in seniors.

She knows that everyone waits too long to put their loved one in a senior care center; people try to keep their loved ones at home for as long as possible, and to care for the person themselves for as long as possible, too.

But with dementia, there is a point where the brain cannot adapt to new circumstances and changes. So getting a patient into the facility early, while they still have some cognition and higher brain function to adapt to the new environment, is absolutely critical to the patient's long-term happiness and health. Wait too long for admission to the facility, and the person cannot physically adapt to the environment and will be constantly unhappy for the rest of their life. Get them in early, and they can adapt and enjoy the care they will receive.

My sister knows this. She consults with people on this every single day. But now, it is HER dad, and she doesn't want to do it. She's really torn between her professional knowledge and her personal experience.

My Mom has woken up next to my Dad for more than 55 years. She doesn't want him sleeping somewhere else, and waking up in an empty bed.

But, my Dad is an extrovert, a social butterfly, a story-teller. And nowadays he sits in his chair in the front room of the house, barely engaging with the newspaper or a book, and napping constantly. If we go out to a coffee shop or a Dr's appointment, as soon as there are people around, he lights up and engages with them, and becomes the Santa Claus everyone loves.

And he'd get that social interaction in a senior care facility. He'd have that every day. And people his age to talk to and connect with. And tell stories to! :-)

So I'm dropping down to a 3-day workweek so I can be with him on Tuesdays and Thursdays, go out to meetups and happy hours at various senior centers, and just generally keep him moving and engaging with the world outside the house.

... and while all of this is happening, I am thinking about being the last of my line. Neither my sister nor I had kids, and the family ends with me. I won't have kids to do this for me when I get old and experience my phase in that genetic lottery ...

goobster  ·  56 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: If you thought bathrooms were terrible in the '70s, just you wait

Ahhh... carpeted bathrooms... so much a part of my youth, and so terrifying today as a homeowner. Such an about-face!