lil asked me this question in IRC last night, and it led to some interesting conversation, so I thought I'd share it with you guys.
My answer (maybe not entirely about myself, but you get the idea):
1. I don't do well in secret relationships. They're a bad idea.
2. You can communicate as much as you want in a relationship, but if the other person doesn't communicate back, it won't work out. (Then after a little bit more prodding from lil, I realized) I should look for people to date who communicate frequently and effectively.
3. No matter how good a relationship looks on paper, in the end if one person just doesn't believe in it, there's nothing you can do.
What about you guys? What did you learn about yourselves from your last relationships? Self-reflection and meta-cognition are always fun, and the driving forces behind most self-improvement. So go ahead, meta-cognate. Cognite. Cogn- whatever.