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She/her

_refugee_’s occasional hubski mom.

Sometimes I talk:

Me and humanodon in Boston!

Me and insomniasexx in LA!

mk, theadvancedapes, ecib, thenewgreen, me, insomniasexx, b_b in Detroit!

me, someguyfromcanada, coffeesp00ns, in Toronto.

Robert, mkaram, me and flagamuffin on my front porch

blackbootz, me, mivasairski, Jess, _refugee_ in Baltimore

And since you asked, I came across Hubski while searching for the Higgs-Boson.

recent comments, posts, and shares:
lil  ·  5 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: First song I've made in a while -- Money, Life and Science

I loved your mother's day post on FB. I have questions.

I've been pretty quiet, but have some serious hockey to play soon!!

I have to copy out the words to your song -- they are always an intriguing view into your inner landscape!

Also steve --- I loved your mother's day message to me -- you are so kind.

lil  ·  34 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 3000 Days

I'm only 897 hubski days older than you -- but yikes! that's almost 2.5 YEARS.

I suddenly find myself here as I provide hubski links in some of my teaching material. So happy to see that the links are alive as I once was. And every link takes us down an exciting rabbit hole, as much as it ever did.

lil  ·  64 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Mother's Beautiful Life Ended Wednesday at 6:00 p.m.

Hi HarlemShake Thanks for reading - and for hubskiing. I’m not on as often as I used to be, but it a good place with great thoughtfulness. DM me your snail mail and I’ll send some hubski stickers. I still have some stickers that say “Hubski pushing back the dark.”

lil  ·  149 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

Thanks! pm me an update on your life's journey. I went back to the lengthy chat we had about a year ago -- before vaccines were out, everyone was in isolation or quarantine. You said this:

    But, hey, I'm 22 and should be a PhD in a year or so. Maybe there will be options for me beyond academia or menial work. Professoring around isn't something I can see myself doing

I have no idea how all that is going.

I also found the answer to how you knew the phrase "Mi Sheberach" -- which is very very appropriate.

I hope to have more to say next time c_hawkthorne creates a jitsi meetup.

lil  ·  155 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Virtual Hubski Meetup No. 12, approximately the 11th Hubski anniversary too!

I’d like to request live songs from anyone who has one. thenewgreen, if available, Higgs-boson song and performance from Atticus?

lil  ·  155 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Virtual Hubski Meetup No. 12, approximately the 11th Hubski anniversary too!

I might be up for this.

lil  ·  156 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Then It Happens

tng, love it! So thought-provoking.

You find that you never left

You discover you two fit just right.

The song suggests that the speaker’s discontent is caused by his own stress. He becomes edgy and disconnected.

Then it happens! He becomes aware and in touch.

I agree. We can suddenly change our mood, thoughts, mindset.

I also believe we can do things to self-monitor our moods, and re-evaluate our thoughts. Even just have a nap! And then it still happens! We flip our view and see things differently.

The lesson is don’t get stuck in one way of seeing.

lil  ·  160 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

Recovery is slow, but possible. Thanks for writing. How are you? What’s new in the last five years?

lil  ·  160 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Higgs boson -the song

Hey thenewgreen,

I just listened to these lyrics again and have a different interpretation from my first one. If posting here brings it up to the present-day feed, I’ll write my thoughts.

Do you ever look back at old songs and wonder what you were going through then?

lil  ·  160 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

Thanks mk, and thx for watching the video. Actually, if I ever write and perform the whole thing, part 2 begins, “My cousin was wrong.” Recovering from this particular surgery has been difficult, but I hope will continue more easily now that I’m home.

I’ve been messaging with your brother and I’m very moved by his story and the entire K family story, of which I know only bits. I’m grateful for the ongoingness of hubski (proofreading I discovered auto-correct had changed it to “ongoing mess of hubski” - fixed it).

I posted my story on hubski as you know, and sent the link to many family and friends, so there may have been a little bump in visits.

lil  ·  160 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

Thanks for reading, kb

I hope all is well and your family.

lil  ·  161 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

I didn’t realize that you’d been through so much. I know a little bit about the mk family - quite a few dramatic stories there.

Thanks for all the info. There are amazing doctors and amazing developments in medicine.

I am hoping (and believing and acting as though) my tumour was a benign meningioma, not malignant.

But I was resigned to not getting through this if that was the case. I may say more about that in due course. I wasn’t interested in raging against the dying of the light, I m not a fan of suffering. I felt and still feel curious at my reaction to possibly dying.

I’m aware too that you are likely in your late 30s or early 40s, with young children and mid-career, very different from me). (Yes, more to say on this. Love to hear your thoughts as well).

lil  ·  161 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

Onward dear friend. I’m very glad to be on the other side of that. For now.

lil  ·  161 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

I hope you had a giggle!

lil  ·  161 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

Thank you for following my saga. My hubski participation has slowed somewhat since 2016, but I’ve made wonderful connections within our community and now I’ve contributed to everyone’s knowledge about meningiomas, even if they didn’t want to know.

I well remember our Detroit meetup eight years ago when I drove three hours over the border with @the advancedapes@, spent three hours with y’all in a pub, then drove three hours back to Toronto. Poor Apes. He was driving my new Prius at 3:00 a.m. on a fairly deserted highway and wanted to go 160 km/hr (100 mph). I kept cooling his jets to the speed limit. Remember that thenewgreen mk and even our dear @insomniasex@ was there that night. Who else? The unforgettable b_b?

lil  ·  161 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

Thank you for reading lilyboy. I love your name. Please explain its origin (by dm if you prefer).

lil  ·  162 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

Thanks Ben. Thank you for reading. Starting to remember who I am.

lil  ·  162 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour, Something’s Leaking?

nil I’m trying to send you a message, but I keep hitting a lot of “bad gateway” messages.

lil  ·  176 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour

Thanks bfx. I appreciate your comments.

lil  ·  176 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour

Thanks for watching!

lil  ·  177 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My Brain Tumour

Thanks for writing, sj.

    I hope you’re happy with your medical care.
I'll have more opinions after the endoscopic surgery when it's over. I hope it's not delayed -- but anything can happen: shortage of ICU nurses, another emergency, and so on.

This surgery requires the presence of an ENT specialist, an anaesthesiest, in addition to the neurosurgeon, and an operating room: so getting everyone scheduled is not easy. I was told that I would get a phone call at 11 a.m. from pre-op today -- but it's 7:30 p.m. and the call still hasn't come.

You're almost going on 10 years with the astrocytoma - so your doctors and you must be onto some

serious magic that is keeping you going. How scary that must be -- and to still be a husband, father, and teacher.

We've contributed over the years briefly to one another's teaching comments. Being a teacher is so intense -- especially when you are caring and serious and understand how important it is, which you clearly do

Thank you for sharing a bit of your story with me.

    Your attitude is amazing.

Feel free to share my story with your students -- but I don't think they'd be that interested.

If you were teaching English, though, or writing, I'd say to the kids: Take the biggest problem you have, whatever it is -- friends, parents, abuse, bullying -- and write a one-person comedy about the problem. It will give you perspective and motivation to win.

lil  ·  198 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Stream Carry It Down The Steps by theNG

Tng, I’ve been playing hockey too. So important. I will listen when I can.