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She/her

_refugee_’s occasional hubski mom.

Became a Hubskier August 10, 2011, and had an intense five years of contributing, sharing, and loving my hubski friends. Things changed, but I'm very glad the posts are all still here.

Sometimes I talk:

Me and humanodon in Boston!

Me and insomniasexx in LA!

mk, theadvancedapes, ecib, thenewgreen, me, insomniasexx, b_b in Detroit!

me, someguyfromcanada, coffeesp00ns, in Toronto.

Robert, mkaram, me and flagamuffin on my front porch

blackbootz, me, mivasairski, Jess, _refugee_ in Baltimore

And since you asked, I came across Hubski while searching for the Higgs-Boson.

recent comments, posts, and shares:
lil  ·  15 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 23. 2023

Thanks Devac I was looking for this yesterday.

lil  ·  15 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: And the prompt was: Hubski Poetry

Each line could be a prompt!

lil  ·  16 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: And the prompt was: Hubski Poetry

    Who can't watch horror they're too jumpy

I think about this a lot. There's so much horror right now and feelings of powerlessness -- yelling "ceasefire now" in every gathering, every day. People being accused of anti-this, anti-that, when we're just anti-slaughter. Compassion, compassion, people. We know this conflict in the Middle East is going to end very badly for a lot of people.

--

But apart from that, I like your poem a lot. ... I'd like a word after "who can't ever be" ??

lil  ·  16 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: And the prompt was: Hubski Poetry

  I remember a 20 year old screaming without sound

In the dark room at 4am

I've been talking to my male friends what it was like in their 20s. For many, there was a lot of distress.

lil  ·  16 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: And the prompt was: Hubski Poetry

Wow Rene

    if you could wear the clothes of dreams, seen or unseen, how would you seem, empress?

I ask myself that question every day.

lil  ·  16 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Poem Posted on the Boston Subway

I had completely forgotten about this poem. It seems relevant in many ways -- like it should be read at meetings where some people are too shy to speak up or feel outnumbered or, or . . .

lil  ·  16 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: And the prompt was: Hubski Poetry

Wow! Good to talk about it -- wow. Is there a song there?

lil  ·  32 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Lily in bloom

The thread of naughty rhyming couplets was written September 7 2015.

lil  ·  32 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: New Post About Historic Meeting with kleinbl00

kleinbl00 said an equal relationship means "getting what you want without giving up anything you want to keep" -- I wish I had asked what does that mean or give me an example, but it was time to go.

To me, equality in a relationship is a feeling -- it just feels equal, there are no tallies, no quid pro quo, and most of all no resentment, no resentment generated passive-aggressive behaviour or critical sarcastic comments. Some couples have to work it out on a tally sheet -- and that's okay as a way of building trust. Others just give all they can naturally and spontaneously and consistently and it feels kind of equal even though you're both willing to give even more than your share.

lil  ·  34 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Lil told me to post this.

OK, finally, I'm back at my computer and can report on that historic meeting.

I came prepared with questions.

I asked Seth to pick numbers.

We managed to talk about #6, 7, 9, 12 and a little of 11 and much more in the little time I had between my Amtrak train (Eugene to Seattle) and my Amtrak bus (Seattle to Toronto).

1. Think of something about (the place where you grew up; your family; your school) that gave you your sense of the world and your place in it?

2. Are you an open book? If so who’s your best reader. If there’s 100 pages, what page are they on?

3. What have you learned recently about your family that wasn’t the story you told yourself?

4. What important lesson did an earlier romantic relationship teach you that helps you in your current marriage?

5. What is one thing you remember from all your changes in the last 10 years that made you feel vulnerable (beyond your comfort zone) or felt a little challenging.

6. Are you carrying any resentment that you could let go of if you thought about it. Would it be a benefit?

7. What are some questions you have about your life now that you’d like answered in the next year.

8. What is an experience of success that you still feel good about?

9. What is your road not taken?

10. What idea or attitude did you once believe that you later discovered was false?

11. When you realize that everything is made up -all religions, nations, patriarchy, democracy, etc are ideas made up by people, what then do you believe?

12. What does an equal relationship mean to you?

lil  ·  53 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Frozen Faces

and by the way, I've been playing hockey too. We'll talk, in due course.

lil  ·  53 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I'll Need You in the Apocalypse

Yes, and one day I'll get back to beautiful North Carolina -- I loved it there -- the Blue Ridge Parkway - wow.

or we'll visit steve in Denver.

lil  ·  53 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Frozen Faces

Thanks for the notification!

lil  ·  63 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I'll Need You in the Apocalypse

I just posted an answer to your question on the sex or politics song. I will listen to Frozen Faces and some others.

lil  ·  63 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Sex or Politics

Somewhat . . . yes, poetry, would you see it if I posted it on Hubski?

lil  ·  63 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I'll Need You in the Apocalypse

It's harder and harder to be optimistic.

Sometimes all we can be sure of is that we want to be with a loved one, just want them around.

Amazing that I happened to check hubski 45 minutes after you posted this. Please send shout outs to my gmail, if you can. I love listening to your stuff.

xolil

not all the lyrics were clear, but I got the jist. Lyrics help.

lil  ·  69 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Sex or Politics

Hi TNG

Shout outs never seem to work. Luckily I found this.

This is great.

("I just want to get back/back to that moment")

("I want to leave behind/all that the world keeps throwing at us")

Yes, the world is throwing a lot at us.

lil  ·  69 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski Virtual Meetup No. 16, October 5th

and by the way, I never get notifications when I'm tagged, even though my notifications are on and my email is correct. (sad face)

lil  ·  69 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski Virtual Meetup No. 16, October 5th

I might make it. I'll put 6:00 pm EST in my schedule and will look for a zoom link.

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