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Well, the story continues as follows:

5 years after she got married, she decides to get a divorce. Things weren't going that well. During the divorce her husband gets diagnosed with cancer. 5 months later, he dies. His family blames her for his cancer (!!!!) and that she left him when he needed her most.

Then starts probably the hardest time for her. Because she also blamed herself for leaving him. It took her the next 2-3 years to get clear about this. During that period she called me once and basically asked me if I want to marry her. For a split second, I thought about it but then pushed it away. She way mentally unstable and I couldn't even think about that working out. A year later I get mentally unstable and refuse her approaches because of that....

Now both of us are better off. Who knows what the future brings :)

When I was 14, I feel in love with a girl that showed up from nowehre. We both grew up in the weird arabic world that has many similarities to what francopoli metioned. I played my part and was trying to be that son my father wanted me to be (tough, masculin, dominant, love sport) but she, she was just 100% herself. A rebel that, for me back then, figured life out. It can be all distilled down to one action she did on that day. Our families were invited to the house of a common friend, a neurologist and his wife. When we were all about to have dinner and and the wife of the neurologist asked us what we wanted to drink, everyone said "water" or "juice" or something else that sounded suitable. When she asked that girl she said "Cola!". When the neurologst's wife said that they had no coke, the girl simply said "no worries" and took a can of coke from her handbag, cracked it open and drank straight from the can.

I don't know why, but that one move back then sums up my fascination with her. I was a weird guy back then, getting bullied at school for being the weird one etc. and I found in her a role model. Of course I will have a crush on her. That went on for the next 4 years. At some point I lost contact with her (she was living in another city) and I was wondering how she was doing so I called her cousin (who was also there on that one dinner evening) he told me that he is on his way to her engagement party right now and that she is going to get married in a few months....

My whole world broke into pieces. From that moment I knew I had to pack my stuff and move to Germany. Far far away.... For the next few years I lost contact with her, I was too hurt to talk to her. One day I just decided to contact her and we reconnected. Visited her and her husband and things were much better. The story continues but that is for another day.

Even though we never got together, she is a great friend and actually, I just got off a skype call with her where we talked about our love lives... Feels weird to write that story out somehow

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Ultrasonic levitation

That is cool!

Is it fair to assume that the further the glass plate is moved, the less pressure would those "white bands" have and you would need lighter objects for the levitation to work?

I was just wondering what the biggest possible distance between the speaker and the reflector can be for a visible (and probably very light) object to levitate. It probably also correlates with the frequency of the speaker...

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: The 90th Academy Award Nominees

Call Me By Your Name is fantastic!!! Let me know if you plan to watch it ;)

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 3, 2018

Specially in Summer. Freiburg and Heidelberg are the most sunny and warm places in Germany. It will be fun!

There were another person than lived in Germany.... Who was it again?

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 3, 2018

Freiburg? Nice!

I live in Heidelberg which is not too far. We should meet up! I promise, we will only speak in German, if that makes you happy :)

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 27, 2017

I will set myself a modest goal of 6 books this year. It should be possible, if I count all the books that I started and didn't finish, I think they are 5.

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: The State of Hubski: 2017

I have also been on and off this year on Hubski but every time I come back I am relived to find out that many people I like are still using it, new ones have come and the discussions are still great! Soon it will be 4 years since I joined Hubski!

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 27, 2017

I actually managed to read more books this year than in the last 5 combined. This was easy, as I didn't read a single book (okay, maybe one or two) in the 5 years before and this year I read 4 books!

Definitely not enough but it was a start, even though they were short books (Hermann Hesse)

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 27, 2017

Thank you for the advice. It sounds simple, write everything down, put priorities and stick to those. Review every week, rinse and repeat.

What do you have planned this year?

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Where Millennials Come From

I wonder why such problems didn't show up in Germany where unions are generally seen as something good for the people.

This story has been interesting to watch, Tesla vs. IG Metall in Germany

Cumol  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: What are you playing?

This sounds really nice. Do you play it online or is it an offline game?

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