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Location: Wisconsin, USA
Age: late 30s
Current preoccupation: swimming, running, cats, cycling
Preoccupations I'm not currently occupied by: Adirondack mountains, other mountains, hiking
Previous preoccupations: concerts, traveling to concerts, traveling to Tegan and Sara concerts, vacuum tubes, vinyl records
Role and purpose: I'm one of three people who do my job in my office. I've been doing this specific job for six years and have been at the company fifteen. One coworker has been here less than two years and did a somewhat similar but in many ways not at all similar job previously. The other is new to the role entirely and started a month ago. If I can manage the workload, I can help them get rolling.
I'm doing a winter swim group. It's a mix of newbies (like me) and some experienced but not phenomenal swimmers. Last time we swam we did some intervals: swim as fast as you can for a length of the pool. The guy next to me told me after that he was swimming to keep up with me. I was swimming to keep up with him.
I attend a group run on Tuesdays. There are about eight of us as reliable regulars, a few more hit-or-miss people, and then occasionally some totally new people. I'm not the fastest runner there (though I do OK), and I'm not the coolest runner there. But everyone seems to enjoy seeing everyone, and everyone is welcoming of the new people.
I think my purpose is to be that person that's in the background of people's lives but that provides some boost to their lives. I think I make their lives a little better. I may not be vital to their lives or their happiness, but I think they're a little happier.
I haven't done Franconia ridge but have done Algonquin. I've actually hiked Algonquin twice to the summit. The first time I tried it I turned back at the tree line in windy, winter conditions.
I think it's a good option for a beginner as long as you're reasonably fit. My first Adirondack hike was Wright Peak. Wright is located just off Algonquin, and the hikes are the same for 90% of the distance. Algonquin wouldn't really be any harder. While I'm more fit now, I didn't exercise regularly when I did Wright. The trail to Algonquin is pretty easy to follow. Above the tree line you should pay attention to where you went up so you can follow down the same way, but in good summer conditions it's a piece of cake to do.
Algonquin is an amazing hike and probably the best in the Adirondack High Peaks that's accessible to a beginner. Cascade is the "traditional" beginner summit, but I agree with your friends' suggestion for Algonquin.
I enjoyed reading that and enjoyed your prudence in not pushing across the Teklanika and your acknowledgement that a phone wasn't suitable backcountry guidance. Your english was very good.
What would you have done differently, if anything?
This is probably the right answer. It's still weird in my head because it's effectively absorbing the cash into my budget and then deciding to take it back out of a budget months later.
I do think there's some responsibility on the part of the gift giver to understand how their gift impacts the recipient. It's why pets are almost always a bad gift. I also get tripped up putting myself in her head because I don't grasp why she thinks cash is a great gift. It was when I was 15 or 20, but at 38 when she's 71, it isn't. It feels kind of infantilizing.
My mom has this idea that she's supposed to give her kids money at Christmas. Her dad did it. I suppose that's where she got the idea from. Her dad wasn't wealthy but was careful with his money. He shared his surplus with his kids, all of whom have kids (and corresponding bills) of their own.
My parents also are not wealthy but are not at all secure. I don't have kids. I don't know how to tell her while the $150 she gives me is no small sum, at the same time it has little impact on my life. I save money to buy a car or make a house down payment, and anything else is just budgeting. I've spent $150 on baggage fees alone on a single trip.
She should be keeping that money herself because it's a lot of money in her budget and, if she wants to do something for me, donate $20 to an animal shelter I adopted cats from. Or if she wants to give it away, give it to my sister who has kids and a lower household income than me.
I don't know how to explain this without sounding really ungrateful and arrogant.
"I wasn't told I should run from the zombies" with a shrug meant to gather sympathy over the flaw of someone else not giving them a step-by-step instruction is totally something they'd do.
It's disappointing because I know they're capable. I think some of it comes from a fear of making a mistake, so they put blinders on to anything not immediately pertinent and focus on just the task at hand.
Last week a coworker sent a group email about a computer glitch some people were seeing and how to fix it. Yesterday he mentioned it to the group again.
Today a different coworker asked me for help because they were having that problem. They said they didn't pay attention before because they weren't having the problem then.
It really annoys me, first because understanding the glitch was an opportunity to learn something even if it never affected them, and second because they wasted my time because of their apathy. It feels selfish. "This doesn't affect me so I don't care, and if I need to care later I'll just ask."