One of my computer science engineering students just wrote a blog about how he learned to communicate better. I'd love to share it with you. Is there an appropriate tag, like #lovememore or #getoffyourhighhorselil? No? I'll just go with the ever popular human condition.
We need more people in the world like you, lil. This post was such a welcoming read, made my day!
Awww I love this so much!
> When I failed to keep the deadline for my essay, she said "write me an apology email" - I had to look up "how to apologize" section in our binder.
😂😂😂
Sorry I'm laughing because if this is a collection of everything lil thinks and knows about apologies, he could not have anticipated what he was about to walk into.
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Yes it can! That's the main message.
Communication is also awareness - - of others, of multiple ways to see a conflict, of the effect of your words on others, and so much more. The hardest part of awareness is becoming aware of how you contribute to your own problems and conflicts. Once you're aware of that, everything, including how you communicate, has the potential to change.
Thank you for your comments. Thank you everyone.
I'm pretty sure I published my "how-to-apologize" stuff here on hubski FIRST -- as all my good stuff shows up here first.
Found it: Here's a really early version of the how-to-apologize instructions and some very insightful comments from kleinbl00 and others on that thread. The example posted then was a personal one. The one in the binder deals with conflicts occurring in teamwork/classwork.
- Ask what you can do to build trust: "Is there anything I can do to show you I'm really sorry about blowing up."
4a. is a favorite of mine I haven’t got to use. It shows you want to understand how to make it right by them on their terms (assuming it is something I’m willing and able to do).
One theme hinted at in that Hubski thread is ‘an apology is a change of behavior.’ Verbally stating the apology is just the beginning of ‘this is what I will do differently.’
Thanks for digging up that thread.
Yes - you picked up on some NVC -- When this happens, I feel this, because I need this. -- My student should have owned his feelings more directly and said, "I feel" instead of "it makes me feel," which is a little blamey - but the message was clear enough. Our own thoughts and hopes and expectations and assumptions make us feel things -- These needs and feelings are sparked by the actions and behaviours of other, but not caused by others.