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kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 23, 2018

    Almost every weekend is committed from now to mid-October

Goddamn. Travel? Work?

    because I'm committing to myself.

  Very nice.
kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 16, 2018

Judo! And yes, this is my first one.

kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: 25th Sporadic Quotes Jubilee

    If you look for the light, you can often find it. But if you look for the dark that is all you will ever see.

Yeah, it's a Legend of Korra quote. What of it.

kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 16, 2018

So she's the one advocating for spending more time together, and you're caught wondering whether you'll have time for her and said opportunities - or whether its worth re-evaluating your time with her? Makes me wonder what need isn't getting met on both ends. Maybe spending more time is the band-aid for something else she wants and vice versa? Whereas the wound could require less a time investment for treatment - since that seems to be the issue at hand.

Thanks for the reminder with the last sentence. Now that I'm at the point where intimacy is an option, I've been questioning why I'm here in the first place, LOL.

kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 16, 2018


Looking to Airbnb my last semester instead of subletting. Taking a martial arts course as a break to keep me in school over the summer while working part time. I get the impression adding another plate to spin would be nice. Give myself another week and we'll see.


I've been substituting a lot of time reaching out to others with quailty time with the lady friend. Partly since my go-to's have not been available. Starting to reconnect with them now that they are available. Each I've spoken with have made it sound as though I should be advancing my relationship with her. Not something I haven't thought of. Just not something I've committed to despite getting concrete, positive feedback.

kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 16, 2018

Best of luck tomorrow and in June! Central Office of Measurements reads like a light at the end of the tunnel arguments around money are pressuring you towards the end.

Sounds as though the past 3 years did a number on him as well.

kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 16, 2018

Nice photo of you two!

Curious about who's been tagging posts with #bubblewrapundies, had to do a couple searches to understand what it meant... (current understanding is its a reference to GenY and political correctedness). I'd like to think the expansion from gun rights discussion to racism and now the me too topic means the trend is more about current events on the whole - its not as though these discussions are new or came about when GenY grew old enough to talk/contribute to public discourse.

If you see the trend in what's been tagged, then I guess its worth pointing out that it's serving its purpose to open the discussion - wrong formatting or otherwise.

Sidenote, sorta wondering who made the tag and their idea for its inception. Since the current posts under the tag have a scope that could have included loads of older posts of late, wondering if it was a newer user. If so, does the promotion system grant new users the ability to add/change tags even if they haven't earned a full hubwheel.

kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Welcome to Hubski

    Can I ask if this is normal and if I have somehow violated a community rule?

Moderation is done by one's own hand on Hubski. The ability following, un-following, or muting tags extends to users alongside a couple more features. That said, I would hope others take agency into their own hands when it comes to curating their feed and what they want to get out of the site. Is it normal? It can happen. Did you violate any community rule? Nope, someone merely thought it wasn't worth the time for whatever the reason may be.

kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 25, 2018

Today is insane. I'm a bundle of nerves about how little I've reviewed for my comprehensive finals that I'm marathoning starting tomorrow through Saturday.

But. I also got to get a load off my chest by picking up the phone and chatting with my parents - surprisingly effective. Had some REAL shit come up after unloading my nerves, stresses, worries, etc. Hoping to revisit it after exams with my parents, some friends, and myself before making a cogent thread on here to discuss the topic of

drumroll please

Relationships, intimacy, and their roles with eachother.


As always (I'm human), this comes up a lot. The lady friend I've been meeting up with near weekly for a few months now is very open when it comes to speaking about her relationships and intimacy. Its refreshing to be open in an appropriate manner (with both party's (spelling?) boundaries being respected). Its given me space to seriously take a look at my own past romantic relationships.... And how fucked up some of my firsts were. In light of this, I'm looking forward to getting more information from my discussions after exams so I can break the cycle of my past relationships and improve my future ones. All-in-all, I feel really lucky to have this lady friend in my life who's held the space for me.

kantos  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: PSA: Get thoughtful or GTFO

I just promote peeps who talk about their own experience when they first join. Bots and marketers don't talk about themselves except as a foil to their products. Statistically, some of them will stick around, right?

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