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_refugee_  ·  123 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Pandemic is Over, the Deaths are Still Here

Hmm. Let me ask my brother and his wife, who actually work at Trader Joe’s, how many people they are seeing unmasked.

It’s likely to be at least a somewhat-more anecdotally-useful perspective, considering yours is that of a consumer who only goes to TJ’s sometimes and only gets to see a sliver of what the experience is actually like, as determined by time and place of visit, etc, etc.

Oh look — per their anecdotal reports which, despite being anecdotal, are more likely to be accurate than your own anecdata due to simply more time spent at the store and having a more extended perspective than that of a consumer looking to spend more than 15 minutes in a grocery — Signage about mask requirements has been 100% taken down as ordered by corporate

And their reports of maskless consumers are up around 5x. Btw, they live in the PNW just like you. It’s a different state, sure, but what else is really different?

Maybe you just must’ve missed it? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

You cannot take your outside experience as a consumer who is inside a grocery store for a minimal amount of time to be a true accounting of the difference this CDC announcement has made for the average grocery or retail worker. Full, fucking, stop.

It’s real cool that you didn’t observe a change in behavior when you went out and visually observed the situation for a coupla minutes.

It’s way different 24/7. Shut up about it

_refugee_  ·  126 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Fully Vaccinated People Can Stop Wearing Masks Indoors And Outdoors, CDC Says

Seriously, no shares on the post for all of your, any of this discussion? For shame on all of you

_refugee_  ·  128 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 12, 2021

Today I told my boss that if my department was going full time remote I needed to know what teams at (my place of employment) were going back to the office, because I needed to know what opportunities there would be for me before I decided to leave the company. That was in an email.

Within an hour she was pinging me telling me the unofficial news of what my department plans to do and assuring me it wouldn't be full time remote. and yadda, yadda

I mean, like, I was serious. I don't think she wants to lose me. But what I know for sure is I need to be HEARD AS HELL if management is even considering this decision. It's one thing if management makes a bad decision it's another thing if they make it under advisement from people who think it's a decision that sucks.

That stinks for your team. I think it's entirely reasonable for you to feel bad about possibly leaving your job and especially leaving your boss in a hard spot. Sometimes people get handed a shit stick, and it sucks. It sounds like you tried to raise a flag on the play a few times. And it sounds like there were a few other flags that maybe your manager could've twigged to -- the overtime, the time off. We actually have a whole training for managers that they have to take every year about recognizing exhaustion.

It's going to be a FUN KIND OF STRESS when you move for sure!! It won't even be stress. It's going to be hella exciting! When I picked up and moved multiple states to somewhere in quarantine where I couldn't even try to get to know anyone, I really thought there was going to be a lot more crying in my apartment alone...at night or in the rain or something....like maybe weekly...about how sad and alone i was....I thought there would be good times but i thought there would be a lot of that first also.

Turns out no. There ain't been NONE OF THAT ABOVE BOOOLLL shit. Life is scary. Risk it! It's going to pay out so much for you in the end. The next great adventure -- i'll drink to that.

_refugee_  ·  137 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 432nd Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately"

I've been obsessed

_refugee_  ·  138 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Picking up a new dog tomorrow

Yay moxie!!

_refugee_  ·  142 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 28, 2021

yes absolutely this about the mj use.

there's so many vectors! no wonder it can be so hard

_refugee_  ·  142 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 28, 2021

it's like 20-21 at this point! i would say i also want mine to be reasonably coverable so i am making the sacrifices of the upper parts of limbs first because uhmmmm one of the reasons i get tattoos is to show them off so other people know i am badass, duh! so it's kind of not fun when they're all hidden.

with this positioning i can ostensibly hide my tattoos at work.

but also i have inner finger and ring and wrist tattoos


I just really, really love tattoos. And I love the way an Am trad rose looks on a hand. there are some tattoos i don't love and won't probably ever get, a throat tattoo is really not for me in any capacity. but i'm absolutely planning on finishing out the inner finger set at some point, kind of cuz once in i'm in you know? they haven't fired me yet and i've got 3 of them done. also theoretically only in imaginary land my dream 2nd career is a tattoo artist (i just don't know how much I'd actually enjoy...you know, customers) so like yup. that's how i feel about tattoos. i fuckin' love 'em.

_refugee_  ·  142 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 28, 2021

So, dating.

I had one first date this past Sunday and I have 4 more lined up for this Thursday-Sunday. No double booking people -- at least not of yet. I'm approaching dating rather seriously this go round. The goal: find someone who I get along with and share a lot in common with, who I want to hang out with a lot!

It's interesting, this approach, because I've never quite tried something like this before. I'm using Hinge, thanks to the advice of several people, and it's going much, MUCH better than the playing field on OKCupid, so thank you for your recommendations. I've actually stepped a bit too far into the swimming pool as I have surplus of gentlemen who would like to meet. However, I'm absolutely refining and updating my selections for this weekend as various users seem less likely to pan out. I'm learning a great deal about some basic attributes I'm looking for in someone. For instance:

- i prefer someone who has experience in some kind of office environment mainly because if you don't you have no idea what the fuck i do and it's really hard to explain it; at least if you work in an office environment, i might be able to begin to explain it effectively

- also having a similar job = similar schedules, which is a big thing. i was awakened to the reality of this one when a bartender messaged me at 3 am hoping i kept "bartender hours." no, buddy, i'm sorry, but i almost never will message you back at 3 am. and i like to wake up at 7. most bar shifts start around the time i get off work you know?

- it's interesting how the pandemic has really diversified people's experiences of the past 18 months, and to be honest i'm going to have more in common with people who had similar experiences than i did. i have most in common with other people who went to full time work from home.

- obviously, i need someone with similar tattoo appreciation as I have, which i realized today when i messaged my thursday night date about tattoos and he had a decidedly lukewarm response!! something i didn't even THINK about until it happened!

- at this point, at this age, a guy with a kid or an ex wife is actually more interesting as a potential option than someone who's made it to 30 and no one has been willing to commit to yet

it's a game of quality AND quantity. there are a lot of great guys out there but once you start sorting out all the "obviously incompatible lifestyle" folks out the playing field dwindles. I am MOST excited for my date on Saturday. This person really has almost everything I am interested in...

....but now i realized i have to check about tattoos :)

_refugee_  ·  142 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 28, 2021

Tattoo today. Back later with evidence