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I think someone is describing your life, or what you'd like it to be.

_refugee_  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Der Papiermacher

This IS cool!

_refugee_  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 17, 2019

Of course

_refugee_  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: LOL no.

I really wanna spam them with password resets, but also, can't they write bots for this?

(This is the question I ask everyone now. I suspect the answer in this case is it would not be cost effective.)

_refugee_  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 3, 2019

Life is grand :) I'm very happy. I'm in my third week of my new job with my old boss who recruited me to this position. I told her in our 10:10 this week that my goal has been to hit it out of the park, and, well...kind of feels like I'm doing it. :)

I've also managed to email the president of the bank and tell my manager my goal is to become a VP in the past two weeks, so if it sounds like my enthusiasm and ambition have paired to climb off the charts, that would be an accurate perception. OH and I founded a work book club! We're going to read Strengthfinders 2.0 first. I'm excited.

I have goals outside of work too, that I've been working steadily towards. I'm maintaing a 60/40 sober days ratio (generally, only drinking Fridays and Saturdays with a few free days sprinkled in there -- I'm saving them for my VA work trip later this month for April). I continue to move towards my goal weight. After I hit that I'll start weightlifting; work has a subsidized gym and part of the $20/month payment includes 2 personal training sessions a week. HAHAHAH. It's so great I can't help but laugh.

This weekend I'm going to a friend's birthday party and I'm bringing a pinata. :D I'm going to Firefly this year, I'm going to my brother's wedding, I'm going to a bachelorette party, I'm having another Hot Ones party, oh and I think I'm going to a horror convention in October. Somewhere in there, I'm going to find a way to visit OftenBen. OH And I'm going to go see the rolling stones whenever my good buddy mick reschedules his tour after he recovers from heart surgery. GROUND. FLOOR. TICKETS, BAYBEEEE

I'm 100% debt free. We're renewing our lease this year so I can save disgusting amounts of money (my savings rate is something like 60%, thanks 401(k) and employer match). Since I've got a pretty defined goal of where I want to go in my career -- at minimum, I've committed to going the route of people management -- that also has got me pretty defined on where I'm going to live in the future. I finished "Thinking, Fast and Slow" by Kahnemann (great book btw -- tbh, "Predictable Irrationality" feels kind of like Thinking, Fast and Slow-lite in retrospect) which has a great chapter about base rates. If I want to be a people manager, I need to find a team to manage. Where are the most teams to manage? Well that would be VA of course. So even though I've decided not to move to VA this year, it seems pretty inevitable that's where I'll wind up. Just let me save a full down payment first. I'm really satisfied with the buying ability my new salary from my promotion is going to lend me, although it's highly ambitious to think I'll be able to avoid PMI as a result.

But guys, if I don't strike you as highly ambitious already, then maybe we need to get better acquainted, yes?

I made a sale on the Etsy store! More importantly, I read that book flac and I think it was applewood were talking about -- the Handmade Craft Business book? It was edifying. It was a little more than I needed in some respects, because it's designed for people who've quit their full time job and want to make a full time go of crafting -- and I'm far too in love with my job to do that -- but I think it's way better to get more information than you need and choose from it what will give you, personally, the most value -- than to not get enough information in the first place.

I'm single and while in the long term I continue to know I want a committed relationship, it's honestly very hard for me to even see where a partner would fit into my life right now. I love everything the way it is -- I love my independence, my planning and order, I love basically every choice I'm making. It's hard to envision adding a person to that without feeling limited. I'm very open to it. I'm on two dating apps and even drunkenly paid for 3 months of one -- because I have made a relationship one of my defined long term goals, and as a result feel the need to show progress in attempting to obtain it -- but I really think if/when I meet someone, it's going to be in person. And they are going to have a LOT to handle, let me tell you. :D

Let's see. What more could there possibly be to talk about? Life with my sister is great, and I continue to use that relationship to get better about communicating needs and working as a team with another person. About six months ago someone gave me a boot in the butt when they pointed out that I could complain to them about my sister all I wanted, but what I really needed was to communicate with her about my issues. Slowly but surely, I've been working on that. I think, in the long term, that's only going to make me a better partner for whoever I do fall for.

I really don't have a single thing to complain about. Wait, that's not true. My cat has loose and smelly poops!!!! But you know what? We're experimenting with food until we get her on the right diet.

Speaking of sobriety, the eye contact when you're sober and confident in yourself and have nothing to hide? It gets super intense. Ben can even see it just in photos.

Have a great weekend, y'all. With love, and tolerance.

For the record: Yeah, I'm ok. In fact, I'd say I'm screamingly more than ok. I just have no tolerance for people who act kind of like jerks, namean?

_refugee_  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 3, 2019

kleinbl00 is "fun" and hip, full of shoot first and ask questions later methodology. prove him wrong if you are willing to undertake a cult following similar to rocky horror picture show -- feed the gremlins at midnight -- style interaction

_refugee_  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: 'Mark all as read' button

You can "dismiss all" from notifications. Just wondering -- are you looking for a function which would be, effectively, an "ignore post"/"ignore future comments" function? Seems to me that might be a little different from a true "mark all as read" -- mainly because it would be a proactive function not a reactive...

_refugee_  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 6, 2019

Honestly I’m that kind of piece of shit that doesn’t want to die alone but apparently haaaaates dating (slash trying to make people like me) (slash interacting without talking about work in some way)

_refugee_  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Houseplants actually clean the air.

Still confused what random hubski user who’s chosen to exercise his right to block you has to do with article on plants but ehhh

The fact that a user had an account, deleted it, and then eventually decided they liked hubski enough to create a new account but opted to block you from it without ever interacting with you on the new account says loads more about you than them... but this post makes it sound like you wanna make it about them and how unreasonable they are for opting not to interact with you

God that lack of everyone’s internet likes clearly just burns you

Oh right PLUS that you try to publicly call the new user account out for it while you must know that this new fresh account is actively trying to avoid you without dredging up the past...else why would they create a fresh account/fresh start and pre-emptively choose to opt out of ... well ... all of you

If someone doesn’t want to interact with you, why can’t you let them

_refugee_  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Houseplants actually clean the air.

Such wow. Much shook (again! Twice now)

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