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oyster  ·  133 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: October 9, 2019

Planting mint in a pot works well, you can even plant the pot in your herb garden to keep the roots contained.

oyster  ·  133 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: October 9, 2019

I closed the email app I use for school before my assignment sent, spent weeks wondering when the prof was going to send me back my mark only to find out the email sent the next time I opened the app which was way too late. So ya, stay tuned to find out if he’ll accept it or if I am just destined to fail all the time.

oyster  ·  182 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: August 21, 2019

A friend has been posting lately that she keeps playing cards she finds because they tell a fortune as they can be used in place of tarot cards. She’s been doing this for a while but just started posting more recently and I thought it was interesting. My 26th birthday was last week and the bar I was at gives out playing cards when you leave for a moment so you can get back in if there’s a line. I didn’t need to take one as there wasn’t a line but I thought it would be fun. I shit you not this guy hands me the 10 of spades and when you quickly google that you read a lot about death, endings and hitting rock bottom so que me fucking leaving. It hit me moments later this was my first birthday, first milestone without my mom and the full weight of every motherless milestone started to be a real thing instead of this abstract painful thing I knew to expect in the future when I got married or had kids. The ending had already happened and this was the first realization of that. I’m not sure if I read this card correctly but this had clearly been weighing on me although it hadn't really entered my mind that day so I feel as though it served its purpose. Anyways, the door guy is probably still very confused by how he made me so upset, I’ll have to remember to explain next time I see him.

I’ve developed a bit of an interest in tarot cards now. I still only own playing cards but they’ve proven quite useful in the 2 tarot spreads for questions like where am I now ( feeling trapped )/ what’s blocking me ( fear from within, fear of setbacks ) because that’s weirdly accurate. It’s also weirdly comforting. So I decided to ask what’s next with the 10 of spades in mind, what comes after this ending and I received the Joker.

This is also known as the Fool in tarot decks, one of the only cards you can see as upright or reversed. This one was upright and in this position the card represents new beginnings, opportunity and potential. I know this stuff seems silly but this has been a trip.

Now the idea of getting a “real” deck is seeming less appealing, I'm feeling very connected with these cards.

oyster  ·  182 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Love Letter to Anyone Who Struggled to Shower Today

Hey kid, this post is about people with disabilities and touches on how something seemingly simple to somebody like you and me can actually be very difficult.

A while back I had a family of 3 sitting at my bar: mom, dad and their daughter who happened to have Down Syndrome. I told them what city I was originally from and they asked me if I found it was accessible for somebody like their daughter or if the people were accepting/kind. I responded I wanted to say yes but I could really never know and that there’s probably so many small things I don’t even think about that make her life more difficult. I had a great conversation and got a very nice tip, but I also realized I likely wouldn’t have responded that way years prior as my first instinct really was to say yes.

Life isn’t just about trying to be the funny guy, sometimes it’s cool to have a little compassion and expand your horizons.

oyster  ·  183 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hi Hubski! What are some of your private rituals?

I recently started the same ritual before a trip, I’ll clean everything and have all my laundry done but having roommates makes it trickier. I can only guarantee my own room and nothing puts me in a sour mood faster than the rest of the house being a disaster after a solid 12 hours of travelling.

oyster  ·  196 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: August 7, 2019

Are you living on or off campus ? If you’re not living in dorms I would make a conscious effort to be active in student life activities or find some club to be apart of so you meet people outside of your classes. It can be really easy to not go when you live off campus but make sure you force yourself to get involved, you’re experience will only benefit in the long run. As far as the studying, just be organized. My planner sets 3 weekly goals and 3 daily ones and that helps me stay on top of things so they don’t pile up. Also, do the readings in the textbook or other sources. I’ve watched so many people wracking their brain trying to study what they learnt in the lecture for hours when they could have spent a faction of time reading the damn textbook or watching the video the prof set and understanding it. I do my best when I sit down with the readings as well as the notes I took in class and combine them into one big great note. Hope this helps ! Don’t forget to make time to have fun and get involved, a good planner will help you see you have time for it on top of studying !

On one hand they’re racist and on the other all these people are likely the type to tell their wives/children the same toxic bullshit about how they should shut up and be happy with what they’re given even when boundaries are being trampled and they’re being downright abusive. So in other words they’re also just awful people to everybody they perceive as lower than them, probably enough white people sprinkled in for them to convince themselves it’s not about race.

oyster  ·  205 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: "Hospitals could be fined up to $300 a day "

Does this actually benefit poor or middle income communities ? Like I’m not going to shop around for an MRI, I’m going to go to the place that has the soonest appointment I can make. Money isn’t the only factor here either, now if somebody waits for medical care too long and gets sicker it’s their fault instead of the governments because they picked the cheaper option. Is the wait time for procedures so short that this isn’t an issue in every community, not just the affluent ones ? And don’t insurance companies have specific areas they will cover care for ? Isn’t somebody just going to go to a clinic out of their area thinking they found the cheapest option just to be shafted by their insurance company ? This all sounds shady AF but I’m not American, I don’t know exactly how the system works.

oyster  ·  209 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Ridiculous Fantasy of a ‘No Drama’ Relationship

It’s funny, my initial impression of her issue with somebody looking for a “drama free” relationship was the same as in this woman likely is reading too much into what somebody is asking for in that situation. Having said that as soon as she mentioned his dating profile described him as “100% drama free” I immediately grow skeptical.

What I’m going to read into that is that you’ve had a lot of dramatic ex’s, so much so that you feel the need to put it up front row when seeking a new person and then you follow it up with “I was never the problem though” or “ I don’t secretly live for this shit and unconsciously invite it into my life”

I don’t think I would ever think to add no drama or drama free into a dating profile, it would turn me off because that screams that you have a TON of baggage. I grew out of the phase in my life where being told I’m not like other girls or that it’s so much easier to be around me was in any way flattering. Most of the time it just meant you were a doormat with no clear boundaries. So ya, I would be skeptical of both men and women saying they’re soooo over the drama, it all just seems a bit dramatic to me.

Was that the actual fucking subject line ? I can’t handle how completely serious yet absolutely ridiculous this whole got damn presidency has been.

oyster  ·  218 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Racist in the White House

The line of what is too far and unacceptable to these people is creeping steadily towards mass genocide as Trumps administration continues to dehumanize entire groups of people. When somebodies response to causing children lifelong psychological trauma by putting them in cages is but did there parents bring them here legally there isn’t a lot they would perceive as racist. I was extremely tempted to follow these people around until they complained about something like road work so I could tell them to go back to their own country if they don’t like it and fix their own awful crumbling infrastructure.

oyster  ·  219 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Racist in the White House

Man, we get a lot of American tourists where I live and I just watched 2 try to figure the internet out for a solid 15 minutes until they found his tweets and one chuckled and said “ so I guess that’s what’s considered racist these days”. All hope is lost.

oyster  ·  241 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How Zoning Laws Are Holding Back America's Cities

Oh but it is if you love logic.

oyster  ·  265 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 'I Am A Woman': Track Star Caster Semenya Continues Her Fight To Compete As A Female

Absolutely, if this happened in men’s sports people would claim it was an attack on masculinity.

oyster  ·  296 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Endgame is not a very good movie

If you copy and then paste in the notes app it shows the text. Not ideal, but it works.

oyster  ·  330 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 27, 2019

I’ve spent like 5 years trying to decide on the source of my absolute shit ability to form attachments and honestly some days I’m still not convinced. On one hand I think it’s all been worth it to understand myself better, but on the other it’s more important to acknowledge and accept who you are so you can deal with it going forward. Don’t dwell on not knowing what the cause is, but don’t be surprised if it hits you like a brick wall if you decide to work on this either. I have a friend who’s similar to you, for them it seems like having a very emotionally intuitive mother but distant father has left them feeling their emotions with no idea how to process it. You could be completely different though. Normally by moving forward that stuff becomes clear.

Progressing “clearly” isn’t really a thing in my experience, you’ll just work on yourself for a while and then one day realize something you’re doing would have made you more anxious a year ago. Then you might get knocked down again but that’s okay because you know that you’re capable of overcoming it. That’s normally how I get through rough patches now, telling myself I’ve done this before so I can do it again and just hoping life doesn’t knock me down too much that it stops feeling worth the effort. I think that’s a high self esteem thought.

I like reading books and I can point to a few things my therapist have had me do that helped like jotting down my feelings through out the day to becomes more aware but you’ll likely have to just find what works for you over time with trial and error. Just make sure to remember nothing that doesn’t work was a waste of time, it gets you closer to understanding what will work. This wasn’t the most positive addition but I think managing expectations is important. It’ll take time and if you’re the kind of person who likes clear objectives or progress plans you won’t want to stick with it. Do it anyways.

oyster  ·  350 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Sometimes Whistleblowing Works

The only damper on this news is that the vast majority of Canadians are too stupid to realize that the federal cons would have done the exact same thing if in power as they were in power during multiple scandals involving the same company. The faux outrage of the right is unfortunately evident on both sides of the border and the saddest thing is how well it works.

oyster  ·  392 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 23, 2019

W-wait, was it the price ? I looked at the site trying to find why it was a stupid choice and settled on the price not being it very quickly. Being a millennial suck.