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HairyLenny  ·  1641 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, what are your side projects?  ·  

I've just started my side-career as a Dementia Friends champion. Basically I go around delivering DF information session which give people a better understanding of what dementia is and what it's like to live with. I hope it'll be as rewarding as I expect. I'm also doing what I can to make my local area a dementia friendly community.

HairyLenny  ·  1844 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, have you ever been on anti-depressants? What was it like?

Numbing. I was on them years ago. I stopped taking them because they also stopped me feeling good. I have friends who are on them and manage just fine, but I would never go back. It's a long time since I felt truly depressed and I'm thankful that I doubt I ever will again, but I also know that for some people it will never go away so I don't judge anybody for however they cope with life.

HairyLenny  ·  1853 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How the Ballpoint Pen Killed Cursive

I've always had terrible handwriting. A few weeks ago I figured out that by holding the pen lower down I can improve the quality dramatically. I'm 36.

HairyLenny  ·  1887 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Where Did You Wake Up Today?

I woke up with the sun, wrapped up around me SO. I slowly wriggled my way out of bed, leaving her to sleep while I went downstairs to read in the peace and quiet of a Sunday morning in our house.

The rest of the week we have at least two children and her mother about so it was nice this morning to browse NFL news and read my book while listening to music on my own.

HairyLenny  ·  1889 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Do some words bother you?

I'm not bothered by any, I actually like the word "moist". It's one of those words that sounds like what it means. I understand why people are offended by many words too, but I have none that would offend me. It's the intention that I'm bothered about. Should someone call me a cunt, I'd be more concerned about whether or not they intended offense than the history of the word itself.

HairyLenny  ·  1898 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What is your big accomplishment for the week?

No, I was told by someone else as confirmation after I had figured it out. He will find out one way or another. And it will break him. He will probably be able to get himself back together again, but there's a strong possibility you won't be there to see that.

I'm happy for you that you don't feel guilty, that must make it a lot easier for you to look him in the eye. But the fact it's just casual sex and not an emotional relationship will make absolutely no difference to him.

You aren't just destroying your marriage, you're destroying his social circle too. He won't know who knew, who helped cover it up, and worse, who he can trust. He may never recover. I have one friend from before my ex-wife's infidelity. One. Sure I see most of the others every so often. I can smile and joke with them. But I no longer see them as friends and do not trust them.

Just because you get a kick out of something and think you can cover it up; it doesn't mean it's okay to do it.

HairyLenny  ·  1899 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What movie have you re-watched the most?

Donny Darko. I had to figure it out, then I did and I've rarely watched it since. Either that or It's A Wonderful Life since I try to watch it every xmas.

HairyLenny  ·  1899 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Spouses of Hubski: how much did you pay for your wedding?

Myself and my ex, instead of spending a fortune on everything we asked friends that instead of buying presents they contribute to the day. One group organised a buffet, another sorted the rings, the car was provided by the best man and his family. It was probably the only great thing about the marriage. Everybody felt part of it and had a good time. I spent a total of £3,000 including a long weekend away in the countryside.

HairyLenny  ·  1899 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What is your big accomplishment for the week?

I'm spending it hosting my autistic brother for a holiday. So far we've been on three big days out. I'm absolutely exhausted, but haven't snapped at him once.

HairyLenny  ·  1899 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What is your big accomplishment for the week?

Speaking as someone who has been in your husband's shoes, unless he's into hotwifing or something similar, he's definitely not going to be as happy about this as you are. You know how good you're feeling? Multiply it by a hundred and make it a negative, that's how it feels from the other side. The are better ways of saving your marriage than betrayal.

HairyLenny  ·  1901 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 131st Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately" Thread

I've just got into this guy, Jarrod Dickenson. Just beautiful.

HairyLenny  ·  1902 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What's your favorite question?

See, when I do it, it's genuine but, "alright?" is used so frequently as a greeting here in the UK that the vast majority of the time, the person asking it doesn't really give a shit. It's sad because there are so many ways to improve a person's day just by giving a few moments just listening to their response.

I used to long for people to ask me, and when they did I'd say I was fine when I wasn't because I suspected they didn't care. No I am fine and when I ask, it's because I care.

There are customers in the store I work at who will now just wander round chatting to me while I work and they leave with a smile (and I smile too) just because I'm willing to listen to them.

HairyLenny  ·  1902 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What's your favorite question?


I love when kids ask me that and used to have hours long discussions with my boy because of it. It's the greatest question in the world because there's no explanation you won't uncover with a well placed, "why?"

HairyLenny  ·  1902 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What food would you like to always have on hand?

I'd recommend these guys if you're UK based. I don't know if they ship internationally but it wouldn't hurt to ask. They have a few things on Etsy too.


HairyLenny  ·  1904 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Reddit Apologises

The Patriots.

I'm not surprised by the response, people aren't that stupid. The problem is, until the content creators get so fed up with it all they leave the website, there will be no effect since the majority of traffic is people lurking or driven by people sharing the links on their facebook and twitter feeds.

HairyLenny  ·  1904 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are Hubski's Political Views?

    That just means that we'll have rulers naturally selected based on their access to valuable resources and labor for which others are willing to pay highly.
The fact that the bodies are chosen by the people they represent (like a labour union) they can be replaced as soon as they are seen to be doing something their constituents don't like. (Instead of having to wait up to four years as is the case in the current system.

As for the self policing idea, since the representatives are not anything more than simply representatives, should they decide that only the purples had to work, the purples could have that person replaced immediately since there's no need to wait for an election.

Of course the elderly and sick etc wouldn't have to work, 0% unemployment doesn't mean that, it means that everybody who can work, does. With a welfare system to care for those who are more vulnerable and an education system that actually teaches children things that can help them contribute to society.

If group X wants something that group Y prooduces but group Y wants nothing group X produces then group Z can get involved in a trade. Similar to how multi-team trades work in baseball. X wants timber which is produced by Y. Y wants grain which is produced by Z. Z wants fruit which is produceed by X. X sends fruit to Z in exchange for grain which it then trades with Y for timber.