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demure  ·  11 hours ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Oklahoma bill would establish a Bigfoot hunting season

mk #spamski :)

demure  ·  22 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: FRIENDSHIPS in the Covidium

Likewise! Now there's a face to the name :)

demure  ·  22 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: FRIENDSHIPS in the Covidium

It's been nearly a month, but here we go.

    Has Covid changed your understanding of friendship?

Not exactly. Maybe it was a little different for me since I haven’t lived near some of my closest friends for a few years already. We were already used to catching up over the phone or video call. With in-person socializing extremely limited (because I’m now living at home again and don’t want my parents to get sick), I tend to call them more often than I used to, and it feels like each of those conversations are more helpful from an ‘improving my level of happiness’ perspective than they used to be. The friends who were already on the periphery, who I didn't make regular plans with or who I only saw regularly in a specific in-person context, have drifted away.

I still hang out with some of my former college roommates in much the same way that we used to, but instead of playing video games in the living room or chatting while making dinner in the kitchen we now play together over the internet and talk then.

The differences become apparent in making plans to meet up in person, and the friends with whom I haven’t spoken in a while. In-person plans have mostly dried up. Many of my college friends are now living in other parts of the country. The ones who are here are either also living with their parents or have significant others (meaning their weekends are generally unavailable). I have some friends who are still in college, and I visited them occasionally last year, but with the renewed lockdowns, I haven’t gone back to campus since maybe October. I had plans to visit a friend (via plane) last autumn that I canceled due to work...and now with the new more virulent strain circulating, I’m not sure I’ll be able to see them for a while longer. I doubt the cancellation was really worth it, in the long run. The only solace is that I think (selfishly) I’ll be able to get the vaccine a little sooner, as an essential infrastructure worker.

Then there are the re-connections with people I haven’t talked to in a long time. While only over the phone / video, its been nice to rekindle those friendships. I had some hope of being able to reach an old friend of mine who (for reasons that I truly don’t know / haven’t been able to figure out / don’t understand) ghosted me a few years ago, but even a global pandemic had no effect on that, I’m afraid. I’ve basically moved on from that friendship but it’s tough when they show up in your dreams a few times a year and in your dream you’ve reconnected…

Covid underscored the distinction in social interaction between family, friends, and co-workers. I’ve always been an introvert, but I don’t think I realized until this whole thing went down the importance to me of the everyday things in friendships—the little moments. And despite (or because?) living at home with family right now, I feel an intense isolation.

demure  ·  32 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 23, 2020

classic or skate? I love cross-country skiing

demure  ·  33 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: All Hail To Rudolph


    Geese are probably not extraterrestrial in origin (paper)
demure  ·  40 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Google is down.

I doubt it. Google builds in-house when possible. They have lots of internal software that is never seen outside the organization. A place like that's not buying SolarWinds software.

demure  ·  41 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Capiche.fm: phone radio

Periscope meets podcasting?

demure  ·  43 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 412th Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately"

Elm · Clever Girl

demure  ·  46 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 10th Anniversary Hubski Meetup Is On and

steve this is the chair

lovely seeing you all

demure  ·  49 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: FRIENDSHIPS in the Covidium

I would like to contribute something meaningful to this space soon, but in the meanwhile:

it's a post full of 3-letter-username-folks!

lil nil g5w pho

demure  ·  51 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Airlines will no longer be required to transport emotional support animals

The following story is, at best, tangentially related to emotional support animals.

When I was growing up, we were on vacation and visited this restaurant where there happened to be a man making balloon animals. I was a weird kid and so when he asked me what balloon animal I wanted, I told him I wanted him to make me a balloon hat. I think I said something along the lines of "can you please make me an abstract balloon hat? as large as possible?"

It was an amazing hat. It was a tetrahedron at its core (the hat part) and had a bunch of corkscrews, flowers, you name it, stemming off of the hat base.

I loved that balloon hat. But we flew to this vacation. In the airport while we were waiting for the plane, my parents set me up for the inevitable, where the flight attendant would tell me that I wouldn't be able to keep the hat. But as we boarded the plane, THEY FOUND A PLACE FOR IT! Some kind soul had an empty seat next to them and they agreed to watch my balloon hat for me.

Mid-flight it probably scared the shit out of them once or twice as a couple of the balloons popped due to pressure changes.

I kept that hat for months (kudos to the balloon man's knot skills) until all the balloons went flat.

I wish I had a picture. I think kleinbl00's neighbor would've appreciated it.

demure  ·  53 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 2, 2020

I would argue that investing in BTC and ETH is not a good analogue for what you can expect from a stock exchange. Have more thoughts to add later.

demure  ·  54 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: return of the bread

    PROTIP: garlic salt and dried onion inhibits yeast growth.

TIL. Though I'm kind of surprised this happened if you replaced your ordinary salt with garlic salt.

    The local grocery store... stopped carrying yeast in March.


I remember March. The days where I had to be in the door at Trader Joes within the first 30 minutes of opening to get a single bag of flour. They were out for a couple of weeks--yeast too.

    It's one of the many reasons I no longer shop there.

What are the other reasons?