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orbat  ·  6 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I told someone off today. In an extremely nasty way.

You're right on the money here. And, as said, of course this is a very one-sided account and he has his own version, but despite acting like an absolute bastard I just can't manage to feel I was entirely in the wrong here.

He's just got so little capacity for self-reflection that I doubt he'll be learning anything from any of this, if the past 23 years are any indicator. Who knows, people can change, but he's always treated women like shit in general (he's the sort of person who'll grab someone's ass when drunk. He got fired for it once…) and I just don't know if that sort of "feature" can be fixed in any meaningful way considering his personality.

But thanks for letting me vent. This was honestly a pretty terrible experience all around and it's nice to be able to let some of this steam out at random internet people.

orbat  ·  8 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I told someone off today. In an extremely nasty way.

The "hilarious" part is that he's always very much poly (without the actual ethical discussion) when it's his new fling.

Every damn time the tables are reversed, he suddenly turns into a "nuclear family is very important to me" person. Literally fucking said that. Had to laugh in disbelief / grief / sheer terror.

orbat  ·  8 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I told someone off today. In an extremely nasty way.

    You did your friend a service telling him those things even if he doesn't see it that way now

And what gets me here is that he likely won't learn a thing.

But holy shit did it feel good telling that fucker off. "It was like taking off tight shoes".

Which is also why I feel terrible about this, but I did my part as ethically as I had the energy to. Dude decides to flip his lid at that, that's his shame and not mine. Even tried to involve my wife in this, since he assumed I'd kept her in the dark and that lying to her woud get him a sympathetic ally. Did not go as he expected.

orbat  ·  16 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: In The Beginning: The Front Page Of The Internet Is Using Ethereum

    So.... capitalism?

Standard solutionist techbro answer to more or less anything. To paraphrase the old joke, "if capitalism didn't solve your problem, you just didn't use enough of it"

orbat  ·  16 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: In The Beginning: The Front Page Of The Internet Is Using Ethereum

    still haven't really figured out how to actually monetize their userbase (which is not necessarily a bad thing).

Turns out monetizing racist misogynists is hard

orbat  ·  16 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Cats can infect other cats with coronavirus

If killing all humans makes the world a better place, should we?

I'm not entirely sure I'm joking.

orbat  ·  48 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Utah County sees 75% increase in domestic violence 911 calls during pandemic | KUTV

I'm going to be surprised if we don't have one or more right-wing dictatorships pop up due to this. Hungary is practically there already

orbat  ·  65 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: US jobless claims soar past 3 million to record high

I honestly wonder what will happen to the world economy. Most countries are still dealing with just the first wave, and since SARS-CoV-2 is likely to go endemic (i.e. we'll probably have a corona season just like we have a flu season) this is not going to stop until we have a vaccination and probably not even then (we have a vaccination for influenza but it hasn't disappeared).

orbat  ·  141 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hallmark Movies are Fascist Propaganda

Americans are deeply weird. I honestly have a hard time processing the whole mega-church televangelism thing; it's like a capitalist fever dream version of religion

orbat  ·  141 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Planting trees alone will not stop global warming

Congratulations, that's one of the requirements for getting the job

orbat  ·  174 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Nature's 'Brita Filter' Is Dying and Nobody Knows Why

    There's even evidence they can remove man-made contaminants from water, like pharmaceuticals, flame retardants and personal care products.

No wonder they're dying in droves, then?

orbat  ·  206 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Suspicion makes us human

I take it you didn't read the summaries or the studies? They're not mixing up correlation with causality, you're just assuming researchers can't do their jobs because they don't understand basic statistics.

The climate pooch is so thoroughly screwed that I'm glad to be 40; I may not have to see the worst of what's likely coming up. It's no wonder just about everyone I know who's my age or younger has some level of climate anxiety. I personally feel pretty hopeless about our chances: we're just smart enough to be able to fuck things up at scale, but not smart enough to do anything about it once it's become apparent

orbat  ·  273 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: United by feelings

This subject is really endlessly fascinating. Peoples' propensity towards thinking that rationality and emotion are somehow separate, that emotions are something that need to be suppressed because they make you less rational is something of a pet peeve of mine, so this ties into that in interesting ways