Today I told my boss that if my department was going full time remote I needed to know what teams at (my place of employment) were going back to the office, because I needed to know what opportunities there would be for me before I decided to leave the company. That was in an email.
Within an hour she was pinging me telling me the unofficial news of what my department plans to do and assuring me it wouldn't be full time remote. and yadda, yadda
I mean, like, I was serious. I don't think she wants to lose me. But what I know for sure is I need to be HEARD AS HELL if management is even considering this decision. It's one thing if management makes a bad decision it's another thing if they make it under advisement from people who think it's a decision that sucks.
That stinks for your team. I think it's entirely reasonable for you to feel bad about possibly leaving your job and especially leaving your boss in a hard spot. Sometimes people get handed a shit stick, and it sucks. It sounds like you tried to raise a flag on the play a few times. And it sounds like there were a few other flags that maybe your manager could've twigged to -- the overtime, the time off. We actually have a whole training for managers that they have to take every year about recognizing exhaustion.
It's going to be a FUN KIND OF STRESS when you move for sure!! It won't even be stress. It's going to be hella exciting! When I picked up and moved multiple states to somewhere in quarantine where I couldn't even try to get to know anyone, I really thought there was going to be a lot more crying in my apartment alone...at night or in the rain or something....like maybe weekly...about how sad and alone i was....I thought there would be good times but i thought there would be a lot of that first also.
Turns out no. There ain't been NONE OF THAT ABOVE BOOOLLL shit. Life is scary. Risk it! It's going to pay out so much for you in the end. The next great adventure -- i'll drink to that.