I am enamored of the word 'fiancee.' We really enjoy using it, especially around family who get a lil uncomfortable when they hear it because we are both the oldest children in our respective families. Congrats on the office and chair. Comfy seats often come with inversely comfortable responsibilities. Hope things settle out and you're able to find the staff you need and a schedule that works for you rather than against you. I just don't know if I'll ever get used to the word "wife", she'll always be my girlfriend.
Motherfucker you snapchat me your dinner but don’t tell me you’re engaged??
Ha, sorry hoss. What can I say? I don't feel any different, she doesn't feel any different. We've been having conversations related to it for a while. We were talking with her little cousins around the holidays and one of the middle-school aged boys asked me all wide eyed 'Wait, you asked my cousin to marry you? What if she said no?' and I had to explain to him that you don't just ask someone that question out of the blue. You have to talk about it first and make sure you want similar things in life.
Silly rabbit. First off, CONGRATULATIONS. I'm glad neither of you feel any different. That bodes well. Some helpful advice? The reason you don't feel any different is this isn't news to you it's news to everyone around you. A marriage isn't really a deal between you and your spouse so much as it's a deal between you and your spouse and society. As such, you will experience less friction if you look at everything through the lens of "what would my casual friends and family think?" Which is not to say you aren't driving the bus... but how you choose to conduct yourself through this awkward engagement period is pretty much a choice as to how you wish to present the union to those around you. And societal expectations are pretty set on "don't bury the lede." It makes people feel awkward. Celebrations aren't for us, they're for the people around us and you don't want to deny people the right to celebrate with you (on your terms - but you have to give them the notice). Also - don't go with the ring you want. Go with the ring she wants. TRUST ME ON THIS. From what I know jewelry is largely designed in Rhino these days.
You think my thick-fingered self is gonna draft this up solo? It's a very collaborative process. Collaborative in that she doesn't really care for jewelry and would just as soon stop by the courthouse on our way to pick up milk. My girl is all about meaning, could give half a fuck about the symbols used.Also - don't go with the ring you want. Go with the ring she wants. TRUST ME ON THIS.
I've found that "wife" is the legal designation, and "my love" is the personal one. "I'll ask my love if she's available on Wednesday..." "My wife and I would like to apply for a loan..." Just wait until you start wondering about the modifier my, and whether that sounds like you OWN her, or...
This is my office even at full staff so I feel you. I have to write down everything I need to do or it won't happen and every time I look at my to do list it feels a little like I have fallen into a pit that keeps getting deeper no matter how hard I climb. Keep pushing and hopefully we will make it through!Work is stressful. I barely have enough employees to cover our needs, So I'm picking up a lot of the extra hours. I have a LOT of different projects I'm working on and a lot of the small day to day stuff has gotten hard to handle.