You want this to be a big decision. It's not. You want this to be a life choices decision. It's not. You want this to momentously define you one way or the other. It won't. Take the job. It is SO much easier to find a better job when you have a job than it is to find any job when you don't. Every fight you'll ever have with a spouse will have roots in money. Every concern you will experience in the next ten years will have its roots in money. If you have enough money to cover your needs, you will find that you are a lot less stressed out. You will quit this job. You will get a better one, or possibly a worse one, or possibly a completely different yet somehow the same one. And you will look back and you will forgive yourself for thinking that the job mattered, that this choice mattered, that it was worth all this heartbreak. And you will know down to your very bones that you felt this way because they lied to you. Because they want you to feel this way. Because they want to fleece you of your initiative with the same crass techniques that had you trade your credit history for a t-shirt Freshman year. Take the job. Use your benefits to talk to a shrink to wrap your head around the fact that you are fully in control of your own destiny. No, not at the job. NOW. You've got better health care at college than you will at your job, fuckin' use it, son. It's going to be all right, I promise.
Thanks kleinbl00. I'm fairly embarrassed by this post because I drunkenly mistook Benadryl for Advil when I made it, as well as the other post if you didn't notice. It was kind of apparent and I took a break from everything due to that. I know what you are saying I have contacted the university to talk to a psychologist and am working through the paperwork(I have a lot of work to do as it is, so I haven't had that much time). You give some very hard knock advice, and sometimes that is what people need. I have felt a lot better about things since I started making moves to figure things out. Just felt like I should let you know that I'm still here and paying attention, and taking in not just yours but all of the people who posted here's input. It just hasn't been as easy to deal with everything that has been going on especially once I went back to school, with how busy I am now. Especially lil too. She kind of called me out on being super ridiculous and told me I should think things out sober, and she was right. I had been drinking too much previously and honestly that's how the whole situation came about, but I was obviously at a loss. Again, I appreciate all of your input. Thanks for helping me out despite me being stupid about it.
Honestly, my grandma was forced to be a nazi driver. She escaped around 1939, but only she knows of the atrocities that were committed in her name, at least in her transport. I have taken two holocaust courses now, and I'm so sorry about your family. What I'm curious about is your position on what is called the "banality of evil?" Do you think it really exists or do you think people deserve individual judgement on these matters. My grandma is one of the strongest and most caring people in my life. She left early but she may have driven hundreds of people to their deaths. But she got out of there as soon as possible for her. Do you think she should have been judged? I honestly don't even know if you are Jewish, if it's worth it I'll post an askhubski about it.
Many people in Europe were anti-Nazi. Many were pro-Nazi ideology, or went along with them for personal enrichment, out of fear, ignorance or other reasons. What we call evil, others call virtue. Hannah Arendt was probably right about Eichmann, or maybe Eichmann was lying. Some people are willing to follow orders, others, like your grandma got out as soon as she could. I'm grateful my grandparents left Warsaw when they did (1926). I am grateful that I don't live in a dictatorship or fascist regime.
Haha. No it was a typo. Easy to do on a phone. Sorry about the Gestapo thing. It didn't occur to me that it would be offensive, but of course I can understand that it is. I should've gone with the Stasi, but I don't like to edit screw ups that serve to remind me not to do the same thing in the future. I will if you would prefer, however.
Sometimes I have to re-correct a word Autocorrect thinks it is "fixing" for me 3-4 times before it lets me pass it. On the bright side I have finally taught it "ain't." On the down side it refuses, absolutely refuses, to learn curses. It will stop correcting them for me but it won't ever auto- to a curse.
This guy. You win again. @redsox44344, this really is the only answer. You put in the time for your degree and now is the time to make it work for you. Even if this opportunity doesn't come close to the top of your most desired jobs list, you will be making real money and have real benefits. Like @kleinbl00 said, the best time to find another job is when you already have one. Stepping stones, etc. That said, it sounds like you're dealing with burnout more than anything else. Good news there too: more than likely you just need a real change of pace, and more than likely, that is exactly what you will get upon entering the commercial sector. Take the plunge. If it doesn't work, I'm fairly confident in your ability to submit resumes elsewhere..
Hey wolo, thanks for the response. I guess you could say I was burning out at the time. I was more frustrated than anything, being unable to do much that I usually use to keep me sane. I'm usually fairly good at tiring myself out to the point that I just need to sleep but as the community has seen, I've hit a different and slightly embarrassing type of bump. i.e I can't really sleep no matter what. I don't know if you've experienced something different or something similar, as interesting as kleinbl00 can be, I refuse to follow him and some other extremely notable members of the site for his own reason; he is essentially a power user of Hubski. If he wanted to, he could pretty much collapse what makes this site a third place by overloading it with information that he decided was true due to his large amount of followers. That's why I follow the chatter feed and the global feed. I also have a strong respect for him for not abusing this power and allowing Hubski to fix this problem within itself, and I'm entirely sure kleinbl00 is in contact with mk and thenewgreen as well as the rest of the admins with solutions to the problem. Kind of side tracked there, but I figured it was worth it I guess. I respect kleinbl00 as well as how he contributes to Hubski, but a lot of people see him as some kind of deciding figure on the community despite being not a moderator. He has strong, supported opinions, but don't forget about all of the other great users on the site is I guess what I'm trying to say. He might be a warlord within internet arguments, but that doesn't necessarily mean he's always right, no matter what.
You made a post titled "advice" not a post titled "ask me more questions," and people have given you some sound advice here. I agree with others that kb's advice is spot on. This is not because he has "x" numbers of followers, it's because he has some perspective. I've been where you are at, I wasn't sure if I should take a job out of college managing a fine-dining restaurant because I didn't know if that's what I wanted to do with my life. Guess what? I took the job and the experience led to a job selling restaurant supplies and equipment, which led to a better job selling restaurant supplies, which led to me going back to school and getting a business degree so that I could transition in to selling in the finance world. -You never know where life will take you. My guess is that even if I didn't take the first job, I'd be in a similar place now based on my skill sets. Take the gig, KB is also right that it's soooo much easier to find a job when you have one. This was my first concern with insomniasexx quitting her job recently. Then after talking with her I realized she had a good plan in place and I rest assured. As for the "power user" thing, I may have a lot of followers but the minute I'm am asshole that won't matter. Much like on twitter, if someone sucks they can be filtered out of your experience. I really do think the "power user" phenomenon is diminished here. Think about it, eightbitsamurai has in a short time garnered great favor and praise in this community because of great comments and posts. Is he a power user? I guess I don't really understand the fear or disdain for a "power user" as it relates to the architecture here. As for KB being in touch with the admins, aside from he and I being friendly off Hubski via texts and email (mostly about family, music, and writing) all of his advice about Hubski are public record and are given alongside the advice from other users. If a suggestion from him or anyone else is ever adopted, it's done so based on the merit of the proposal and not the "power" of the user. This plays zero role in anything g we do to the site. That said, I think KB is a fantastic contributor to the community and many of his suggestions have been adopted because they're good ideas. Also, I think he put some thought in to the advice you asked for and I'm not sure why you are upset about it? Maybe you're not and I'm just reading this wrong. Anyways, good luck no matter what you decide. On a sidenote, my grandparents paid for me to go to Catholic school growing up. It was expensive and my parents didn't have much money. I was certainly the kid that could never buy nice clothes, didn't drive a fancy car and didn't even have enough lunch money a lot of days. It's now the fuel that drives me. Use it.
This is only true if we assume that following remains a constant, i.e., that if kb's followers would not then unfollow him because they no longer like what he has to put out. You shouldn't forget that in the Hubski system there are two sides to each equation. If kleinbl00 becomes annoying, he gets unfollowed, and is no longer a power user. "Power users," if we must insist that they exist, are not constants. Their existence as "power user" depends on every follower continuing to follow them, which one assumes is based on the quality of their content and shares.I don't know if you've experienced something different or something similar, as interesting as kleinbl00 can be, I refuse to follow him and some other extremely notable members of the site for his own reason; he is essentially a power user of Hubski. If he wanted to, he could pretty much collapse what makes this site a third place by overloading it with information that he decided was true due to his large amount of followers.
Besides my other comment, I'd like to point out that this is a huge decision in my life. My parents make less than $20 an hour. We live in Fairfield County, CT. I guess you could check the prices for living there, but basically if you don't make around $150,000 a year, your kid pretty much goes to the ghetto. I've been there. I've seen friends go to the weird guy that sags his pants right past his ass and then tries to make a half boxing stance to slap box anybody that goes against him. And that goes to around 50 people there. I also know what it's like to attend a 32 person high school in Palouse, Washington. It's around 15 miles away from Pullman, Washington which is where WSU is. In other words I lived with my uncle for 6 months a year while my parents were having problems. Things aren't always as simple as you think. You are very smart kleinbl00 but you don't really ask questions, you just really just answer questions that have been asked. As I've said before, I respect your opinions on things. But as a general question, what do you answer to things that you are not entirely sure of? Sorry if this seems like an attack on you, I just think that you should weigh in in this. I've thought a lot about what you have said previously, and I think that you should have weight in the conversation.
A few things. 1) Two weeks ago, you argued that this was a huge decision in your life. I told you that you wanted it to be, but it wasn't. Now here we are, and you're saying "no, really. it is." No really. It isn't. 2) You asked for advice. You got advice. You're now triangulating to a corner where you think that advice might be invalid so that you don't have to acknowledge the advice you requested. Things are tough all over, kid. There will always be someone who had it rougher than you, there will always be someone who had it easier. You don't know me and I don't know you, but I wouldn't presume to invalidate your advice to me based on your tax bracket. 3) You don't have to take my advice. You don't even have to acknowledge my advice. But trying to accuse me of some deep personal failing so that you can invalidate my advice? That's fucking bullshit. Know why I didn't ask you questions? Because I didn't have to. Know what you didn't ask? - Should I take this job or pursue my true dream of basket-weaving? Because I sure love weaving baskets. - Should I take this job or buy a sailboat and pilot it around the cape? Because I've always dreamed of sailing around the world and I may not get a better chance. - Should I take this job or follow my girlfriend to Haiti? Because I love her dearly and I want to do something good for the rest of humanity before I become yet another cog in the machine. No, you asked should I take this job or NOT? With the reason "NOT" being because I don't think I can cut it. So really the discussion isn't "should I take this job or not" it's "how do I cut it." But we didn't have that discussion, because it's impolite. It would be assuming too much. It would be asking too many questions. Yeah. I answer questions that have been asked. More than that, I answer questions that I think I can contribute to. "What do you answer to things that you are not entirely sure of?" I DON'T. You might try it - it's awfully hard to put your foot in your mouth when it's closed. We were talking about entry-level engineering jobs and living in shitholes. So strap in, Junior, because my family was on food stamps until I was seven. I got my first "entry level engineering job" nearly 20 years ago. I spent 10 years doing engineering and seven now doing nothing-like-engineering. And you know what? I can name four people on here who had it rougher and are doing better. I won't. Because it has no effect on my advice. You asked for advice. You got it. Reject it with abandon, but don't for a minute think it's even vaguely okay to try and figure out why I'm not qualified to give it. Because that's a dick move. Know what else is a dick move? Attacking someone and then apologizing for attacking someone. It's still an attack, the apology is still ingenuous but you have the added disadvantage of looking like you have no spine. For the record, I don't give a fuck what you do. And for the record, I don't give a fuck what you think. But you asked, and I answered, which obligates you to a bare minimum of courtesy. Should you choose to approach that bare minimum again, we can chat. Until then, drink yourself to death with my blessing.
You know, you are right at some points. But at some points you are being outright ignorant. -"Drink yourself to death with my blessing."
Really? Is that how you're going to approach this? I'm sorry that I have an issue that is worth gathering an audience. I'm not attacking you, I'm acknowledging who you are. I'm not downplaying you, or trying to be offensive. I haven't drank since then, but thanks for being an asshole about it. I'm not exactly sure about how to deal with it. Have you been raped? Do you really understand what it's all about? It's fucking terrible. Horrible. It makes me feel like less than a person. Like I'm just a fucking toy. And i hate it. I hate it to the end of my existence. Sure I tried to make a difference with what I was saying there, sure. But there is no reason for you to downplay what has happened to me. I may be wrong about what I was saying, sure. But please, if anything, don't say that it was nothing. That devalues everything. I didn't attack you kleinbl00. I just tried to make a point that you have semi-supported in the past. Sorry if it seemed like an attack. I guess I was trying to make a point. You can ruin me all you want on the internet as you seem you pride to be able to, but that wasn't really the point of what I was saying, that's all. Basically a lot of that was making fun of me because I'm confused. I'm sorry, I'm still messed up. You're much more experienced, and you understand a lot more than I do. I know you've taken it differently, but I think it is worth it to try to explain where I'm coming from. If you think I'm poking your buttons, I hope that you reconsider. I just thought I could poke anywhere and get a good amount of knowledge from you, and I realize that isn't how to do it.