When I last posted this question two years ago, hubski made quite a few comments. I see that in my previous post, I was offhand about what I learned, as I often am. Perhaps thanks to galen's inspiration, I am trying to be more honest.
My favourite quote on this topic is still from futurist author Charles Yu, "Time is a machine that turns pain into experience."
I learned that I really shouldn't date women that grew up in a fundamentalist Mormon household where their uncle is also their stepfather. In all seriousness, I did learn that the only person in the world you can really "fix" is yourself, that was important thing to realize.
I learned that I will make decisions about 'us' without talking to my S.O. The last solid relationship I had before the lovely young woman I am currently seeing was my last high school girlfriend. We had been dating for the last 3 months of my senior year and she was a sophomore. I decided, a few days after I graduated, that WE wouldn't work while I was at school. I thought of it at the time as wanting to be fair to her, but if I really wanted to be fair to her I would have discussed it with her, rather than make the decision outright. I must guard against this.
If you decided "we" wouldn't work because really, you didn't think it would work for "you," then I don't think it was really a decision that needed her input. If you decided "we" wouldn't work because you really didn't think it would work for the two of you, but it was a circumstance which perhaps could have been affected by a conversation that the two of you would have had about how to resolve those problems or prevent them, then yes, her input could potentially have changed your decision. The decision to breakup isn't always one that needs the other partner's input, that's all.
The latter in this particular case. I made all sorts of assumptions about what would or would not be 'fair' to her, what her opinions 'obviously' would be. True. I would add that the cases where the other partners input is needed is when things are going well, but there are significant concerns about the future.The decision to breakup isn't always one that needs the other partner's input, that's all.
For the first time, I saw why some people said suffering is good for you and can make you grow. I was in a lot of pain and had a lot insights about myself that wouldnt occur to my normal self. Like how bad I actually am compared to what I think about myself.
And Im seriously doubting if I should ever be in relationships. Like Einstein said, why complicate things when simple things are possible, why be in them when people can be close to other people and be happy without such relationship things.
Ironman - it is so important what you are saying here. When we take responsibility for our part, we are able to grow into better people. When we just blame, we lose that chance. I hope you find what works best for you.Like how bad I actually am compared to what I think about myself.
That is particularly hard to see, because in any story, we want to cast ourselves as the hero in some way. And Im seriously doubting if I should ever be in relationships.
Good mutually happy relationships can require a lot of work and practice. Many people find them worth the work.
Great article lil, but that font.... oh that font. I should really reflect more on past relationships. It may explain why almost everyone I date seems to be crazy. Maybe I'm the crazy one :O
A realist's guide to comic sans There are signage fonts and there are text fonts. Text fonts are designed to be read a paragraph at a time. Signage fonts are designed to be read a word at a time. Comic Sans inhabits the nether regions between the two: it was designed for Microsoft Bob, the Clippy OS. In other words, it's a signage font but was deliberately infantilized so that Microsoft's designers could say "it looks like you're trying to type a sentence but suck at computing. Can I hold your hand while you're doing that?" without feeling scolded by HAL9000. As such, it's a shitty font for readability. There's a passive-aggressiveness to its design that's deliberately designed to blunt what it says. It's also a shitty font for signage. It's designed to be partially ignored. It's even a shitty font for comics - the designer wasn't really trying for anything related to comics, but was more going for the children's-scrawl version of Futura. If you must do things in a comic font, at least use Lint McCree.
Thx kb. I'm not committed to comic anything. I just want a good clear readable font -- not for the blog particularly, but for all my course material. Of course there are other considerations besides font - there's spacing between lines and between letters. I'll pop the question over on askhubski. Some people may be irritated by the signage/clippy/childish attitude suggested by comic. My students have been mocking me for a while for using it. Since I'm creating new curriculum right now, I can change the whole book to something less irritation-provoking.
I'm limited to the font selection on my computer. When I download new (free) ones, they come with embedded stuff that screwed up some other functionalities.
I used to use a combination of Bank Gothic and Bell Gothic, and then Battlestar Galactica came out and Bank Gothic took over the universe. I tried futura for a while but it's not particularly legible; I tend to use Anonymous Pro for most things these days.
That is better. I was looking at comic neue like galen suggested, I would be interested to see a blog in that font. :) But thank you. I was having trouble reading the comic sans. I have the same problem on the /r/dogecoin subreddit. I don't know why I have so much trouble with that font.
I was having trouble reading the comic sans
That's very interesting to note. I tend to use comic sans (serif) because it seems to me to be the clearest and most readable. I'm always looking for a readable font (that I have access to). So please suggest any you come across.