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This is really cool. One thing that surprises me is that they're still trying to create support for an invasion of Ukraine. Also notable how they are silent on Charlottesville, but play up other violence, and still talk about removal of statues.
Living in Atlanta (top left map), I am a bit skeptical. This map says you can get all the way to Cumming in an hour. Maybe there is a way, but I've done that drive, and it's taken me half an hour just to get to 400 before. Maybe this map is accurate if you start on the interstate, but even then, I'm highly skeptical you can drive 50 miles at 4PM on a Friday. I mean, it says you can go west and get to the edge of the state in an hour! I've went that direction in rush hour too, and it took me an hour to get a third of that distance.
This community is a nice place, and I would like to be a bigger part of it. So I figure the best way to do that is to show up and start saying things.
I recently came to the realization that vulnerability is hard for me and always has been. I've always felt like a peripheral in groups: Accepted, but not an integral member. I used to think that I had some quality that prevented me from being fully accepted, or that my social groups were just lacking that depth. But I realized the reason is how unwilling I am to be real with people. To be seen as imperfect, and to show things like pride, bitterness, bewilderment, and jealousy. And to empathize when people talk to me about those things, and not act like I don't struggle with them too.
I've been reading Deep Work, and it's really eye opening for a lot of different reasons. It made me realize that I rapidly bounce my attention between different projects, and end up making substantial progress on none of them. So I made a list of all the projects I want to accomplish, and it's huge. Make web apps (and learning web development in the process), Finish learning Liszt's Liebestraum No. 3, do my new blog, write an ebook about FPGA development... too much to do at once. The next step is spending time prioritizing the most important projects, and then scheduling long blocks of time where I only work one thing, until they are done. This means I have to stop thinking about a lot of interesting things because I don't have time for them, which is hard.
I've also been reading The Name of the Wind, and it's so entertaining, but I just want to scream at Kvothe. Just... settle down, play your lute, make cool shit, be friendly to Ambrose, and things will blow over. You're causing most of your own problems. It's not fate that Hemme and Ambrose hate you and are doing things to mess up your life. You caused that, you little shit. Learn some diplomacy and get over yourself. Some people are jerks, but success is more important than revenge. You can take physical beatings but can't stand even a nick to your precious ego.
What do you think about a Russell 3000 ETF? That and small-cap value ETFs are where I have most of the stock portion of retirement.
I agree with you, mostly. I believe that your mind is part of you. I even drew a Venn diagram in that blog post similar to your example, and have a section entitled "You Are not Your Arms". I do quote Tolle, though.
I think I reduced some of the wording in the interest of brevity to the point that it conveyed meaning I didn't intend. That sentence originally said "Perception of events often has nothing to do with reality." I tend to insert a lot of clarifying words, adverbs, etc. in my first drafts (like, a lot), and remove them to make it more direct and easier to read. So yeah, that was my bad.
I do not believe we have no control over our thoughts, but rather that it's harmful to equate our identity with our thoughts (our ego). This is the state in which we have no control over thoughts. I was trying to give ways to change thoughts to allow for self-growth and increased agency, not less. I believe the ability to be separate from and examine our own thoughts, and our ability to override our reactions and modify them over time, is one of the main things that makes us human. And I believe that the vast majority of emotional harm is self-harm, and that this is a pattern that can be overridden and un-learned. jadedog is pretty spot-on with what I believe.
Again, thanks for the feedback.
I have a Kindle Paperwhite. I like it, but I haven't got a chance to use it much lately. It's nice for reading in bed with the lights off because of its backlight. I can turn it down low where it's a gentle glow that doesn't keep me up. Lately, though, I've been doing 99% of my book consumption through audiobooks.
PSA: Studies show that comprehension is lower with e-readers vs. real books. I have no idea why. It might be worth it engineering a personal study to see how it affects reading comprehension in you specifically.
Edit: Wow, that Kobo looks amazing! That blue-light feature is really cool.
Well, I'm not a very active user, but I liked his comments. He's stuck in his own head a lot, and I often go through the same thing. I liked his questions, because he always seemed to be trying to improve, to be seeking more insight and growth.