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cgod  ·  3153 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Ugh

Just to add.

I almost didn't post anything about the coffee shop on Hubski because I've had enough scrape ups here recently that I thought someone might go after me online or in real life.

I thought about asking kleinbl00 advice for the first time in my Hubski life because I know he has wisdom about vicious internet thugs bleeding into real life. In the end I said fuck it, post it, what's the worst they can do? I've never had so much to lose in my life and I question weather it's worth it to add any unnecessary risk.

What seemed like the best Reddit wave yet has oddly caused a lot of misery.





_refugee_  ·  3153 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I don't think we scale very well.

I think that for a wave to go well there need to be enough active, positive, friendly Hubski members that make an individual impact on the new users that stick around, to kind of help impart the idea of the website and also serve as gentle guides as to maybe what's more appropriate or less or so on. I think it has to do with getting new users to make personal connections as much with anything else.

Right now I feel like we are just running around stamping out little fires and trying to keep up with them. If there is a large influx, large and active enough to override the tone that has previously been established here, those who already were present can't do much about it - the concentration is diluted. Ironically the website takes on the flavor of whatever place the new users were fleeing, as it's their frame of reference and their habit.

When 20 new people move in to a row of houses on the block, it's not that you've got new neighbors. You've got a brand new community. And sure you want to get to know them all but it is a lot more difficult to learn 20 new names and personalities than 5. It is easy to become overwhelmed.

Meanwhile the established users continue to slowly leave or wander off.

goo  ·  3152 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm actually kind of ashamed to hear this. As someone who came from the last wave, I feel guilty for disrupting the wonderful community built here.

b_b  ·  3152 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Meh. This place is for everyone who wants to be a part of it. Every time there's a big influx, most of the people leave, a few turn out to be jerks, and a few turn out to be really good members (_refugee_ came from a big reddit influx, for example). There's nothing particularly different about this influx. The user everyone hates the most didn't come from it, FWIW, and this isn't the first time a well liked user has quit.

humanodon  ·  3153 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    In the end I said fuck it, post it, what's the worst they can do? I've never had so much to lose in my life and I question weather it's worth it to add any unnecessary risk.

I don't know if this is universal, but there have definitely been times in my life where I've had a lot at stake and then suddenly I feel the urge to start doing risky shit (a form of l'appel du vide?)-- maybe in the hopes that it'll all come tumbling down so that I won't have to deal with it anymore. Anyway, that's one of the things I'm working at changing with this new direction I'm trying to go with in my life.

rinx  ·  3153 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This is not the answer for hubski but I want to re-link this post. I know very few people have taken all of these steps, but it's important to, especially as a business owner.

user-inactivated  ·  3153 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh god thank you about the whois guard. I get spam, junk-mail, and robocalls addressed to my domain name.