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byonic  ·  1203 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Falafel Dinner

I'm afraid your complaints are falling on robotic ears.

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byonic  ·  1463 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Bet lost

This is one bet I'm sad to lose. I think I'll give fate another chance to both remove Trump from office and have me give money to Hubski by matching wasoxygen's side of the bet again. If I understood that right, that means the sooner Trump is removed from office the more I pay.

byonic  ·  1495 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 21, 2016

I've been sick the past couple days, and I have to say; I'm not a fan. It's strange, having a valid reason to not get out of bed makes me hate lying here. On days where I wake up early in the morning go to work, I feel my bed calling out to me for just 5 more minutes; and now I wish to be anywhere else doing something productive.

I've got a lot more I'd like to share, but sitting up to type sucks right now. I'm going back to bed.

byonic  ·  1497 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Should I get a headhunter or what should I do about my career?

I think (or at least hope) that you're misunderstanding the headhunter fees. I'm not aware of any case where a headhunter will charge the candidate a fee, if you run into one who does that's a massive black flag and I'd avoid them like the plague.

While their commissions are generally based off of the candidate's starting salary, that's a fee paid by the company to the headhunter, and assuming no one's being shady, it will never come out of the salary itself. The way it's meant to work is that the commission is supposed to act as an incentive for the headhunter to negotiate for a higher starting salary for the candidate, and for the position to be filled faster for the hiring company. Of course, YMMV with how this applies in practice, as it depends on all of the parties involved.

The rest of your advice is solid! I just wanted to vouch for headhunters since I've had good experiences.

byonic  ·  1510 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why I Can't Get Started . . .

I've had a similar train of thought when it comes to self improvement.

Take fitness for example, I've come to accept that on some level I just don't want to go through the process to become fit. If I genuinely wanted to become fit I would have no problem doing the research to come up with a diet + exercise plan that meets my needs and I'd stick to it. But because I don't stick to it when I come up with a plan, that must mean that I want leisure more than I want to go through the work it takes to become fit. Maybe I want to already be fit, but I don't want to become fit.

There was a piece of r/getmotivated style advice that made its rounds a while back that said something along the lines of "Replace the phrases 'I don't want to...', 'I don't have time to...' etc with 'It's not a priority for me to...'" I've found it to be a bit shallow like most of those little motivational catchphrases end up being when applied as a life strategy. However, I do think it's useful for a quick perspective change. Do you really want the things you say you want?

To bring it back to your post, the notion of there being an internal and external set of priorities resonates with me. I think it should be a goal to make them line up as much as possible. The question is how?

byonic  ·  1511 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 204th Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately" Thread

I seriously want #2. Is that your tattoo on the monitor?