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comment by ButterflyEffect
ButterflyEffect  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: February 17, 2016

Feeling very disconnected lately. Even on Hubski, it seems like a lot of things I want to talk about or a lot of the viewpoints I currently hold do not line up with other people. Same thing is happening in real-space, maybe I'm self-alienating right now or becoming a bit more radical in my views. Not sure. But it's getting hard when it feels like you have nobody to talk to or spend time with on a whim because of that and geography.





rezzeJ  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·  

What kind of viewpoints?

OftenBen  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Personally, there are things I believe/am working through that I would never post to Hubski.

There may be some element of that in whatever it is that BFX is going through, or I might just be projecting.

rezzeJ  ·  3200 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You're right. I wrote that comment quickly at work and looking back at it now it doesn't come across like I meant. I was trying ascertain whether bfx felt that way due to lack of opportunity to share those feelings/views, or whether it was more a hesitation to share them. I probably should have written that.

My apologies ButterflyEffect if the original reply was uncouth.

OftenBen  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I know that feel.

Like Cedar said, PM me if you like.

Cedar  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I know exactly what you mean, and am right there with you. I don't really have a solution yet, but I'd say don't be afraid to be yourself and just say what you want to even if you're not sure it will be accepted. PM if you need a chat, k?

ButterflyEffect  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Definitely, thank you. To clarify, I'm not super worried about coming across like I'm not saying what I want. It's more of a feeling like nobody is listening or a lack of outlet of people with similar mindsets that are also friends at this point in time.

user-inactivated  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yo let's talk I'm curious

Although I'm like the sixth person who's offered so w/e

_refugee_  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm sorry, bfx. It seems you've generally been feeling somewhat distant and alienated from society lately. Going off pubski posts.

ButterflyEffect  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·  

yeah, maybe I'm suffering from an ongoing expectation hangover. Keep trying to have conversations or raise points and nothing seems to be interpreted the way I intend (parse through recent posts/comments if you'd like). Or the wrong points are being focused on.

Same deal outside of here. Doing all this stuff but it's not really mounting to much socially while meanwhile my existing relationships are kind of subsiding right now at the same time as developing a desire to do things that are more supportive of marginalized groups. maybe I just need more therapy shrug.

this is some super cliched "I just got done watching Perks of Being a Wallflower" shit but Tugboat kind of sums up how I've been feeling lately. It's okay because my love for Galaxie 500 is true and tried.

kleinbl00  ·  3202 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's it. We need to beer. When the internet world isn't giving you what you want, it's time to get in someone's face. You have my number.