The wedding invites went out. We now have the date, the venue, the caterer, the menu, the cake (actually Apple Cobbler), the photographers, the music, the DJ, the Officiant, the hotel for the guests, the engagement ring, the wedding rings are being made now, the signs for the event, the guestbook, the address labels (for both before AND after we are married!), the rehearsal dinner location and menu, the wedding web site, the gift registry, the florist, the wedding dress, the groom's outfit is being designed and made now, and... And it's still 4 months away. But my fianceé couldn't be more freaked out, and believes we are way behind schedule. Pubski, I shall require daily doses of fine whisky, every day, until July 9th. I'm relying on you, Pubski. Help me through this.
Oh that makes me nervous... My wedding is two weeks before yours and we have about half that done. It feels like about a minute after we make a decision each of our mothers has four more conflicting ideas about it. It's not that bad, but stressful.
This is why I want to eventually elope. Just book a week at some cabin in the mountains, elope, and spend a week away from people. That way I can avoid the stress and I figure I'll have a party when I get back that my relatives can put their input into.
Elopeing is catching on in the younger crowd who don't want to spend insane amounts of money on weddings anymore. A lot of people don't even get married before really starting their lives together which my grandmother is having a very hard time coming to terms with. It just doesn't make sense to throw a huge expensive into the situation when you are likely buying a house, wanting to start a family and paying off school loans. Elopeing and throwing a simple party is the perfect compromise really.
My fiancee and I are 47, and met 7 years ago. We have all the things we want - a house, cars, toasters, remodeled kitchen, etc - and we aren't going to have kids. So this wedding is kinda our last big "celebration of us". It's definitely not going to be like other weddings, but it will be true to us, our style, and our needs.
I laughed when I read this, but with you, not at you. Moms are the world's biggest pain in the ass when it comes to weddings. Maybe sisters-in-law could give them a run for their money. I think the problem is that each mother's own mother ruined her wedding by being a pain in the ass, so now they have to have the wedding they never had vicariously through you. Speaking from experience it's better to have the I-appreciate-your-opinion-but-mainly-please-shut-the-fuck-up-until-otherwise-informed talk early. You'll hurt their feelings somewhat now, but save them a lot more in the future.