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oyster  ·  3274 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 9, 2016

This is why I want to eventually elope. Just book a week at some cabin in the mountains, elope, and spend a week away from people. That way I can avoid the stress and I figure I'll have a party when I get back that my relatives can put their input into.





goobster  ·  3273 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Dude. This is my second wedding, and if I ever do this insanity again, I'll elope.

Then we will come back and tell all our friends to come meet us for a big picnic in a park.

Fuck weddings.

oyster  ·  3273 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Elopeing is catching on in the younger crowd who don't want to spend insane amounts of money on weddings anymore. A lot of people don't even get married before really starting their lives together which my grandmother is having a very hard time coming to terms with. It just doesn't make sense to throw a huge expensive into the situation when you are likely buying a house, wanting to start a family and paying off school loans. Elopeing and throwing a simple party is the perfect compromise really.

goobster  ·  3273 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My fiancee and I are 47, and met 7 years ago. We have all the things we want - a house, cars, toasters, remodeled kitchen, etc - and we aren't going to have kids. So this wedding is kinda our last big "celebration of us".

It's definitely not going to be like other weddings, but it will be true to us, our style, and our needs.

OftenBen  ·  3273 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    and we aren't going to have kids.

Do either of you currently have kids? Are you still catching the 'You'll change your mind someday' speech from various family members?

goobster  ·  3273 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Heh. At 47 years old, if anybody was pushing us to have kids, they would have to have a very different understanding of human physiology than we have! Anyway, I got snipped a long time ago.

OftenBen  ·  3273 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Just wanted to check.

At what age did those fun comments eventually stop?

goobster  ·  3273 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Heh. Well, probably when I moved overseas, actually.

The whole "have babies so I can play with them and spoil them" motivation is quite diminished when you live a $1500 plane ticket away.

oyster  ·  3273 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's sounds like a good time to have a wedding to me, it just find it interesting that elopements are now more popular when they used to be more taboo.

user-inactivated  ·  3273 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My wife and I got married on the cheap. We saved God knows how much money and stress and we still had an awesome day and some good memories. Looking back, I don't think I would have done anything different.