For me it would either be thinking or creating art or exploring. As long as I am in an quiet lonely place.
Lots of things. The one on my mind right now is the process of cooking a good meal and then eating it, especially alone. Just appreciating all the smells and tastes, making it look perfect. There is so much to enjoy.
Trust. Nothing soothens my mind more than having something I can have most trust in, be it a person or an object. If an item works in the way I expect it to work, then I be most pleased with it. If a person is being honest with me about what they feel, and I feel like I can be as honest to them, then I be most pleased as well. Disagreements matter not as long as trust is there. No good relationship is possibly without trust.
Loads of stuff! When I'm outside, it's sunny, I'm with friends, I have a cold drink it my hand, there's a BBQ, maybe even a river, music is playing. When I'm inside a pub, it's freeing outside, there's a real fireplace, they serve good ale, they serve good food. When I'm with my girlfriend and there is no rush to do anything and we can chose whether to lie in bed or explore the world. When I'm with my family. When I'm travelling somewhere new with someone I love.
Seeing other people genuinely smile tends to make me smile as well; there's just something nice about seeing someone else having a good day.
As of right now, hiking and yoga. The freedom that both give me is amazing. Hiking fills my adventurous and visual-excitement needs, while yoga fulfills my physical and mental needs. Don't get me started when I mix hiking and yoga. That is something I definitely recommend to anyone and everyone.
Time with my wife and other friends that I have some common ground with. Finding validation in the things I do and create. And rolling around with the dogs at dusk is pretty cool too.
Being in love and being loved. The happiest days of my life were when I was with my last girlfriend. Also, creating art that others appreciate. Also, the act of creating that art. Also, 100% agreement with WanderingEng: hiking.
Lately it's been being out hiking. Nature is beautiful, the effort is exhausting in a good way, and my phone has no reception. I've been hiking up mountains and found the hike is what I value, not the summit. The summit is just a reason to go out, something to egg me on. The solitude and challenge I'm able to manage makes me happy.
Honestly? I don't know. I wish I knew. But happiness is very fleeting with me.
Nothing I've done in the last... 5 years or so? Well I guess discovering Mass Effect was a thing, but I've played the trilogy through and thorough by now.
Then, I dare say, there are more important problems in your life than not being happy. It seems to me that something's bothering you to no end, yet you can't recognize it and haven't done anything about it because of that. If that's the case and if you ever want to talk about it, feel free to PM me: I'll be glad to lend you an ear.
Right now I would be really happy with a girl who could hold a conversation and also be a little more European in the sex department. I miss dating Euro girls where sex was just something your body could do and in certain circumstances it could do better and make love.
What is the alternative to the European perspective? What do you mean when you say "where sex was just something your body could do in certain circumstances)?
Oh sure. I misinterpreted your sentence but my question still stands. How do non-Europeans have sex in comparison?
It's not that they physically have sex differently, but that the barrier to entry is less emotional. I dated a Belgian girl for about a year and a German for around 4 months. With each of them sex was much less something with a lot of strings attached in terms of relationship status and commitment, and instead just something fun to do with your body with someone you trusted. Another thing I was told (and I'm no expert on Belgian culture) by her was that having sex was considered less intimate than giving a blowjob. So oddly enough, we just skipped 3rd base and rounded home. She didn't give me head for months after that when we had fallen in love. So while she had been with a half dozen other men by that point, she had never given a blowjob because I was the first serious relationship that she had been in. Comparing that to American culture where a blowjob is a way for a girl to give a man sex without giving him her body, and you see a pretty stark difference, and an example of what I'm talking about.
Oh I understand what you are saying now. Thanks for the clarification!