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_refugee_  ·  1235 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Please stop trying to get me to do something "because it's sexy."

If you think about it, "because it's sexy" basically translates into "hurr durr...because I want you to." Which is a non-answer, if you ask me - of course you want me to do the thing you're telling me I should do, but what's the justification? Where's the convincing argument?

("Do x because it's sexy" really usually means "Do x because [I think] it's sexy," which follows naturally do "Do x because I like it/want you to.")

Now, for some people and in some topics, "because I want you to" is enough justification. For instance, if someone asked me to wear lingerie for them, or basically anything else rather low-level and usually not too much effort, time or cost that is placed in an arena where there is a general willingness or desire to please the partner. Sex is a great example because you should want to please your partner during sex. Business/monetary transactions are a great example of where this should never fly. The management of how your body appears to the world is another one. Your body's about the most personal thing you'll ever have, inhabit, own, (whatever word you use for it) and it controls you while you control it.

While "to look sexier for my partner' might be part of a list of reasons a person might want to lose weight, become more muscular, gain weight, hell cut their hair or something, I agree it shouldn't be the only reason and I certainly think any person telling me I should alter my body simply because their desire is sooooo extraordinary as to warrant it is not only justification but a gross demonstration of how that person thinks about his or her right to tell you what to do in life. And then after considering their lack of boundaries and desire for control/influence over you, then you should move on to the fact that they think "because i want you to" is good enough to convince you.

My hackles go up with a bang, immediately, when anyone comments on what I should do with my body or whether what I'm wearing is appropriate/'not attractive'. It's a sensitive topic but moreover it's my body and my choice. (This comes up a lot because I have a number of tattoos and plans for more. I love them and think they add to me; I certainly consider them embellishments, ornaments, attractive additions. However, I have family members that think it is appropriate, even necessary, to tell me that the tattoos make me "ugly." It's my god damn body. Stop thinking you have the right to tell me what to do with it.)




kleinbl00  ·  1235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Maybe I live in a different world, but unless you're either dating or a close friend of the same sexual persuasion, there is literally no appropriate way to tell someone "x" is sexy.

goo  ·  1235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thank you. This was much more succinct than my angry rambling after seeing some of the comments on this video! I have no idea why people think it's ever okay to comment on others' choices, short of when they are damaging to themselves/someone else.

kleinbl00  ·  1235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ohhhh, shit - you were reading Youtube comments? Yeah. You never want to do that. Even the SEO guys will tell you that Step #1 with Youtube is disabling comments. They gain you exactly nothing.

You're welcome.

tacocat  ·  1235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

YouTube comments can make anyone angry about anything:

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If I accidentally read some YouTube comments I usually try to find something else to do for a while, watch a movie or show that took effort, something along those lines.

empty  ·  1235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I just disable youtube comments entirely.

kleinbl00  ·  1235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I worked on a couple smosh series. Smosh doesn't disable its youtube comments, probably because they get a big chunk of change from Youtube. Even accounting for the fact that it's Smosh, the comments lowered your IQ just by looking at them.

user-inactivated  ·  1235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Much like standing in line at a grocery store and your eyes being caught by magazines like Cosmopolitan or People. I can physically feel my brain cells dying the longer I stare, and try my hardest to look at anything but the colorful, designed to catch your eye magazines. I worry the day will come when I can't stop staring, and I'll turn into an inert, brain dead mass right there under the fluorescent lighting.

tacocat  ·  1235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I deleted an IQ lowering joke and replaced it with the current last sentence. YouTube comments probably aren't even the worst on the internet. Ugh...

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