I feel less free when I am in a relationship.
Oh god, I'm in a terrible relationship right now. bonjourdemain Someone save me.
I was being sarcastic. I tagged bonjourdemain because she's a bit more special to me than the rest of you. ;D
Yeah, it's surprisingly good. Now that I've got my head clear it's kind of like this. So many possibilities....the first week or two after a breakup is fucking fantastic.
To be a little bit of a contrarian, I feel a little more free when I'm in a relationship. I'm free to not put up a strong, confident front all the time. I'm free to be more myself around people I don't know, because I have no mating-instinct-driven desire to impress and peacock around. But, because I'm single more than I'm in a relationship, this may be (Most likely is) a grass is always greener type deal.
It is hard to encapsulate why I feel less free, but I think it is the simple act of having to care about someone else, and that the way I spend my time also affects them. Sometimes I find it exhausting to have to go through the rigamarole of texting, setting up dates to meet up, listening to the other person's problems, and so on. I am selfish and I know this and I don't think that's a sin in and of itself. And I care; there isn't a doubt in my mind that I care. But the caring, in a way, is what limits my freedom.