I want to separate this from my post about what cools you off because its not always that we're angry or upset that we feel like running away. Stay posted for a follow-up to this question as well.
Transcendence. Isolation. Maybe just simple happiness. How do you escape the hum-drum, the noise, the daily routine? Maybe you're at the point where you've made it your daily routine! Do you dance, do you drink, or huff DMT at sunset? Hit the bench or the yoga mat, take your hubby on a dinner date?
How do you escape? What does escaping mean to you?
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As a secondary part to my comment on your other thread I'll post here. So how do I escape? I like to put on some headphones and go delve into video games or anime usually. Sometimes I'll pick up a TV show, but not often. Select the world I want to visit, then hit "play". Instant immersion into a better place. If I don't like it, I can easily switch. As you can see by My Anime List I have about 11 different anime "worlds" I visit on a weekly basis. 6 of which I visit with a club, 5 of which I'm watching alone. And as you can see by my "completed" list, I've been doing this for a while. My games list is so big I don't bother keeping track of it. But it's getting boring. I know it ends, and that kind of defeats the purpose. Once it ends, I just move on to the next one like a media devouring machine. I have no one who likes the same things I do, so i can't discuss or talk about my interests at all. Most of the time in "life" I just keep quiet and too myself. I've tried reaching out, but people make it apparent they don't want to talk. And thus repeats the self-defeating cycle of devouring anime and games.
Why does anime appeal to you? I haven't seen much, but to me it seems to solely be a merciless explosion of relentless color and sound. Is it brainwashing, or are you engaged by the drama?
Ah, see that's the neat part. At the surface level, it just looks like any other cartoon, or maybe a TV show that's drawn. But really, it's so much more than that. It's the same reason I like video games. Most anime is Japanese. Right off the bat. And I find that in many Japanese media, there isn't a "limit" as to what is done. No topic is taboo. On top of that, most of the stuff I watch creates a world to enjoy and immerse myself in. With Live-Action stuff (like most TV we get here in the West) you are limited by physics or special effects. There's only a certain amount of things you can do. And even then, if you overcome those limits you are still forcing the viewer into "this world". There's that graphical tie that doesn't allow you to escape properly. I avoid realistic games for the same reason. The anime art style frees you from that. Most anime is styled similarly (if you take a look), but there are sometimes creative differences to allow better immersion (take a look at Kaiba for an example). The anime I like best, are usually those that aren't set up in a "show" format. Just little peaks into other worlds. Most anime fans label them "slice of life." A non-anime example would be something like the show friends (which I also thoroughly enjoyed). Other anime (non-slice-of-life stuff) achieves it slightly as well. But really, what I like best is that no two anime are the same. Ever. It's always unique, entertaining, and immersive. The art is a non-issue. It just helps escape the expectations of this world. Honestly, I'd rather change my vision to see everything anime-styled if possible. But that's just my preference.
very cool, you're clearly a true enthusiast :D But then, perhaps its not the fact that you anime is such a unique detachment from 'regularity', but rather the art and idea of anime itself is simply what appeals to you? I mean, if you were presented with something else that didn't look or sound anime that had equal creative freedom and unbounded possibilities, would you still accept it?
I go for a run or bike ride and let my mind wander. After the excercise, I generally get into a good book, movie or game. After a bit of healthy escapism, I might have a nice nap and try a bit of lucid dreaming, which is some of the best escapism there is.
I meditate daily. That's a huge one, as the mere routine of it also helps my daily grind, in addition to the raw benefits of meditation itself. If it's been a particularly exhausting day, I'll take a nap afterwards. Every time I lay down in my bed when my wife isn't in there, my cat Malachi will come up and lay right next to me for free belly rubs. Taking a nap with and watching my cat puts me at ease. Here is this little tiny cute thing that doesn't have to work, doesn't have relationship troubles, or fight, or get into arguments, or get cut off in traffic by inattentive drivers, or have any responsibilities. He has ZERO stress in his life, and he exudes that with his carefree nature. Just taking a nap with a cat brings me down and helps me get rid of my problems and troubles vicariously. Oh, and yeah, sometimes I like to kill a bottle of red wine and just read a book or play guitar. Red wine can be substituted for craft beer, or a few stiff shots if I don't have to work the following day. Mixing alcohol and a game of darts with my best friend is also acceptable and happens quite a bit. I love playing darts.
Today my first alarm went off and I figured I could sleep in for another half-hour. My little monster had been waking up, though. At first he tried to attack me but I clearly wasn't going for it so he crawled beneath my blankets and snuggled up in the crook of my knee. For fifteen minutes it was the sweetest, nicest thing, until my second alarm went off and he started biting me. Cats. Love 'em.Just taking a nap with a cat brings me down and helps me get rid of my problems and troubles vicariously.
Awwwwe. I love cats, honestly can't stress their importance in my life enough. They make me laugh, they help me relax, and they are just so cute and carefree. I have two, and I love those little bastards. Hopefully it was playful biting and not "Ow Ow you asshole that hurts!" biting.so he crawled beneath my blankets and snuggled up in the crook of my knee.
You should get a sloth.He has ZERO stress in his life, and he exudes that with his carefree nature. Just taking a nap with a cat brings me down and helps me get rid of my problems and troubles vicariously.
Zazen. A form of seated meditation associated with Zen Buddhism. I sit in a Burmese position with a little zafu (small round pillow), which you'll see in the pictures in my second link. I do not like half or full lotus positions as I have really long legs and it's extremely uncomfortable. And kneeling is just for chumps. Basically, meditation is sitting, and NOT thinking. You don't actively try to shut your brain up, you just sit, for as long as takes, for your mind to clear and then hold that. Thoughts come and go, and you just let them. You don't address them, dwell on them, or "think" when they come, you just let them come and go, and eventually they stop coming. You just focus on your breathing, your body, and your mind, and just feel the "oneness". You can count backwards when first starting out, as it helps people get into a calmer spot faster. Start from 100. To me, my goal and special spot is where I get to that point in my daily meditation where there are no other thoughts, and I'm simply just existing and nothing else. This is a good starting point, as always: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zazen This website has some decent pictures and additional info:The posture of zazen is seated, with folded legs and hands, and an erect but settled spine. The hands are folded together into a simple mudra over the belly. In many practices, the practitioner breathes from the hara (the center of gravity in the belly) and the eyelids are half-lowered, the eyes being neither fully open nor shut so that the practitioner is neither distracted by, nor turning away from, external stimuli.
This is amazing.. thank you very much for sharing:) I guess what I was talking about on my own comment is a bit like what you're describing here as meditation. This is super interesting, and reminds me of after intense yoga sessions I used to take, the meditation we did got pretty close to what you're talking about. Do you go to a school or some other institution for this, whether to learn or practice? Do you use any kind of environmental equalizer like incense or some sort of music, perhaps in order to eliminate foreign distractions?
No, but that same question not long ago spawned a very large exchange between me and BLOB_CASTLE about Zen, Buddhism, meditation, and whether a master is necessary (link below). I started by saying no, and ended up looking up a center in my area and plan to attend in January. I've never been before, so I learned on my own and by reading materials in books and online. But I have meditated with other people before, just not in an official setting. http://hubski.com/pub?id=114668 My environment is my environment, there would be no equalization, because the incense or music itself would be no more of a help than any other distraction. So don't think of it as an equalizer or necessary, but if you enjoy it, it's fine. I'd say few use it, many just have the pillow. Music I would say is probably not a good thing, incense or a candle would be fine but not required. I find incense more of a distraction than not personally. :)Do you go to a school or some other institution for this, whether to learn or practice?
Do you use any kind of environmental equalizer like incense or some sort of music, perhaps in order to eliminate foreign distractions?
cool :) now I have a lot of reading to do!! I think discovering your own interpretation and comfort with it is just as important as learning the proper form and so on from a master. My mother is a psychoterapist and frequently uses yoga, meditation, and a combination of the two with traumatized kids in New Jersey's foster home system. I haven't seen her working her magic but apparently it's doing wonders :)
That sounds awesome and your mother sounds like she's doing very positive things with her life and for others. Interesting to hear she's using yoga and meditation. You'd get no arguments from me that both of those things are beneficial to anyone who dedicates some time to them.My mother is a psychoterapist and frequently uses yoga, meditation, and a combination of the two with traumatized kids in New Jersey's foster home system. I haven't seen her working her magic but apparently it's doing wonders
For a more analytical, perhaps impersonal discussion on why we escape, join the discussion on #philosophy. Or, if you prefer (I certainly do!), spill your thoughts right here :) I like to think. I like to sit, light some nice incense or something, and think. Maybe have some lo-fi or ambient music in the background. I like to imagine and dream and let my emotions take over and smile and laugh and cry to myself if I need to. I do a lot of the aforementioned things like going out to dance and drink or hit the gym, and I love it all (in moderation!) and they're relaxing for sure, but I don't there's anything quite like... nothing. I highly suggest lying down on your bed or couch (but don't sleep, that's a waste!) and instead of passing out and waking up, stay conscious of everything that comes to your mind, and let it flow freely. If there's a certain topic or problem itching your mind, try to let your impulsive thoughts take over, even if they're irrational as all hell, and see what sort of dynamic begins as things flow and take shape. I find myself doing this even at times when I'm supposed to be engaged in something-- I often visit my local bookstore and 'wake up' 2 hours later with the book in my hand on the same page as it was, but a complete understanding of a certain part of me. I think this is healthy and important, but maybe I'm wrong!