We've been ticked off. We've been frustrated and angry. We're looking around the room, trying to get this weight off our shoulders.
Do you punch the wall, or pick up the guitar? Tell a friend or scream into your pillow? Grab your Jameson, or maybe your jacket and go on a trip?
How do you blow off steam, collect yourself, center your thoughts, drain your anger or guilt and refresh your mind?
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First I write. Second I drink. Third, and only very rarely, but unfortunately for me recently, I remind myself of all the reasons revenge does not work. Hey, not-Pablo! Do you know what you get when you slash a bitch's tires? You get to buy her new tires. Not my experience, but my brother's; he had a girlfriend where really the choice they had made to be in a relationship at all was questionable. Her nickname was Trashley, because she liked to get trashed. My brother, by the way, is not legally allowed to drive due to DUIs and some other charges. So, great pair. Anyway, I think he cheated on her and she cheated on him and they ended up in a great big flaming drunken altercation one night. He decided to pour two beers on her bed and slashed 3 out of her 4 tires. Well, any reasonable person and many unreasonable people are going to see their car with fucked tires and think "Well damn. I can't really afford new tires. How do I make this person pay for this?" And to be honest, the answer is simple. It is called the legal system. Pretty much anyone can avail themselves of retribution for actual physical harm to objects or persons, with one phone call to the police department. So she called them and long story short, his act of revenge ended up gaining her 4 new tires. Unfortunately, I know for a fact that a certain person I am mad at would absolutely lawyer up if I punched them, no matter how merited I may feel that action would be. No matter her apology texts and statements that "she should cut off her nose and eat it" and I should "fuck her boyfriend and send her the video so that she would hurt too" or that she is "worse than shit." Regardless of all that she's said, I know that I am powerless against the law should she and her parents choose to bring in the law if I made the interaction physical. And so I do not and cannot. So when I'm really pissed, I remind myself that the only option for revenge is happiness/a good life/pouring all my energy back into improving myself. It can be hard at times and I have choice words I want to say to this person the next time I see her. But thankfully, no one can arrest me for telling her I can't hear her through all the dicks in her mouth. Honestly, the other day I was thinking about asking Hubski to remind me why revenge is never good, but we had kind of talked about it in another thread and to be honest I knew why - I just didn't want to acknowledge it, I guess. I was further down the upset scale and having difficulty talking myself down. In those circumstances, the best choice is inaction, or at least, not doing whatever grand revenge idea you are thinking of immediately. Put it on the ice. Hopefully by the time you get back to it you will have cooled off and will be able to see revenge for the bad idea it is.
This was royally satisfying. You've got a spectacular way with words. As for revenge, I hereby send you a million internet hugs to distract yourself from the temptation of stooping down to their level. I'm a little raw on the subject of cheating at the moment, so I'll hold off from putting down all the delightful words in my mind. this life is fucked, so to speak.So when I'm really pissed, I remind myself that the only option for revenge is happiness/a good life/pouring all my energy back into improving myself. It can be hard at times and I have choice words I want to say to this person the next time I see her. But thankfully, no one can arrest me for telling her I can't hear her through all the dicks in her mouth.
Ha, thanks. I'm a little loopy from tiredness at the moment, really. But yes I'm looking forward to telling her that, assuming I have the balls to break the laws of common decency and do it. I'm pretty mad at her and I think she merits blunt treatment. Not only did she do what she did but she then lied to my face about it when confronted, continued to deny it through the night despite verification by multiple sources, and only started texting me "I'm sorry" the next day which, by the way, ladies and gents, means "I'm really really sorry that you caught me". Thank you for the internet hugs. I am going to work out and get fabulously good-looking. I am going to write more. I am going to pour a lot of time into myself and I'm going to succeed in the areas where my passions lie. And did I say, I am going to get ridiculously fit and good-looking? It may be shallow but it should also be good physical exercise to release any pent-up anger. I send you homemade brownies. I hope you are doing something nice for T-Day. Also, people do stupid things. I've been a cheater before. It's a sucky thing to do to a person. You shouldn't do it. I guess I'm just saying, don't lose hope though. People are also immature and do really immature things in order to lash out at others. Hopefully, we all grow.
These brownies are freakin delicious, all I needed right now :) As of last Saturday, I have also cheated. Thank's for showing me its not all over. Happy thanksgiving to you and a good night. Just for the record, I honestly don't think that girl is worth a second of your time, but you know whats right.I am going to work out and get fabulously good-looking
. Yes! screw people calling douchebag for trying to be confident with yourself. You're gonna be the sexiest girl in the world, I promise. I've been at it for under a year, it's a cool culture to be a part of. When I'm not on the verge of passing out i'l tell you about something special regarding fitness. (edit: this sounded weird. I won't correct it)
Consider her dropped like a hotcake in the dirt. Haha, thank you for the encouragement. I assume you lift? Do you use SS or another program? I want to get into SS - maybe - or some kind of fighting/self defense program. Really, I want to box but it's hard to find a location for that around here. Enjoy that turkey. Avoid revenge-fucking people. (Not saying that you did. It's just bad policy.)Just for the record, I honestly don't think that girl is worth a second of your time, but you know whats right
And.. I like revenge fucking :( (not saying I did)
Good morning! I developed my own routine within the course of a month using what my gym has, and change it up every two months or so so my muscles don't get too used to the motions. I suggest going on bodybuilding.com, typing "(muscle group you want) exercises" in search and picking the best one for you (I prefer sorting them by rating, usually the best comes come up >9.0/10. I imagine my workout will be different from yours since you're a girl (for example, I can't say I spend an awful amount of time on my glutes) but you can easily find articles and make one for yourself with what your gym has. Only advice I can give is make sure you have good form. I mean, perfect form. this is a necessity that a lot of people overlook until they're in a wheelchair. shmedit: There's so, so much more to it. You'll learn (and really want) to keep an effective diet, you'll figre out how to incorporate cardio, how to reach your limits, and how to surpass them. And most importantly, you'll develop your motivation. This could be many things, but it usually ties in to one day. the "special thing' i mentioned yesterday is The Spartan Race. The Spartan Race. The Spartan Race. The Spartan Race. It is my love, it is my life, it is the best and happiest I've felt out of my last year that I ran it-- The Sprint that is, not the Death Race :s. Anyway, that's my motivation. In terms of bodybuilding, I suggest watching Kai Greene's videos. He's basically a monk with bicep peaks.
I make something. Could be a song, poem, meal, short story or podcast. I just like losing myself in something. There are times when I feel all out of sorts and can't figure out why? Turns out I haven't been creative in too long. I go down to my studio and voila... I'm right as rain again.
mhm... though I do find it hard to come up with something enjoyable and positive when trying to blow steam by creating. Ends up as a cry for help for me or something hahaha. I'd love to see some stuff you come up with, if yu're not uncomfortabe with sharing it. now and then I follow the music you post, pretty neat stuff
#tng #tngpodcast write #hubskioriginalmusicclub paint Just to name a few... and thanks.
Damn, I didn't see those paintings. Those are really awesome, TNG! I do a similar thing to you, really. Used to be when I needed to deal with something I'd go write, usually a short story or some poetry or something. Recently it's been almost exclusively music, though - I'm finding bashing out some really angry piano stuff a la Amanda Palmer or The MurderChord really helps.
all of a sudden ive got sooo many excuses to blow off other stuff! Thank you/you suck!
Go make stuff. This isn't a practice run, it's your life. Create....!!
That must suck. To rely on a hypothetical process to calm yourself would be problematic. Unless, you know something the rest of the world doesn't. Otherwise you must be in a constant state of annoyance. ...and Happy Thanksgiving (if you're in the US or even if you're not)
woah. This is some interesting stuff. as a blues lover I gotta say that last track took me for a ride haha. cool vibes
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cfOa1a8hYP8 just relax man
Yoga!!! Center your mind, body, and spirit all in one place at the same time, and sweat all that bullshit out as you step out of your box.
Used to do some intense yoga with my mom who recently went East Asian culture crazy before hitting the gym. Never felt more alive and fresh in my life. Great, great stuff (even though I sucked).
It's a bit strange but when I'm pissed off at my boyfriend without legitimate reason ( just my stupid girl brain being all moody) I try to do something nice like do the dishes or something. Not in a passive agressive way. And while I'm doing it, I'm thinking stuff along the lines of ¨Here asshole, i'm nice to you. Now you have to do something nice for me. I'm gonna force you to be extra nice to me today. Muahaha. ¨ It's a bit evil but then he's all nice to me and I get over the stupid thing the pissed me off, AND the dishes are done. WIN/WIN no ? Also, I cry. I really cry a lot. I can't really help it, I guess that's just how I am.
Hilarious/sinister as that is, I think that's probably one of the better ways to deal with frequent anger towards your boyfriend :D Made me laugh, thanks :)Also, I cry. I really cry a lot. I can't really help it, I guess that's just how I am.
I dont think that's anything to be ashamed of, although a lot of people are afraid of it and think its a sign of weakness. Cry on girl.Here asshole, i'm nice to you. Now you have to do something nice for me. I'm gonna force you to be extra nice to me today. Muahaha
haha I know what you mean. Cool of you to catch that in yourself, but don't blow it off as girlishness if there's an actual issue to address!
I've been under a lot of stress lately. At least, more than I'm used to. I would always pride myself with how calm I can stay under tense and stressful situations, and that people involved in an issue can look to me for support-- one of my favorite feelings ever is to know I've been there for someone, and made them feel better, or do better. Maybe that's selfish, I don't know. But, as I said, lately it's been getting hard. I'm making mistakes, I'm slipping up, I'm trying to improve myself constantly for the people I love and instead become a fuck-up of epic proportions. Taking time to breathe, think/rationalize and understand is being replaced with a lot of self-hatred and a dangerously large volume of pull-ups. I don't want to be a burden on my friends, so I usually just 'deal with it' and keep it in. It's not healthy, so I'd love to know how you guys keep on ticking. I'm trying to find solace in songwriting/the piano, and listening to music.
haha wait what do you mean edit: im weird just let me livveee
Can't tell which. Regardless, I want to say this: your vague questions are sweet, but what is highly skilled and multitalented is your interest and support of other people - so keep it up. As for this: It gets easier and weirder.what do you mean
Here's what I mean. You claim to be in high school, so you probably only have 13-18 years experience living in your world. The world can be very intense and when you say this become a fuck-up of epic proportions
it sounds either REALLY BAD or you're being really hard on yourself.im weird just let me livveee
- of course. it goes without saying.
it's mildly bad, i might post about it later. I guess for my 15 years of experience on this little greenish-blue bubble of dust it's pretty bad. whatever, but thanks for caring haha. That's why i love this place. and I appreciate that. I try not to be condescending by not necessarily giving advice, and just listening. its never fun to tell someone i told you so, even if it might somehow be satisfying to you at first. I like this post. I am too tired to be sophisticated so Im just going to say thank you very much/I love it, and I mean both of those, a lot. My now-ex-girlfriend and I are/were 6,000 miles apart. shitty shit is shit. and I'm glad I go through stuff I go through, though I do kinda resent my soap opera teenagerhood; everyone likes to think they're different eh. On a random side note as my mind wanders in an emotionally twisted and sleep deprived haze, I'm much more of a casual conversationalist when it comes to these things in person.. typing seems so cold at times, at least when I do it. I say this only because your blog is so warm and genuine. Also,I may not have made this up, but I haven't heard it ever before from someone else. I always say, "If life was easy, it wouldn't be interesting." If we fulfilled all our goals pursuits and desires, we'd have no more a purpose to be alive. You can switch drugs to a better high once you've reached its peak, can't switch lives. Enjoy the pursuit of happiness by stopping to smell the roses. by the time they die, you'll know the scent and be able to pick it up later along the way. whatever the hell that means.
and if you don't know this song with a similar message you absolutely must listen. It is brilliant. It is my alarm every morning and frankly it is a great song to wake up to. Then when I am going through tough times I listen to it as well.
oooooh snap! The second the vocals opened I recognized the song!!! I've heard it before as a sample in some hiphop track. Would you mind if we start waking up to the same song?? This is brilliant :D -but sad :( I have so so so much music to share along the lines of 'getting through'... we need a meetup STAT! Edit: this is my lazy morning track, my lazy afternoon track, and my sleepy nighttime track :) I'm breaking ground into this 'old' feel of vocals and crispness in the instrumentals-- not like the sharp and clean vibes of today. I did hate it for a ong time though, so this might not be your style (yet!)