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oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 27, 2019

I’ve spent like 5 years trying to decide on the source of my absolute shit ability to form attachments and honestly some days I’m still not convinced. On one hand I think it’s all been worth it to understand myself better, but on the other it’s more important to acknowledge and accept who you are so you can deal with it going forward. Don’t dwell on not knowing what the cause is, but don’t be surprised if it hits you like a brick wall if you decide to work on this either. I have a friend who’s similar to you, for them it seems like having a very emotionally intuitive mother but distant father has left them feeling their emotions with no idea how to process it. You could be completely different though. Normally by moving forward that stuff becomes clear.

Progressing “clearly” isn’t really a thing in my experience, you’ll just work on yourself for a while and then one day realize something you’re doing would have made you more anxious a year ago. Then you might get knocked down again but that’s okay because you know that you’re capable of overcoming it. That’s normally how I get through rough patches now, telling myself I’ve done this before so I can do it again and just hoping life doesn’t knock me down too much that it stops feeling worth the effort. I think that’s a high self esteem thought.

I like reading books and I can point to a few things my therapist have had me do that helped like jotting down my feelings through out the day to becomes more aware but you’ll likely have to just find what works for you over time with trial and error. Just make sure to remember nothing that doesn’t work was a waste of time, it gets you closer to understanding what will work. This wasn’t the most positive addition but I think managing expectations is important. It’ll take time and if you’re the kind of person who likes clear objectives or progress plans you won’t want to stick with it. Do it anyways.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Sometimes Whistleblowing Works

The only damper on this news is that the vast majority of Canadians are too stupid to realize that the federal cons would have done the exact same thing if in power as they were in power during multiple scandals involving the same company. The faux outrage of the right is unfortunately evident on both sides of the border and the saddest thing is how well it works.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 23, 2019

W-wait, was it the price ? I looked at the site trying to find why it was a stupid choice and settled on the price not being it very quickly. Being a millennial suck.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: People.... funding the wall

I thought his followers were supposed to be poor people ? Gee, I wonder what it’s called when a bunch of poor and impressionable people get tricked into giving all their money to help their leader accomplish his grand plans that will fix all their problems. Oh ya, a cult. It’s a fucking cult.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 12, 2018

Honestly I don't think I ever saw an ironing board left out when I was a housekeeper. I probably would have been a little tripped out and worry that the guest wanted it out so I would be inconveniencing them by putting it away. Thankful those days are behind me.

You know all those videos of white people calling the police on black people for going about their lives ? I have no doubt they legitimately think something is wrong and they feel afraid, I just doubt they would feel those fears if white people were doing the same thing. I don’t really think itching to shoot a black person and panicking in an active situation are mutually exclusive. I don’t think they wake up every day hoping they get a chance to shoot a black person, racism rarely works that way. Sexism doesn’t work that way either but we constantly see men and women get treated differently by people who would never consider themselves sexist. I think it’s possible to get extra jumpy around black people without realizing it. I can say with absolute certainty that they do not get jumpy around small women like myself, I don’t think it’s a stretch to say there are other people they would get more jumpy around even though many of them are innocent while some small women are god damn psycho’s.

I disagree because when you look at the scenarios were cops are shooting innocent black men they have no real reason to believe the guy has a military grade arsenal in his back pocket. Or maybe it was tucked away in the glove compartment of the car. Last week a cop ran into a room were he knew some guy with a gun was shooting, I’m sure he had good intentions but did he even have a plan before running in ?

A cop shot an innocent black man in Chicago because that’s just what cops in your country do. If this wasn’t a race thing there would be people of every race getting shot as regularly. Cops are just scared of black men not military grade arsenals and I don’t accept that as an excuse. I’m scared of men when I walk around too, so what ? Do I get a pass for attacking any that might be able to out power me ? Maybe one day it will start to happen in predominately white suburbs and, like the opioid crisis, something might actually get done about it.

So basically your cops shoot a ton of black men who pose little to no threat because white men carry out mass shootings a lot ? That’s your argument ?

I imagine that’s the case in a lot of situations but I’ve also met a lot of Canadian cops with empathy, granted this has generally been in small places and maybe that’s why people push for more community policing.

Is meatheadedness the only requirement to be a cop in America ? Just saying, we have guns, wallets, cellphones, packs of skittles and black people in other countries. Has anybody compared the training officers in other places recieve to some American forces ? Or the requirements for entry ?

The “ I’m old enough to remember” was patronizing BS.

The well if that’s the issue then ya they’re dicks but heeey would you look at this over here was pivoting.

Remember Bush, eh ? Well you’re gonna break something with all this pivoting then old man. I remember it too, because certain things happening during that time affected the rest of the world. I don’t doubt he’ll stay in office for a while, but this midterm showed democrats they need to work hard in 2020 and that although they made gains they need to energize their base as well. The thing that most enrages the people I know is that there’s an entire group of people who act like it doesn’t actually matter who’s in office because they live a comfortable life. There’s no empathy for asylum seekers who have yet to be reunited with their children or who have been reunited with a child who has been traumatized by your country. This very conversation, you’ve pivoted away from a conversation about women because it just doesn’t affect you. It’s easier to just say this will pass like Bush did because it has no affect on your life. It’s easier to make the issue about respecting office because the other issue has no place in your mind.

They took his pass away because he “layed his hands on a woman”, end of story.

They doctored this video to back up that belief. You might be willing to change the argument or focus for them but they climbed this hill and they can die on it before I let them change what they said.

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