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Crampons for ice climbing, definitely not running anywhere in those but you can sort of fast walk if you skip the rocks poking above the water and just walk on the pebbles a couple inches down. That eventually happened when I started trusting how waterproof the boots were.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Never speak to a debt collector

See with mine since I couldn’t understand the name of the person they were asking for I made sure never to say my name so they couldn’t just respond as if that was the name being said. I assumed they were a scam from the start so I skipped all civil steps and went full crazy.

Turns out they were actually a real company and just terrible at their jobs.

I haven’t snowshoed but something I didn’t notice mentioned is how slippery crampons are on rocks, I almost bailed one day crossing a little creek but thankfully the guy behind me grabbed onto my pack saving me from getting soaked.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Never speak to a debt collector

I used to have some debt collector call me all the time while I couldn’t pick up my phone but I was always pretty nice to them when I actually did get to pick up the phone.

Then one day they called while I was napping in my closet with a terrible migraine, and it made me so angry my migraine actually went away. This ended with me bringing up the time they were successfully sued in some year and they backed down hard, yaaay google.

Oh ya, forgot to add they were looking for some dude but every time they said it on the phone you could barely understand the name.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 6, 2017

Sure, but at the same time the people who are relatively removed from the topic by and large won't actually understand what needs to be done.

I doubt those lists where intentional first steps, if we are going to talk about the things that happen to us we basically have to have a "no names" rule if we don't want to end up with a list. Which is a joke lets be real, that meeting would end in shouting the second Cindy chimed in to tell somebody not to use the name of the man who hurt her. It's more likely that the lists start organically with simple looking out for each other and then fester.

    well, if I am that person, I am going to choose to wear amor if it's available to me. I'm not going to talk about how I shouldn't have to wear armor. It is a personal choice.

And my response to that is so do I, we don't really have a choice not to arm ourselves against harm as it's a very natural reaction. The problem is that people who want to parade around that they make this choice to wear armour are almost always looking down on those who choose to talk about solutions and how they shouldn't have too without ever considering that maybe it is possible to do both. We all suit up, some of us just take a little extra time to try and talk about solutions and maybe that's because we have more to guard ourselves against.

I mean would it be okay for somebody who lives in a gated community to look down on somebody from the ghetto for trying to talk about solutions to violence to just say "pfft, there are bad people in this world you just need to accept that and learn to protect yourself like me"

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 6, 2017

Maybe the problem is that when you point out that wearing armour is a good thing you don't actually know what that looks like to somebody else.

I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, but I seem to be one of the only women on this site who will throw out my personal experiences with this bullshit and believe me I'm holding back. Maybe that means I just have more experience with this and my armour looks different.

So it's fine and all to say we should wear emotional armour but don't try and dismiss other peoples problems as if you know what that armour looks like for them. Maybe you've got a nice little suit there but the rest of us are pretty fucked up from just trying to live our lives. We will continue to fuck up our relationships, pass up opportunities at work, and in general live an isolated existence from anything we perceive as potential harmful that won't even flash on your radar.

Basically you've got no idea what sort of battlefield other women have navigated and a little empathy for them goes a long way. It's pretty damn rude to tell somebody to just throw on some armour when you have no idea what they've already got. Many women are being dragged down by the weight of it and would actually benefit from learning to trust a little bit more.

Edit: Whoa, didn’t read your early messages. That’s how gangs get started.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 29, 2017

I'm finally okay with it being winter now because I got to go ice climbing again this year and now I kind of want to learn how to snowboard. I've heard about this happening from people who have lived here for years. Every season they say it's their last but they stay for part of the next season and remember all the things they loved about it so instead they'll leave at the end of winter but ohhhhh boy summer is just great.

Anyways, this is Moonlight Falls in Kananaskis Country and also my first time rappelling.

About half way between me and what looks like the top there is a little ice ledge on my left. That was 60m's up at the first pitch, we had originally planned to keep on going but it started raining and the rest of it looked like crap. This would have been my first multi pitch and also my third day of ice climbing ever which given that I don't rock climb is apparently pretty impressive.

I wish I brought my phone up so I could have taken a picture of that ledge. It barely fit two people but the view was amazing. The lead climber was standing on the edge belaying and thanks to the light rain he had a thick layer of ice covering his entire jacket. This might have also been thanks to me taking around an hour to get up. By the time the third guy came up both of our axes were covered in ice as well

I'm not sure exactly when this was taken but I know it was one of my many "can I bend this way" moments when looking at where I had to put my feet next. At the start of the climb you can talk to the person on the ground and they'll convince you to just go for it but around the middle you can't get much of a conversation going through shouting. I had another one of these moments near the top where I told the lead climber that I just didn't think I could get my leg up that high. His response was something like "ohhhh well go for it, I've got you" and that was all that needed to be said. I did get my leg up although my hip felt like shit for a second.

It was interesting experience for me physically and mentally. I climbed the entire way even though my arms wanted to quit before the half way mark. I did this last year for a day and rarely made it to the top of easier/shorter climbs, even though I was actually stronger back than. It had a lot more to do with pushing myself mentally and that's what made it feel so good to finish. I had great climbing partners who helped me out when they were in less than shouting distance but that little part where I had to convince myself to basically do the splits and keep going was new for me. I didn't stand to loose anything by trying because I was on belay and could have tried to figure out a different route. This was definitely a mental block I had to push through and it felt really fucking good to push through it.

My body alternatively does not feel that good a few days later and I really should have gone to the gym more (read: even once) before this climb.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 29, 2017

    you will never even meet a bartender that knows what maraschino is.

Pffft, you come to Lake Louise and you just might now.

Basically yes, some time’s the accused will be found not guilty merely because there wasn’t enough evidence but that doesn’t automatically mean the victim isn’t a victim. We can still believe the victim and provide the appropriate resources to them so they can heal.

Something came to mind for every point she mentioned but the one about HR was the biggest so I'm going to share yet another story about this crap.

I'm pretty sure I was 17 or 18 by this time at my first job where realistically the creepy old dudes had been being their creepy selves from the start. It was the kind of general creepiness that everybody working there was aware of but nobody really took seriously I guess because it wasn't specific enough. Fast forward to this incident and my new manager decides that he's concerned about a guy making me uncomfortable at work, a guy who happened to be my friend. A guy who this manager conveniently just didn't like for some reason. So now I have to have a meeting to tell them that no this guy is my friend and we are completely fine. Present is the manager with an agenda, the union rep that just want's to do something visible so people think having a union is important, another manager who apparently has something to do with the union at store level who happens to be a member of the creepy old dudes club, and the HR rep who probably would have actually listened to me had she ever got the chance.

The system just doesn't work and people will never understand just how many ways it fails. I mean having that many people in the room because a manager was suspicious of my being uncomfortable was supposed to help the situation. The policies that lead to that meeting where all put in place for my best interest by somebody who will probably never fully grasp the scope of the problem.

Honestly, name one system we've actually been able to fix so it works for everybody. It doesn't exist, somebody will always fall through the cracks. Intelligent people with dyslexia, girls with ADHD, quiet girls getting harassed/assaulted by guys who are above them, kids from dysfunctional functioning families, young adults who don't qualify for student aid because their parents apparently have money to give them, sick people who need financial aid but don't qualify because they made good money a year ago before they got sick, young people with anxiety or depression who don't get the help they need for fear of how it could affect their home life even though the resources are there, people who fear leaving/reporting domestic violence because nobody is actually going to keep them safe after the fact. Those are just examples I can think of from my own life that have either affected myself or somebody I care about and honestly I could go on if I didn't feel like it would get boring eventually.

I'm not trying to be pessimistic, I think there are ways to help these people but I don't think the answer is some system. It's about people listening, and just being good to each other. That will take a while but so will fixing the system. We can help victims of assault without involving the accused. "Justice" doesn't have to involve the other party, it can just involve the victim getting the help they need to achieve the life they deserve despite what happened too them.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 22, 2017

I’ve never experienced the jaw grinding it just creeps me out when you see those people at the bar.

oyster  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: November 22, 2017

Ah, sounds a lot like Fifth Business and if I didn’t know you had been an English teacher in Ontario before this would have given it away.

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