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mk  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Large Majorities Dislike Political Correctness - The Atlantic

I use retarded and I am not sure that it’s bad. I don’t have any experience with people using it to insult mentally handicapped people, and if they did, I don’t see it as different than calling a mentally handicapped person stupid. Which is just plain awful. Retarded is a quality. If I say that an action or someone is retarded, I’m saying that it is stupid. I am calling that person stupid. That’s an accepted interpretation.

At some point, the problem is someone’s disingenuous sensibilities, and conforming to them would be retarded.





johnnyFive  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The way I've always seen/interpreted the issues with that word is that by equating the mental disability with stupidity, it's equating the people with that disability with something negative. In other words, it's true that said disability means someone is less intelligent, but there's a difference between that and calling someone stupid. I wouldn't call someone with Down's stupid just because they can't figure out algebra.

So I think the criticism (one I largely share) is about crossing some wires. It seems like that use of the term is equating having the condition with something bad. It's little different from how "gay" was once used as a synonym for "bad" just across the board, and I don't have a hard time seeing why that's not cool, either.

mk  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I can understand the argument, but one difference is that you do indeed call gay people gay as it’s an inoffensive description. Retarded isn’t an inoffensive label for anyone. It is bad. It wasn’t a very good descriptor of a disability from the start, because it is a specific shortcoming applied to a general set of conditions. I’d argue that’s why it works so well as an insult. It’s a very specific one.

No one says “hey my son is stupid” or “hey my son is retarded”, “...don’t use that word like that.”

OftenBen  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    The way I've always seen/interpreted the issues with that word is that by equating the mental disability with stupidity, it's equating the people with that disability with something negative.

That's a problem with the euphemism treadmill, not with the word in question.

Any word can have negative meaning if it is said with negative or hurtful intent.

Whatever word is used to distinguish those with a mental disability from those who are just otherwise less intelligent will be used as a slur to refer to those who are just on average less intelligent.

'Downsie' is now used as a slur by young kids/teens. Do we change the name of Down's syndrome because the word is used as a pejorative? Then kids will start saying that 'Aww shit, little jimmy must have an extra chromosome!' Wait, they already do that.

I don't see a solution to this problem other than become harder to offend.

johnnyFive  ·  1993 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's always a balancing act, but it doesn't automatically follow that the answer is "do nothing." Language is ultimately a social construct, and we all get to decide both what words mean and what to be offended by. For whatever reason "retarded" has taken hold in mainstream culture while other things have not. It's arbitrary, but then so is language as a whole.

OftenBen  ·  1993 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    it doesn't automatically follow that the answer is "do nothing."

Good thing that's not what I advocate for.

Learning to be thick-skinned and hard to offend is definitely not a 'do nothing' approach.

It's damn difficult and even suggesting it is unpopular.

For some reason we are dead set on giving words all this extra power and by extension give tons of power to those who get off on using offensive language.

Trump, and those who think/act/talk like him are empowered by how easy it is to offend anyone to the left of center. They can do nothing except say one shocking, offensive thing, and all of a sudden it's the only thing that anyone can talk about for a week while other nefarious shit goes on behind the scenes.

johnnyFive  ·  1992 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I get all this, but I don't think it's realisitic to just pretend that words don't mean anything, either.

OftenBen  ·  1992 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm not pretending anything.

I am refusing to take offense when cretins try to give it out.

The other option is death to cretins. It might not start out that way, but that's where we would end up.

johnnyFive  ·  1992 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's your choice of course, but I haven't seen a reason that everyone should follow it (which is more where I was going). I also think your prediction is hyperbolic.

OftenBen  ·  1992 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm always happy to hear alternatives.

The parties in question are those who are taking offense and those who are giving it.

Despite our best intentions and hopes Trump and Company are going to continue doing exactly what they've been doing because they've been successful doing it. The choice that we are faced with is to either allow it to have the desired effect or not.

johnnyFive  ·  1991 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sure, but you can only do what you can do. Other people being assholes doesn't mean I get to be.

OftenBen  ·  1990 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So what are you going to do?

johnnyFive  ·  1988 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Not use terminology that I think has bad connotations.

OftenBen  ·  1988 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Watch tacocat's link if you haven't already

johnnyFive  ·  1988 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I have, and it hasn't changed my opinion. I don't think his description of this consistent cycle is accurate: I've never heard anyone use any of the currently-used technical terms as a synonym for "stupid." The cycle pretty much ended with the word retarded.

I think y'all are simply choosing to ignore how it's actually used. It's used to say "you being stupid is you being like this other person with a mental condition." Since this kind of logic is generally communative, I don't think it's unreasonable for it to be seen as implying that someone with one of these conditions is insult-worthy per se. You can say an association shouldn't exist, but that's academic: the point is that it does. That's how language works.

A good example of this is the word "niggardly." It has nothing to do with the racial slur, has a totally different etymology (it comes via Scandinavian languages versus the slur being based on Romance ones), but given its effect, it's something that most people avoid using now. See also: "nimrod," which literally went from meaning "a great hunter" to "stupid" thanks to a massive misunderstanding of a Bugs Bunny cartoon.

Regardless of the reasoning, there's a degree of selfishness involved. You're basically saying "I won't change my speech pattern even though it's hurtful to someone else." Sure, anything can be taken too far, and some of this is simply a matter of general societal agreement that is not perfect. But are you really saying that you're so inconvenienced by having to use a different word, to the point that it overrides the very real hurt felt by someone with such a condition or their loved ones? Even if we set aside the way it's used (and what thus makes it different), is it really so important to you that you're cool with being an asshole to someone who doesn't deserve it just so you get to use this one specific word?

This is why the "anti-PC" crowd gets a bad rap, because my experience has overwhelmingly been that it's people being upset that they're not allowed to be shitty to someone else like they used to.

OftenBen  ·  1985 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Who am I trying to be shitty to?

johnnyFive  ·  1981 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That was a more general thing about the whole idea of being "anti-PC" or whatever. So my comment to you more specifically was to question why it's okay to use a term that many would regard as offensive for little gain, at least that I can see.

OftenBen  ·  1970 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm still waiting to hear an alternative.

tacocat  ·  1988 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I've heard special needs used as an insult. I haven't heard anyone go to Stanhope's lengths.

I've not really followed this whole conversation but check this out:

https://www.themarysue.com/sarah-palin-son-instagram/

That lady is a piece of work.

johnnyFive  ·  1981 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Wow, that is horrifying.

tacocat  ·  1981 days ago  ·  link  ·  

And I honestly can't tell if she's too stupid to know why that's awful or cynical and awful enough to do it anyway

johnnyFive  ·  1980 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I've been having that internal debate a lot lately. I feel like it probably starts as cynicism and then just sort of becomes the person after awhile.

tacocat  ·  1981 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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tacocat  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·  

OftenBen  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Exactly who I was thinking of, and who I think of every time this topic comes up.

katakowsj  ·  1993 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Agreed. Stupid to me would describe plain ignorance despite evidence to the contrary. Just a bit different than retarded which can be useful to describe an idea that is slow in developing or needing development.

I find that most any harsh adjective has it’s place when describing situations of impermanence over adjectives directed in an absolute manner toward a person. For example, “What a retarded idea that was to throw a boomerang in our backyard and smash out two windows”. The adjective describes a poorly developed idea without disparaging any particular person or group. This, to me, is very different than than saying, “Dude, you are such a retard!” That is an unfavorable use in my book.

mk  ·  1993 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yes, come to think of it, I always use it to describe an action or idea. I use stupid the same way.

tacocat  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Bear in mind that words like idiot and imbecile were medical terms at one point

http://englishcowpath.blogspot.com/2011/06/euphemism-treadmill-replacing-r-word.html?m=1

Also Sarah Palin is the most vocal opponent of the r word I can think of. Make of that what you will. My money is on a healthy bit of faux outrage even though she had a child with Down's Syndrome

kleinbl00  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So was moron.

Northwest Center was the Northwest Center for the Retarded until about 2007. But hey - that was 11 years ago. Go watch Julia Sweeney as Pat on SNL and try to find the funny these days.

tacocat  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm trying to tone down my language lately but I still don't think words should be verboten. So while I say retarded pretty instinctively, I cringe when I see that kind of relic from its past.

Nepotist  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The other issue is that retarded itself became the clinical term of choice after everyone started using imbecile in a derogatory way.

    However, the term imbecile quickly passed into vernacular usage as a derogatory term, and fell out of professional use in the 20th century[11] in favor of mental retardation.

    Phrases "mental retardation", "mentally retarded", and "retarded" are subject to the euphemism treadmill: initially used in a medical manner, they gradually took on derogatory connotation, just as did earlier synonyms (for example, moron, imbecile, cretin, dolt and idiot, formerly used as scientific terms in the early 20th century), leading to a search for connotatively neutral replacements

Eventually some other word would replace retard anyways.

tacocat  ·  1994 days ago  ·  link  ·