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goobster  ·  2605 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: February 8, 2017

... because half the people that read my post read "Huh huh huh... ORGIES" and can't get beyond that.

Talking about sexuality in America is difficult. But I'm here. And you are here. Maybe we can start.





kleinbl00  ·  2605 days ago  ·  link  ·  

(the rest of us read "consent workshop" and decided it sounded a lot like workplace insurance-mandated sexual harassment training)

thenewgreen  ·  2605 days ago  ·  link  ·  

b_b is making the Forever Labs team sign a sexual harassment thingy to lower our insurance costs.

#sellout

kleinbl00  ·  2605 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Trust that guy with your money.

b_b  ·  2604 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm finding out that there are so many things that I used to say, "We will never do that," where the 'that' in that sentence is something that your insurance underwriter insists that you have to get the best rate. I'm not a fiduciary in the legal sense, but (a) I want our business to survive, and (b) I feel a responsibility to our investors and employees (many of whom are close personal friends of mine) badly enough that I won't spend a dollar that I don't see a benefit to spending. Hence, by this time next week, we're gonna have ourselves a sexual harassment policy, a fire escape plan, and whateverthefuck else our underwriters give us as a carrot. Insurance people might be more ridiculous than lawyers. They're just as evil, but so fucking polite it makes you sick. At least lawyers have the balls to be pricks.

cgod  ·  2604 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Workplace harassment sucks and having a policy against is a good thing.

I've seen too many inappropriate things in the workplace, a hard ass policy might have prevented some of it.

kleinbl00  ·  2604 days ago  ·  link  ·  

In order to get my wife's business loan she needed a life insurance policy that named the bank as the benefactor. As a cosigner on the loan I did, too.

Which meant in order for the bank to give us funds we had a surly Russian dude come out and give us physicals and take blood.

I literally have blood in the game.

thenewgreen  ·  2605 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I do. I trust him with my future.

b_b  ·  2604 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Last night our accountant told me, "If this medical business thing doesn't work out, you can come work for us!" I got you :)

goobster  ·  2605 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Heh. Yeah.

But it kinda IS "sexual harassment training"... only switched around. It teaches you HOW to sexually harass someone the way they WANT to be harassed!

Heh.

Cedar  ·  2605 days ago  ·  link  ·  

One of my favourite webcomics to have started in the last few years is Oh Joy Sex Toy, while some / most of the comics are effectively paid adverts they do have the occasional comic that touches on some good topics. This comic prompted me to add my first book on sexuality to my Amazon wishlist -- I've not bought it yet cos... I dunno... just not there yet.

goobster  ·  2605 days ago  ·  link  ·  

LOVE that comic! I remember when it started, I read it religiously.

But then, after being in a relationship for more than seven years, and having our fair share of toys, just regular ole sex is what does it for us. Fiddling with devices can be fun in the right context, but ... it gets distracting after a while.

Toys are a GREAT way to start the "consent" conversation, though! :-)