Share good ideas and conversation.   Login, Join Us, or Take a Tour!
PTR's profile
PTR




"The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day."

-DFW


stats
following: 7
followed tags: 22
followed domains: 0
badges given: 1 of 2
member for: 275 days
style: clean



comments 2
PTR  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 13, 2018

Exactly.

Thomas Welch (the original pioneer of pasteurized grapes) was involved in the Temperance Movement and started producing Welch's grape juice as an alternative to wine.

PTR  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 13, 2018

My older sister (SIS) got married last week. I'mma vent some detailed shit.

tl;dr older sister marries racist she barely knows.

I met the groom, brother-in-law, (BIL) about 24 hours before the ceremony. SIS met BIL 12 months ago on Christian Mingle. She was on there because she's been in a foreign country for 2 years and doesn't speak the language. Also Evangelical Christian. He's on there because he's 28 and never had a girlfriend, not once. Also Evangelical Christian. From the deep South. They met twice before a proposal. Total time spent in each other's presence at that point: <6 days. It's a 4 month engagement.

My wife is black. She's a bridesmaid. Several family members preempt, warn that BIL has "drunk deeply of the culture", whispers of "latent racism". He's from the delta. BIL apparently has a hilarious sassy black mammy voice. Very funny, I'm sure. He thinks he's progressive though. Finds it offensive that people find the accent offensive, "It's just a joke!" He doesn't use the voice in front of my wife. Doesn't speak to her, not ever.

Successful rehearsal regardless. Very isolated pockets of conversation, clear division of bride/groom families. Amid hubbub, at one point I hear a practiced Butterfly McQueen imitation. "Miss Scarlett, I don't know nothin' 'bout birthin' no babies," is just as funny as I expected it to be at a rehearsal dinner. Very appropriate. This one isn't BIL though, it's his best man. According to sources, BIL is a Hatty McDaniel type.

So me, brother to the bride and usher, trying to invite people out for drinks post-rehearsal dinner. Speaking to the groomsmen and their partners, all Southern gents and gals my age, all heavily accented. Talk is going well, nice-ish folks. Wife drops in, peck on the cheek, introduce her to everyone. Groomsmen clam the fuck up, no longer interested in drinks, no eye contact, conversational circle closes, "We're good, man. Thanks."

Oh word? Ok. Yeah. We're "good".

Wedding day. Big day. Busy, busy, busy. Lots of last minute changes. One change, my wife now has to wear a white shawl to cover her arms, ostensibly to conceal her visible tattoos. Bridesmaids are already in modest floor-length dresses during a Southern summer. Now a cardigan? The only bridesmaid to need one apparently. Also, natural hair is a no go. BIL's mom: "We need you to straighten it, honey."

Hmmm...this is nearly unbearable. Wife is a good sport, lovely disposition, a real gem this one. We practice a mantra: These people will never leave their bayou; they mean nothing to me and you.

Gets a good chuckle, but still. Very interested in getting her away from these people. Providing her pleeeenty of alcohol from various suit pockets. This wedding was Saharan dry. Remember, Evangelical.

Wedding occurs, sermon, communion, kiss is an A-framed pucker. I think I hear their teeth click, might've been someone's camera shutter.

BIL's mom and dad are a photographer's nightmare, very condescending. BIL's mom is an amateur photographer, uses the word "auteur" self-descriptively but it sounds more like "otter" with a second syllable accent and a hard "R" of course. Nightmare. Groom's side gets family shots first, then both, then bride's. As bride's family's ordering up, wife and I stand close near the edge. Audibly, BIL's mom: "Oh, is she family? I didn't realize."

I'm steaming.

Getaway car's parked outside, it's BIL's dad's. Bumper stickers are all Trump, Trump, Trump. Maga. Don't tread on me. Amendment 2. Red hat on the back passenger seat. You know what it is. So I snap a photo, send to the wife. She texts back, "Let's go. Now." Puff of smoke emoji.

Now approaching "Get Out" territory, I don't need a second word. We leave, drive 14 hours up the coast that night, no sleep. Fueled on caffeine, anger, and juicy fuckin' gossip. SIS was never a smart kid, but she picked a bad one. Like...cartoonishly racist, nothing latent about it. But we're home and safe.

Get a text from a cousin, SIS's confidante. SIS initiated marital sexy times, rubbing over the pants in the hotel. BIL cried as only a repressed Evangelical can. A lot. Wouldn't stop all night apparently. A no action night.

    These people will never leave their bayou.

    They mean nothing to me and you.

PTR  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski Update: Change to our TOS

Obviously. But the reason TOS are changing across all sites right now is because of the GDPR.

PTR  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski Update: Change to our TOS

Interested - following this.

I'm sure many have read it, but I've always loved The Martian Chronicles.

PTR  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 16, 2018

I found this. It was the only way I could stop hearing Yanny.

PTR  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: The new magnetism of mid-size cities

I think I read somewhere that the average Bostonian's commute is about a half hour. But we're congested - an hour away could be less than 15 miles.

A vacant quarter acre near my favorite movie theater is listed at $1M.

PTR  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: The new magnetism of mid-size cities

My life.

COL Comparison: Chicago-Boston

My wife and I work full-time in Boston where average* rent is $2152 this year and rising.

*Note, in case you're unfamiliar, that'll get you in a multi-family with quarter-operated laundry in the basement, utilities not included, and parking will be an extra $200, thanks. Move-in will be first month, last month, deposit of one month, and the cost of one month's rent for broker fees ($2152*4 = a cool $8600)

My brother lives in one of these mid-size cities where he's paying off a 3-bed/2-bath house in the middle of downtown at $200 less than what we pay for a 1-bed/1-bath basement. We're technically in the Greater Boston Area which really means our commutes are an hour+, but it also means that our rent is about 2/3 as much as anywhere on the T. You do the math on what my brother pays for his spacious luxury.

He also has two dogs in that white picket mansion, and he didn't have to ask nobody's permission 'bout that.

We have good jobs, good education, and good prospects. The allure of mid-sized cities is stronk.

Lol she decided, "It’s not that you’re not good people. It’s that you’ve miscited the law, at times."

YIKES!

Regular ol' filter team for the pres and his fixin' boys with the possibility for a special master.

PTR  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: FBI Raids Cohen’s Office

Birds of a feather pay off sex actresses together.

PTR  ·  link  ·  parent  ·  post: FBI Raids Cohen’s Office

Chris Hayes

    Today the National Deputy Finance Chair of the GOP was raided by the FBI.

Cohen is one of 2 Vice Chairs of Finance for the GOP. The other is Elliott Broidy.

posts and shares 0/0