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Ay-Nawn  ·  36 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: February 19, 2025

Finding it exceptionally hard to focus at work. Unplugging for the weekend helped immensely, but the world goes on. Had a LOT of travel plans already set up for this year, re-thinking some of the destinations/modes of travel.

I do have good news to lighten things up, 'cuz goddamn.

1. Planning on getting engaged this year, but thinking sooner than later. Not sure if we want to elope or have a small ceremony. After talking about it over Valentines more, I've found myself excited at the prospect in a way I wasn't expecting.

2. Attended a protest. My paranoia is a bit much afterwards, so I'll re-evaluate as others come up. Also in the boat of 'not sure what else to do'. Have found controlled breathing to be imperative to keeping blood-pressure down throughout the day.

3. Bought some DVDs, and boy it feels good to just own digital media. Of the stash, got a Shrek movie bundle. Apparently some of the translations are damn hilarious.

Would like to get into a house again soon. Given events, missing being on the hairy edge of rural.

Interest rates say wait a while.





am_Unition  ·  36 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hang in there, anon. Thanks for protesting. And congrats on the engagement! Hearing stories of people with their heads in the right places carrying on with their lives (b/c whatcha gonna do?? We have to live) always makes me feel a little better.

Ay-Nawn  ·  28 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks! Went perusing for rings for the first time today. Seeing the S/O try one on was special form of clarifying excitement.

As for carrying on… yes, it’s a level of “we have to live”. On the best days, having happy moments are good to rebuild a sense of bearing. On the worst days, carrying on is as most others do in already-worse scenarios. Somewhere in the middle provides room for thinking about responses to “what-if” scenarios.

NikolaiFyodorov  ·  35 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I should start going to more protests.

ButterflyEffect  ·  36 days ago  ·  link  ·  

there’s a post from a few months back with some interesting conversation from kleinbl00 and uhsguy on housing. maybe not applicable to your situation? but at a macro level I don’t think anything’s changed since november:

here found it

congrats on the engagement!!

Ay-Nawn  ·  28 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thank you! And I appreciate you linking that conversation. It’s really damn clever. Brought it up with the S/O and if we’re still looking local within the next year, that avenue dovetails really well into our plans for getting a multifamily housing situation where their parents and potentially some friends could stay as well. Unfortunately, the parents would have been relying on Social Security to both live and pay a significantly reduced amount into the mortgage, yet that might not be viable soon.