Geography teacher cleared of raping pupil says men should stay away from teaching
Education: When innocent touches put a teacher at risk. Note this is from from 1999
This fear climate is messing with the future of our country. There are parents who will not let their kids have a male teacher because Oprah said something that one time. Women teachers never do that stuff These incidents are not that common but they make great news copy so they get reported way out of line for what they are. The removal of men from teaching is not something that just impacts men and kids, either. As I have commented on before.
Honestly, if I was in the spot to direct young men to be successful in life? I'd tell them to go to Khan Academy and learn shit online and go find a union hall that has an apprentice program. The jobs that require physical interactions are not going to be outsources easily. Then in your spare time go to a community college and get an AA degree to fill out your ability to write and read and present an argument. CC's are cheap and the degree is still a degree that looks good on a resume.
Thanks for sharing. In the past I've thought about looking into the Big Brother organization in my town. A coworker was telling me about how her daughter has benefited greatly from her mentor, but her son is perpetually on a wait list due to a shortage of males. I think my lifestyle and mentality would make me a good role-model, and perhaps this is the wrong kind of motivation, but I think it would be fulfilling to be of service to a young person like that. What makes me reconsider is articles like these, coupled with the reality of me living in a smaller town where reputation means quite a bit. It's sad to say, but the rape-allegations-stories make me immediately think, "Nah, not worth it right now". Even if they are rare. I don't know.
The fear of this stuff is out of sorts with the reality. We live in one of the safest human societies ever created. The chance of you or anyone you know being a 'victim' of this stuff is darn near zero. But with the media and social media and movies of the week it seems much more prevalent that it really is. Ask someone if there are more or less murders than a decade ago; the answer is fewer by about 1/4. Most people you ask that question will answer that there are murders everywhere. Yet the DOJ says that if you are not a part of the illegal drug trade the probability of you being a crime victim are nearly zero. So, how do we fight this garbage and get everyone to tamp down the emotional over reaction?What makes me reconsider is articles like these, coupled with the reality of me living in a smaller town where reputation means quite a bit. It's sad to say, but the rape-allegations-stories make me immediately think, "Nah, not worth it right now". Even if they are rare. I don't know.
Totally agree -- I find myself repeating that sentiment to family, coworkers, etc. often. If that question was given to me, I'd say more people should take a risk and not reinforce these stereotypes in reality (in my case, go out and volunteer for BB). If enough people did that, those who read these hysteria-inducing stories would have a real life counterexample to call upon. "That's weird, all the men I know working in childcare are great people".
I've seen far more stories of female teachers being accused of rape than men, but maybe that was because I mainly pick up those stories on reddit. I strongly believe that anyone who behaves appropriately and has healthy boundaries will not be at risk. I also think it is dangerous to assume the rape allegations are false. It is well known that pedophiles are particularly drawn to roles where they exercise power over children (priests, coaches, teachers, scouts, etc) so there will be a higher preponderance of such people in schools. That should not discourage non-pedophiles from taking such jobs. Quite the opposite: you can help combat pedophilia.
Big Brothers/Big Sisters is a brilliant organization, and if you feel the inclination to serve your community in this way, go in and talk to someone. It is a big decision (no pun intended) and their vetting process is impeccable. They are used to talking to people about how things work, the level of commitment involved, and ensuring people are fully informed and fully committed. It is, after all, a child's life we are talking about, here. All that said, my Dad is a Big Brother, and he was President of Big Brothers of Greater Los Angeles. My sister is a Big Sister. And I opted out of becoming a Big Brother because my life was in chaos at the time. Go in. Talk to them. Even if you are just thinking about it, they can help you get your head around the "unknown unknowns" that you haven't even considered. It is a big commitment, but also hugely rewarding.
Thanks for your input. I will likely stop by their office and get more info next week, after my summer semester ends. I'm sure there is a lot I haven't considered.
The passage I liked the most was this: Too often I hear debates like this sound like the aim is to deepen the gender divide. Men are butch and active, etc while women are caring, moral and considerate. So nice to hear the focus instead be on demonstrating the "softer" side like handling emotions and showing respect. I also believe that an important element of the role modeling they do is showing kids that a man caring for kids is manly. In almost all societies being a nurturing father has been a key aspect of being a man, and it is unfortunate that that is among some Americans seen as unmanly/feminine.“Children tend to mimic or ‘act out’ the behaviors they see,” Hough says. “In schools, male children may benefit from male teachers by observing appropriate behaviors, most notably associated with how to handle anger, respect for others and rule following.”