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_refugee_  ·  2778 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: August 17, 2016

Hey man,

1) you were rude,

2) you're now saying it was OK to be rude because you're still right, because oh by the way

3) you still think you're more of an expert on someone's body than the person who lives within it.

This isn't a world where you have to choose between being right, or being liked, not usually at least, for sure, but in this moment, with your words, you are seriously narrowing your options.

In a website built around community, are you sure the choice you're making is the best one for you - the one you wanna make?

Also, there's this thing known as a public apology. You know. For shit done in public.

But if you were going to apologize, what would you even say? Because this is you buckling down. Nothing else.





OftenBen  ·  2778 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Have I told you how much I value you lately?

_refugee_  ·  2776 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No, tell me again.

Just send bl00 like, internet chocolates or something.

Nepotist  ·  2777 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The only thing I really did was tell the guy that it really is all about calories in vs. calories out. He could have just politely disagreed and moved on, but he got butthurt and went on this long self-absorbed rant about how tough he has it and how he's the special case to which this law doesn't apply. But it does apply to him just like it does to everyone else, and everyone else has their own set of challenges in life too, and that definitely includes me.

I'm guessing you're friendly with him based on the way you're sticking up for him, and that's fine, but I don't know him, and right now all I see is someone that overreacted, and to whom I definitely don't feel the need or desire to apologize.

_refugee_  ·  2777 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Cool beans

user-inactivated  ·  2775 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hey, check my earliest comments out if Hubski allows it. If not, look for my earliest post. I had the same experience you do right now.

Stick around. You'll have something to learn.

Nepotist  ·  2775 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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Nepotist  ·  2775 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Are you talking about the 'Introducing Metaphoria' post? It does sound like an interesting series, but I don't really see the similarity.

I do feel like I could have been more tactful with my initial comment. But I've also learned I strongly dislike the kinds of people that take unintended offenses and try to frame them as personal attacks, which is why I have no intention to try to reconcile.

But you are correct, Hubski is a great site with a lot to offer. The community is top-notch and the site mechanics give the power to the user to craft their own experience, instead of letting other users dilute it. I really need to come around more often.

user-inactivated  ·  2775 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's odd: I can't find the post I meant to have you see.

Short version is: I made a post about something. kb came in and told me something about the topic of the post. I said (here and forth paraphrases) "You're confusing some things". kb went "I have awards, I'm recognized for those things I talk about etc., so curses onto you". I went ballistic, in a form far less polite than what you've replied with to ref. Soon enough mutual muting ensued.

Since then I've learned that kb sometimes delivers better than your take-out pizza. The guy's as soft as sandpaper on the outside, but he has something behind that big mouth of his that's worth looking at.