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comment by qiy

Do guys really dislike smart women? My dream is to be with someone sharper than me.

The biggest nightmare of my life was going with a girl who couldn't keep it together mentally. I thought better, but loved her anyway. To say I was burned by this optimism would be an understatement.





thenewgreen  ·  3393 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My wife is brilliant. I like her a lot. She is strong willed and funny too. I love all of those qualities but what I love the most is when she's able to be vulnerable in front of me, mostly because I know it's a privilege to have such a strong person share that side of her with me.

She's pretty rad.

ooli  ·  3394 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So she burned you! So you were the fool! You do not seems so smart compare to her after all.. Just joking.

As stated in the article, men consider a "smart" woman, a woman laughing at their jokes... In this sense, any man like a "smart" woman.

A real smart woman is one that make jokes. Even unfunny ones. In this sense men are a bit turned off. Aren't you?

qiy  ·  3394 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Haha yes I am obviously not that bright either :). I'm quite happy to be the un-smart one in the relationship. Isn't that ideal though?

I find active women far more attractive than passive. Being funny (even unfunny) is part of that. I cherish it in my friends and my best relationships.

It seems really strange that this isn't the case for everyone. Sometimes people talk about the patriarchy, which I am ostensibly part of, but I really have no idea what they are reacting to.

People can get intimidated. Maybe I don't. It could ne that I have a habit of overestimating people.