- I suggest you give it another thought, this time giving my problems the respect and space they deserve
Uh 'scuse me
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First, your problems or your perceived problems don't actually inherently deserve my time, attention, investment or respect. Those are granted by me to you when I feel like it, am interested, and think it's deserved.
Second, it's pretty bad form to demand someone who chimed in on an open conversation you started asking for advice to re-think their comments basically because you don't seem to like them very much. Let's repeat that: demand. You didn't ask me to clarify, you didn't say please, you decided you felt entitled to more of my investment that I had already decided I was willing to give.
3. So self therapy, you say? Imma be skeptical. See:
4. So you don't like it when it's pointed out that, while in this post you present your need for attention as problematic, it's clear to your audience that you are actively and frequently indulging in behaviors that directly feed into that "problem." You think that pointing out that, well, let's just say that if you're trying self therapy via these posts, really what you're doing is just saying "give me attention." To me, that doesn't sound like an effective way to self therapize toward a cure for your need for attention.
You asked for input. You didn't like getting called out for your behavior. Sorry bud, you can't ask an open community to give you feedback and then get snitty and not only reject what you don't like hearing, but fucking demand it be reassessed so that it aligns more with what you think you want to hear. Talk about an echo chamber effect.
Go on and think about that. Or not. You can make all the self posts you can; I am not going to stop pointing out they're attention grabs simply because you don't like being honest with yourself.
Ref,
It's past 11 PM on the clock, and I've been up since 4 AM, doing my running and shit for the workout table; turned out, I do care about it. It's the third revision of this message I'm writing, and by now, if you've lurked through my personal posts enough, you must know just how big my defensive messages get. Those two were defensive. So, it would be best if I lay out my thoughts on the matter right now, in short and as straight as I can make them. You want to be honest, so let me be honest back.
That message I'm replying to? It isn't about me anymore. You've got tangled in anger and inacceptance, much like I did plenty of times before, struggling with the imperfect reality. You're infuriated not by what I did but by what I am, and it's not the first time I see it: you've wrestled with plenty of people online already. I don't want to be one of those people. If you'd like to discuss the whole matter - yours and mine - further, in private, I'd like to discuss it as well. Despite not knowing you for anything like a long time, I consider you my friend; an Internet friend, but a friend nonetheless.
- You're infuriated not by what I did but by what I am, and it's not the first time I see it: you've wrestled with plenty of people online already. I don't want to be one of those people.
Dude. _ref_ is giving you great advice here, and yeah, it's not very feel good. But it's also necessary given these posts. You're putting motives and words where there aren't any, at least the way you're interpreting it. She's given me, and plenty of other people here, sound life advice. It's up to you what you're going to do with it.