Ref, It's past 11 PM on the clock, and I've been up since 4 AM, doing my running and shit for the workout table; turned out, I do care about it. It's the third revision of this message I'm writing, and by now, if you've lurked through my personal posts enough, you must know just how big my defensive messages get. Those two were defensive. So, it would be best if I lay out my thoughts on the matter right now, in short and as straight as I can make them. You want to be honest, so let me be honest back. That message I'm replying to? It isn't about me anymore. You've got tangled in anger and inacceptance, much like I did plenty of times before, struggling with the imperfect reality. You're infuriated not by what I did but by what I am, and it's not the first time I see it: you've wrestled with plenty of people online already. I don't want to be one of those people. If you'd like to discuss the whole matter - yours and mine - further, in private, I'd like to discuss it as well. Despite not knowing you for anything like a long time, I consider you my friend; an Internet friend, but a friend nonetheless.
Dude. _ref_ is giving you great advice here, and yeah, it's not very feel good. But it's also necessary given these posts. You're putting motives and words where there aren't any, at least the way you're interpreting it. She's given me, and plenty of other people here, sound life advice. It's up to you what you're going to do with it.You're infuriated not by what I did but by what I am, and it's not the first time I see it: you've wrestled with plenty of people online already. I don't want to be one of those people.