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lil · 3479 days ago · link · · parent · post: Coffee Talks

Let's say I'm "the other." That question would help you create more awareness of my ignorance of recurrence. Now if my ignorance of recurrence is a decisive factor in whether we continue chatting, then you have some important information.

People bring all kinds of questions. I meet once or twice a year with a man who long ago was my Grade 8 drama teacher and is now a mentor of sorts. He brought this question, "Why are we still friends?"

Another time, I was asked these three questions.

Some people have a lot of trouble coming up with questions for another person. You've been around here a long time. Do you remember this story and the ensuing conversation?

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_refugee_ · 3479 days ago · link ·

"Why are we still friends?" is a great question, so long as the person being asked it won't just get offended.

Sometimes questions that sound offensive at first blush are actually just honest, curious, inquisitive - and tell much.

+discuss+discuss

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lil · 3479 days ago · link ·

It was a real inquiry. He was referring to me and several others from that period in his life. He had just been to a birthday party from one of my cohort.

+discuss+discuss

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_refugee_ · 3479 days ago · link ·

I figured it had to be.

We have spoken recently about friends that, when the reasons behind that are examined, maybe shouldn't still be friends.

But with friends of merit? That could lead to great discussion.