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gordonz88  ·  1798 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, what're you gonna be when you grow up?

I am essentially going to copy and paste what I said to flagamuffin, so don't get mad!

Thank you so much for these words. This poem is especially moving, and your attitude is one definitely worth adopting. This is really the reason why I keep coming back, to have my viewpoints opened so widely. What you've written is motivating beyond belief, so thank you.

_refugee_  ·  1797 days ago  ·  link  ·  



Too Long, Can't Rewrite:

There were four points. 1) Not that big of a deal you haven't had your first kiss, have known people in the age range of 24-26 who just lost virginity and just started dating. These people are still good people. 2) That head trauma thing and the mental illnesses? It doesn't matter if that's what caused them. You cannot change the past. You can only deal with the cards you have in the present. Maybe that is what caused them. Maybe it's not. You're probably never going to know. Honestly, knowing you have no family history is reassuring in a way if you ever want to have kids. Think about it: You are pretty sure your genes aren't blighted. You are pretty sure you're not cursing your kid to anything. Isn't that better than knowing, say, you still have 3 years before you know for sure you're not schizophrenic, let alone any potential kids?

3) Forgotten. Whoops. Actually, point #1 was point #2 and same with point 3. Point #1 was "I have been there and had that kind of existential crisis too. Try talking with friends or therapy." except longer and boringer.

4) "Don't sweat the small stuff" but it's not all small stuff. It's all important stuff. Just don't sweat it so much. Emotions are good and exploring yourself is important. Find out what makes you tick and feel a certain way. I called my emotions "stupid" to someone recently and they said: "Stupid does not equal insignificant. Most of what hurts us or flusters us is stupid...Don't tell yourself your feelings are stupid. There are some that need to be parked/packed sooner than others, but they're your heart, one way or another." When she told me that I cried (JUST A TINY BIT GUYS I DON'T HAVE FEELINGS) about something that'd happened a month and a half ago for the first time. It's okay to feel. Just don't let your feelings ride you.

veen  ·  1793 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hey, I just figured out that if you have a dead link and go a page back and hit reply again, your post is still there. At least on Chrome it is. Worth a try the next time you encounter the deadliest of links.

edit: you do have to copy-paste into a new post though, but the text is still there.

_refugee_  ·  1793 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm convinced you're trolling me

Edit: the reason I'm convinced you're trolling me is because I literally had this exact convo with blackbootz already, in response to this comment. In case that's not clear

veen  ·  1793 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh whoops, I glanced over that. Just remembered that you had FRUSTRATION and when I found a solution myself, I thought I'd share asap.

b_b  ·  1793 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You gotta do the poor man's method and always copy long replies before you hit submit. It's a habit I developed a long time ago, and I do it almost by instinct now. It's like flossing; once you start you'll never feel right unless you do it every time.

_refugee_  ·  1793 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I don't disagree. I was writing my reply and did literally think to myself "I should copy paste this," then mentally shrugged and figured I'd be fine. One instance where clearly, living on the edge did not pay off.

blackbootz  ·  1795 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Just saying, when I get dead links, I click the back button, find the comment I was replying to, and click reply again. With chrome, all the text entered is still there. Seriously. I'm not lying.

_refugee_  ·  1795 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I believe you. I was not using chrome. I tried exactly what you described. It did not work. Thanks

blackbootz  ·  1794 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You know of a way to get dead links on command?

_refugee_  ·  1794 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No. I was familiar with the workaround you suggested before you suggested it