Well, I'm not a very active user, but I liked his comments. He's stuck in his own head a lot, and I often go through the same thing. I liked his questions, because he always seemed to be trying to improve, to be seeking more insight and growth.
As someone who also has spent a lot of time 'stuck in his own head' I think my two cents is warranted. I've definitely had my low points, and shared quite a few of them. I even had the bad sense/taste to be argumentative when people were trying to help. I'm thankful for the patience of this group. I think that of all of the places for a person with depressive tendencies to wind up, this is a fairly welcoming space. Welcoming in the sense that no one begrudges you for the occasional overly negative post. That said, if I had been continuously combative I doubt I would have continued to find support. I like to think that this place encourages growth. I am a vastly different person today than the person who wrote and I am thankful for hubksi's part in helping me get past that point in my life. The question isn't the motivation though. It's the methods by which these things are discussed. If I want to have that kind of conversation I need to start somewhere other than 'All optimistic people are stupid, fite me.' I need a more nuanced thought process and a mind that is open to be proven wrong, or at least some flexibility in my thinking if it's to be a productive and personable conversation. We don't have to agree on anything except the mores by which we communicate. Those are essential.
I think this conversation is unproductive. It feels like taking behind the guys back. Sure, he had his quirks - but who doesn't? This diversity of experiences is why I like hubski. And his linguistic post s were super informative and plain amazing. And to re-iterate what was said - you can always fileter folks. You don't have to read anyone's diary if thats what they feel like posting. I read a lot and didn't reply to a bunch (for lack of productive commentary) . Cause I still cared. But you can just filter and forget - that's the beauty of the 'ski
You are right and I suppose I'm feeling ungenerous tonight TFG became a significant member I Hubski because he was so active. I sometimes appreciated that activity and I sometimes found it difficult. I feel like I tried to tell him a few important things about being happier and he shrugged off every single one. He wasn't happy and more than half of his solutions were diet, exercise and keeping a more ridged schedule. I found it frustrating. I hope he is doing better. I'm sure he looks at Hubski still, I don't think I could talk behind his back. Some times some things on Hubski are far from beautiful. I've feel like I'm in a Hubski funk. I've seen a few pieces of content that I've really found distasteful and I'm probably a surly bastard right now due to other things in life.
Sort of necessary though, would you agree? If we want the community to develop, we need to be able to examine why people join, why they leave, what can be learned? I get the icky-feeling. It might be necessary though for the good of the group.I think this conversation is unproductive.