Dude, no! Don't confess your feelings. Ever. Under any circumstances. Ask her out directly and honestly. And if she says no, just say it was something that crossed your mind, but no big deal. Honesty is the best policy, but only when presented in a way that is attractive. Women want to be taken out on real dates. They don't want the pressure of someone who's in love with them from minute one. I don't know how old you are, so I'm not lecturing you specifically, but this is something that's lost on our current youth. (Looking at you galen; I saw your post, bro; fuck snapchat, call your girl and tell her you're going to take her somewhere---anywhere dammit, but a real place to do real things in the real world!).
Man I wish I had gotten this drummed into my head at a younger age. Would have saved me a lot of time and heartbreak.Honesty is the best policy, but only when presented in a way that is attractive. Women want to be taken out on real dates. They don't want the pressure of someone who's in love with them from minute one.
We went to eat at night two times in the last two weeks (just the two of us). I'm seeing her tomorrow in an afterwork thing, she invited me. The thing is, I feel like it's always in a friend-setting and to change that mindset, I feel like I have to tell her my feelings towards her or it's not going to change. I don't sms/snapchat her except for asking her out to dinner (but I think in her mind it's a friendly dinner, not a date, as it was for me too before I had feelings for her). I'm 22.
| People want to be taken out on real dates. They don't want the pressure of someone who's in love with them from minute one. FTFY
As a woman who has asked a number of guys out... Confessions are awkward. Asking people out is less awkward. (Though it can have bad effects on a friendship sometimes too. IME closer friends are less likely to have their friendship destroyed by it though.) Also, it's just kind of a pet peeve of mine when people give advice about "women" when what they're saying is really "for best results, treat this woman as a person." A lot of things aren't that specific, you know? There are some generalizations you can make about people of different genders, but IMO a lot of the best dating advice is of the form "treat this person how you would want to be treated, were you in that situation." And I'm pretty sure having someone confess their love to you, when you don't feel the same way, is just uncomfortable regardless of your gender. Whereas having them ask you out is a little bit easier to move past because it's a smaller escalation of the relationship.