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lil  ·  3788 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Muting in personal life

Oh I see. You were talking about a phenomenon in which all kinds of people behave differently in different environments. I took your comment to mean something more personal, conscious, and intentional. Hence my question.

On hubski, commentators prefer to try to understand misunderstandings rather than accuse one another of being insincere, pretentious, and manipulative.





AlderaanDuran  ·  3788 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    commentators prefer to try to understand misunderstandings rather than accuse one another of being insincere, pretentious, and manipulative.

Someone should let Kleinb00 know...

lil  ·  3788 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I take kb's disagreements seriously and engage cautiously with an open heart (not that he needs me to defend him). ;-)

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elizabeth  ·  3787 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Not cool dude. What's with the hostility? I m pretty sure she was not looking to attack your statement but for you to explain how exactly do you act different in different circumstances. It might have been something interesting.

I never gave much thought to the differences in my behavior in different environments. I ll try to pay attention in the future, I m actually curious about what exactly do I do differently.

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elizabeth  ·  3785 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No, i just though you had something specific in mind when you said you acted different around other people. Of course I won't talk drugs with my parents but other stuff is more unconscious.

As an example, I noticed that when I speak french with my french friends, I have a French accent. When I speak with people from Quebec I have more of a Quebecois accent. They were always very separate areas of my life and i never noticed until I hung out in a more mixed group and started talking very weird.

I think you should give people the benefit of the doubt or account for misunderstandings (which I think is what happened here) before jumping to the conclusion we are either all idiots or attacking you.

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elizabeth  ·  3784 days ago  ·  link  ·  

:(

You`re mean. I really hope for your own sake it`s just your internet alter ego.

b_b  ·  3784 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Remember the old adage "Don't feed the trolls". Perhaps you've been off the site enough not to notice that this guy is just a troll trying to ruffle feathers. It's not you; he does it to everyone.

nowaypablo  ·  3784 days ago  ·  link  ·  

elizabeth I had this guy muted the day he made his account, don't take it personally. He's angry, confused and alone. If that wasn't clear enough the way he spoke to lil then you know for sure now.

Here's me wishing there was something more powerful than a mute button.

elizabeth  ·  3784 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah I figured. I m a bit out of the loop lately :p

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PeterC  ·  3784 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Dude...just. Damn. Are you even a real person? Elizabeth's so nice.

coffeesp00ns  ·  3788 days ago  ·  link  ·  

... dude, you're coming off as the "bad guy" here. lil is being completely legit and honest here. Attempting to understand one another and communicate IS how we like things to run here on Hubski.

Frankly, the "backhanded insult" (which was more of an observation of fact than an accusation) was more than a little deserved considering how you've acted - rather like someone who's been poked with a stick than someone whose reasoning has been questioned. If you can't justify the way you act in a cohesive way that others can understand, then maybe you should rethink why you act the way you do.

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coffeesp00ns  ·  3788 days ago  ·  link  ·  

you're only the bad guy if you choose to be. no title is foisted upon you without reason, and no stereotype can stick without reinforcement.

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PeterC  ·  3788 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Lil was being honest. Relax...